To think it was my curry?!

Exactly. If he'd said, 'Could I have some please? It was amazing last night,' I'd feel differently, but he eyeballed her leftovers and claimed them for himself, and 100% he would have whined that it was 'only half a portion' so 'couldn't' be shared.

She wasn't holding back the nice food though. She bought the takeaway for them and they finished theirs the night before.
If I had been the guest I would have at least offered to pay for the takeaway to say thank you for hosting too.

This.

You are definitely being unreasonable.

Leftover curry is breakfast food.

He was very rude indeed to keep pushing for the curry when you had made yourself clear.

I would sort of understand him asking once if he did it nicely (not in the way he did - the way he did was rude “I’ll have that”) but if he’d say “oh can I have a bit of that curry”.

Once you’d said it was your leftovers he should have piped down and been grateful to get on with what he had already been given.

He obviously feels entitled to your cooking and hospitality.

Saying the “doesn’t share food” comment was breathtakingly rude of him, seeing as you’d shared your food and hospitality with him for several days. It was clearly intended to make you feel bad about eating your own curry. Clearly has no scruples about being aggressive - which is what this was - when he doesn’t get his own way.

Oh - and you know if you’d agreed to share, the majority would have gone on his plate faster than you could blink.

I would go war over it

All is fair in love and leftover curry, the is right they are fair game but you won it!

At the end of the day you got to eat it and that is what counts

The “I’ll have that” comment combined with the fact he demolished his whole portion of curry the previous evening makes me think he would have helped himself to the entire half portion, not a small share of it.

Right, a decision in which the quantity is relevant and dictates which option you pick. As I said.

(Can you freeze takeaway curry?)

It doesn’t matter what would be usual, as soon as you indicated that you wanted it / it was your leftovers, he should have totally conceded that it was yours.

Completely out of order for him to raise his eyebrows and comment TWICE, once assuming it would be shared and then about you.

Greedy, and very rude.

Agree it’s super weird they didn’t pay for the takeaway.

IMO if you are sharing ‘leftovers’ and the curry was leftover it was potentially fair game, but as soon as you said you were saving it for yourself he should have apologised and backed off.

You should have said “well I’ve been sharing with you for 5 days so that’s not really the case is it?” What a cheeky greedy fucker.

Or simply hand him a copy of the menu and say "If you want a lamb madras, feel free to order yourself one".

You weren't very clear, to be fair.
I mean, you literally said
when it came to dinner in the evening I said it was leftovers from the last couple of days and put out everything/ cooked up a few bits and pieces that needed eating
So he wasn't wrong imo to wonder why the curry wasn't in as part of the leftovers too, seeing as it's just that - leftover curry!
So I've voted YABU

Yes he's greedy & rude but i wouldn't want to have someone else's curry anyway after they'd probably put the fork they'd eaten off in it several times the day before

You don't like to share - apart from your house and all your cooking, for days on end. What a greedy little shit.

I would be honest and said something like "this is mine from last night; you've had your share", or "slow eaters often lose out when sharing food with people like you" ...to stop them ever visiting again🙃

The would-be curry thief sounds like a really annoying, pushy, mansplaining type - one of those people who thinks the sun shines out of his own arse. I wouldn't be inviting him again.

I understand why this might look like a sexist role thing, but don't think it's necessarily that.

I do all the running around when my DH's friends come. When my friends come over, my DH does the same for me. I find it preferable to being left making small talk with his friends while he runs around. When we both know the guests well we split things.

Agree he should be thanking OP, though.

This. Able to get a university degree but a ‘liability’ in the kitchen…? Strategic incompetence. Clever.

As for the guests - they’re taking you for a mug as much as your useless DH. You don’t have to invite them ever again but what are you going to do about a man who is happy to sit on his arse and let you be the good little domestic drone?

But sharing the curry to keep the peace and be the nicest host is behaving like a1950s housewife. Sod that.

I don't believe OP said that the side dishes from the curry were being shared out. I read it that they had all been eaten and only half the OP's curry was left.

I read it that the leftovers were from other meals that OP had made.

Sounds like one of them hasn’t matured past his uni student days. You were totally in the right not to share with him.

I wouldn’t be repeating this set up again.

Totally agree. Unbelievable they did not after five days of stuffing their faces with food and drink at op's expense.

If there wasn't enough to share at a group buffet there was an option to leave it in the fridge/freezer and eat it later.

Why the hell didn't your guests pay for the whole takeaway? Rude bastards. Do not invite them again. The comment that you "don't share food" after days of generosity is nauseatingly insulting.