To think it was my curry?!

After all the food, and hospitality, you’d paid for and shared with them over the past 5 days! I’d have told them what ungrateful bastards they are and told them to get their stuff & get out!

If the curry wouldn't have gone with the rest of the meal/there would only have been a small amount each I can't see the point in sharing it.

There was nothing to stop anyone ordering themselves food or popping to the shops(?) if they were coveting Op's leftover curry or didn't want the meal she was offering.

I would have shared all the food

but also if I was your guest would have paid for the takeaway for everyone

Well done for not pouring it over his head, if I had any balls, that's what I'd do.

That's what I would have wanted to do.

But not as much as I would have wanted to eat it in front of him.

Me too. If my son asked if he could try it then I’d say yes but other than rice, naan bread etc, the main course belongs to the person who chose it, in our family at least.

And also, other than my sons, I have no desire whatsoever to have somebody else’s leftovers 🤢

If I was there and OP said she was going to finish off her curry from last night I wouldn’t think that was odd at all. We’re all adults here surely, no one should be whining ‘but that’s not fair’ like a kid.

This type of shit is so deflating. As I get older and I experience the same behaviour from people who should definitely know better, i realise that almost everyone around me is disgustingly selfish.

Well done for not pouring it over his head, if I had any balls, that's what I'd do. YANBU

So I was right that it was not leftover indian side dishes being eaten but leftovers from other meals. So the left over curry would not have gone with the other items plus half a curry between all of them!

I think OP was absolutely right not to share it and can't believe any posters think otherwise

I think there are several arguments for the curry being shared or not being shared, but perhaps you would not have been so annoyed if you weren't already resentful at having put some much work and money into entertaining your guests. You might have laughed and said 'My curry, get your hands off' rather than worrying about the rights and wrongs of it.

I've learned on Mumsnet that people seem to be either one way or the other and either see takeaways like curries as something to share or not with no inbetween.

We don't share curries or takeaways in general except for large pizzas. If I've ordered a chicken tikka, I don't want a taste of anyone else's korma and they aren't getting any of my tikka either. 😂

You've had some strange replies on this thread, OP! 😆

In anyone's book your guest's behaviour was really rude and weird. Wasn't it spoken about the previous night, though, when they all finished theirs and you had some of yours left? "I'm so full, I think I'm going to save the rest of mine for my tea tomorrow night. "

Where has OP been a martyr?

I find it quite interesting that you have clarified that you are in your forties and have been with DH for a long time, your DH met them at University but you still refer to him/them as “DH friend(s)”. You were quite defensive when someone suggested that you didn’t like them, but it seems that you don’t like him/them enough after all these years to describe him as your friend.

This is significant because my take on the whole scenario is that you wouldn’t have felt as annoyed if the exchange had been with someone you actually liked. What’s the curry equivalent of a storm in a teacup- a storm in a balti dish?

For what it’s worth, in your shoes I’d have said very clearly “there are leftovers out for all of you, but I’m going to finish my curry from last night” rather than making my own separate food without explanation. Without the prior warning I don’t think it was unreasonable for the guest to ask for some, though also fair enough for you to refuse. I would have taken the “doesn’t share food” as a jokey Friends reference, nothing more. It’s a trope, it’s also in Gavin and Stacey specifically about curry and it’s meant affectionately.

and the correct retort to "Leftovers are all fair game’." should have been "too right mate and you have just lost"

He looked at me, raised his eyebrows and said ‘I guess Lola doesn’t share food, hey?’

I would have been so tempted to say “I guess Herbert has no manners, hey? After all we have done for you during your stay, you would begrudge me my leftovers from the other night!”

You know perfectly well that’s not what that poster is saying.

It was 100% your curry. No question.

He’s a greedy ingrate. No question.

Still, serving people something (or a range of somethings) and then serving up something else for yourself is a bit odd. Not massively so, and it’s not a big deal. I wouldn’t even go so far as to say YABU. But, I think people would find it unusual.

I didn’t mean to offend you, I just think it’s more normal (to me since you canvassed personal opinions) for the same meal to be offered to all guests and hosts as a group when eating together.

You sound like you went to a lot of effort and were a lovely host but, in response to your question, I think it is a bit strange to serve up one thing for everyone else and then eat something different yourself, especially when it’s not for legitimate dietary reasons and others have shown interest in what you’re eating.

Perosnally, I would have eaten the leftovers and saved the curry for another meal to have to myself

If you had shared your curries the day before I might have shared the leftovers. Did nobody even taste anyone else's? Actually, we were visiting family last week. Had takeaway curry one night, only one person left any (although some sharing/tasting happened) and we all accepted the leftovers were their lunch the next day. Also, I ask the person who ordered a curry if I would like to taste it.

Quite

I actually hide mine in the freezer so that DH cant snaffle it
@Lolabear38
I would have just replied "No not sharing this "
CF !

MN posters love the word cunt, except if it’s aimed at them 😏 Never in real life have I heard it uttered as much as I have on here 😁

I probably wouldn’t have made something different for myself than everyone else and heated it up and eaten it separately. It’s definitely your curry but I think an odd time to eat it if I’m being honest!

He should have said Lola has been sharing our food for the last 5 days.

I don’t know why you even need to ask op. Entitled, rude man no more or less.

Doesn't need to be a precedent

It's just good manners

And I wouldn't be too sure you won't have to pay your way if you stay with them