To think it was my curry?!

Are yo a free loader too?

You're genuinely saying that when you're deciding whether food ahould be shared, the quantity is irrelevant? You go through the same decision-making process for one slice of bread as you do for a loaf of bread?

That seems bizarre to me. If I have a small quantity of food, like a cream cracker, it wouldn't occur to me to offer to share it out.

It's the leftovers from your specific meal the night before, he had no right to it. This would have been even more obvious if the delay between eating the first half and the second half had been half an hour instead of 24 hours! Picture it:

You've all sat down with your food - you have only put half of your curry on your plate because you don't think you can eat that much. Everyone finishes eating, you're all chatting away, and you're still feeling a bit peckish... everyone else has eaten their whole curry... sod it, you're having the rest of yours! And as you put it on your plate, greedy guts pipes up "ooh, I didn't realise there was any curry left! "

He'd get some looks at the very least, wouldn't he?

Men in general Are greedy. I work with many....

This. The greedy, cheeky twat! I'd tell them all to fuck off out of my house tbh

i would no way play hostesss to 5 greedy men for 5 days and act as a 1950 house wife

your husband owes you big time , I’d be more concerned with what he is going to do to treat you when they leave ???

personally I’d have shared my curry to keep the peace and prevent and bad feeling and to be the nicest host but he was incredibly cheeky to ask . I am assuming you are all wealthy and this level of hosting expectation and experience is not only going to be reciprocated With the MEN doing the hosting. NOT their wives next time ???

shame on you for letting your husband treat you as a house maid

Well there were either other things on the table which were in short supply too, since it was a buffet of leftovers, or it would have been unwise to put out only one dish where there wasn't enough to share around.

So either way, the point you've missed remains not what the quantity was but the reservation of one tasty dish for one person only when it was a group buffet.

The point of what? Whether something should be shared between numerous people?

When you're considering whether something should be shared, the quantity is very salient. I'm surprised anyone would think otherwise! Very different suggesting sharing a loaf of bread between 4 to suggesting sharing one slice - do you disagree?

A good friend of ours stayed over recently as it was halfway on a very long journey and he wouldn't let me cook a thing. He ordered in and paid for meals both nights. I would have happily cooked but he was insistent 😊

They are CFs. Bin them off.

You were not out of line at all. He was! Plenty of food for him without your curry as well.

This scenario did strike me as something I would end up posting about. You’ve been so hospitable for several days, generous and done the bulk of the work, but despite that you end up worrying about whether you should have shared half a portion of your curry. I end up with these thoughts too - rather than being able to just think “cheeky git “ and move on!

I do hope they look after you well when you visit them.

Yes odd. Everyone had ordered different sides the previous evening and these were being shared out for the leftovers plate. So everyone was in the position that their ordered food was being shared out to make a nicer, more varied plate. I can't imagine keeping my part of the leftovers to myself in those circumstances. Otherwise why not just keep to giving individual leftovers to each person. I'd just share everything out between us. It sounds like the guests have been selfish and ungrateful but still think it's weird to just sit with one part of the leftovers then divvy up everything else for the rest of the group.

I think we'd have shared everything out in our house, but it was by rights your curry.

I actually hate sharing food, but if we get a takeaway we always do it! My dh would actually rather not get a takeaway than just order one meal and rice each 😒. Occasionally I order one on my own but it somehow isn't as fun... so there you go.

I like hearing other people's takeaway etiquette, so always love threads about them.

It was ALL her food in the first place.

Yes, it's very odd to have a group buffet and eat something set aside for yourself.

There are plenty of posts after the one you quoted by people who think the same, so I'm not that odd. In my day it would have been called "manners". Though of course these days individual feelings tend to trump those, as the rude behaviour of her guest who wanted a share of the curry shows.

He was just being an ungracious cheeky fucker. Ignore

This was my first thought as well. If I was doing leftovers with friends I'd have just put a bit of everything on the plates. Keeping one part of the loftivers to yourself is odd. It doesn't matter if the curry would have only been a small amount, it would have made the overall 'leftover' meal nicer for everyone to have that variation on their plate.

Having said that the DH friend sounds greedy and rude. Also, from the OP sounded like he wanted to take just the whole lot of leftover curry for himself. Selfish pig.

Im also amazed that the guests didn't pay for the takeaway. Have they paid for any meals when with you OP? We visited friends in France last month. We paid for every single meal we had out with them. They wouldn't be having those meals if it wasn't for us so that felt right, and to show our appreciation for their hospitality. I thought everyone did this.

if I were a.n.other guest or DH I would be saying in no uncertain terms to (first name last name), hands off @Lolabear38 curry! Did no one jump to your defence?

Odd to keep half (or less) of a curry? Odd to keep something that was her meal in thee first place?

You are the odd one to even think she should be sharing it out. Sounds like they had plenty of other food

That’s bad ! I can’t imagine not sharing all round equally!

im going to get slated by this. But yes I think it was very rude the way you handled the curry. Not saying it wasn’t yours, not saying you shouldn’t have been able to enjoy it. I just think you handled it wrong.

it would have been better if you said there was lots of leftovers for dinner to share, but as you didn’t eat your curry yesterday you would be eating that. Make it clear at the beginning.

he obviously assumed as it was mixed leftovers the curry was part of the offerings

"Well Dave if you wanted leftover curry tonight you shouldn't have eaten all of yours last night you greedy bastard"

CF.

@Lolabear38 I'll have a small bet with you that if you stay with them very little will be provided, there'll be mostly meals out and takeaways and you'll be expected to pay 🙄.

I don’t think I’d have served myself something that was out of bounds for everyone else. Not contributing for the rest of the stay is another matter.

I think I might have lost the plot at this stage. That friend is a rude tight arse and that would be the last time I would have him staying in my house…

Do these friends have any redeeming features?

I'd feel awkward eating it in front of everyone as leftovers are usually shared in our house, even if that means a spoon of whatever each. Not saying what you did was wrong, but I probably would have just shared it out of misinterpretation...he assumed all leftovers were being eaten.

Also, why have you martyred yourself for days? I'd be asking if they could scrape plates, empty dishwasher, whatever. Same as when I visit people, I do my bit!