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I can't serve you, actually I will

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mumanger · 03/01/2026 18:57

I don't know if my mum rage is out of control but I went to Asda pizza counter and they were closing so I was told as soon as I joined the queue of 2 people that they were shut. They don't display time and the lights were on, so I was a bit annoyed.

I went to look at the premade pizzas, very annoyed but I didn't say anything to the lady. She then asked how many pizzas I wanted, I reminded her she was shut so why does it matter.

Aibu - either shut and be shut, or serve people?

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2026NewTricks · 03/01/2026 21:57

Nevernonono · 03/01/2026 21:54

What like the pre made pizza aisle in Asda?

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WilfredsPies · 03/01/2026 21:57

IngridBurger · 03/01/2026 21:07

I really don't like the pizza counter pizzas tbh. Cardboard crusts and shit cheese ime. Obviously home made is the way to go for pizza perfection but failing this I prefer the prepacked ones. What am I missing?

Asda pizzas are gorgeous. Loads better than Sainsbury’s.

Try a thick crust with extra cheese, tomato, onion and sweetcorn. It is so delicious. I mean, not worth having a tantrum over, but they are the best as far as supermarket pizza counters go.

Nevernonono · 03/01/2026 21:56

ViperHalliwell · 03/01/2026 21:54

How is this "mum rage"? Would a dad or a nonbinary parent or a childless person not have been confused/annoyed?

Probably not, I think the rage is specific to OP only!

Eenameenadeeka · 03/01/2026 21:56

Your rage is definitely out of control, she was trying to help you.

ViperHalliwell · 03/01/2026 21:54

How is this "mum rage"? Would a dad or a nonbinary parent or a childless person not have been confused/annoyed?

Nevernonono · 03/01/2026 21:54

2026NewTricks · 03/01/2026 21:45

Yes I did 😆

I agree with the OP. Stop wasting my time. Either you are shut or you are not. I’ve got places to be.

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What like the pre made pizza aisle in Asda?

BunnyLake · 03/01/2026 21:54

Bloozie · 03/01/2026 21:26

It’s definitely the mum rage.

Really, REALLY not reasonable to be this mad over pizza/perceived poor service.

Storming home, starting a thread on Mumsnet, fighting to the death with anyone who suggests you are being unreasonable…

It really is you, my love.

What’s mum rage?

WilfredsPies · 03/01/2026 21:52

2026NewTricks · 03/01/2026 21:45

Yes I did 😆

I agree with the OP. Stop wasting my time. Either you are shut or you are not. I’ve got places to be.

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And how is that working for you? Do you find that people tend to go out of their way to help you?

BanditSlashed · 03/01/2026 21:52

Oh my word if only this was the biggest issue in my life right now.
Read alllllll your posts on this thread. How much time and energy you have put into responding making yourself look even worse over a pizza?!

My God they were closed. She then had a thought maybe she will do it anyway since you're there, and probably full of attitude going by this. What more did you want.
She won't ever do it again for anyone thanks to you...

Just wow. Hope your year gets better OP you were dealt a rough hand this early in.

Evidemment · 03/01/2026 21:52

She wasn't asking how many pizzas you wanted just to have a chat - she was going to try and help.

OP and the handful of other posters who can't see how ludicrous OP's behaviour has been here -
Do you find you're often outraged by the general public and you often miss obvious social cues like this one?

This is a tough one to have managed to misread and shows either an inability to pick up on social cues (could be for any number of reasons of course but if you don't know this about yourself may be worth looking into) or just a predisposition to be miserable and assume the worst of people which is not a fun way to live.

Thalia31 · 03/01/2026 21:51

mumanger · 03/01/2026 19:07

I wasn't rude.

After telling someone you are shut then why ask them how many they want? To give them further disappointment? Either say "I'm sorry I can only do one pizza" or shut.

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Are you autistic?

WilfredsPies · 03/01/2026 21:50

gamerchick · 03/01/2026 19:56

You're joking. A man shoved me out of the way in there just before Christmas! Posh shops attract mean people.

OP I hope life gets better. It's common to fixate on minor irritations when you don't have a lot of control over the real problem. Just take it easy.

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I think she was making a joke about pizza crusts rather than the quality of customers 😁

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 03/01/2026 21:45

101Alsatians · 03/01/2026 19:06

Did anyone else get the pizza cutting slice ad on this thread?Did tickle me.

Yep, having a good giggle over here. Attached it for others.

As for OP, you have a problem with rigid thinking. If your tire was flat, you got to the mechanic’s and they were just locking the door… but then they saw you outside, shivering in pouring rain, so a lady working there re-opened the door to say they can help.
… and OP would say, “I reminded her she was shut so why does it matter.”

OP, are you normally this obtuse or rigid in your thinking? Yes, the pizza lady was trying to close on time, but decided to try to help you since nothing was wiped down yet. If you go through life reacting like this to things, you’re going to be disappointed and frustrated with everything.

I can't serve you, actually I will
2026NewTricks · 03/01/2026 21:45

101Alsatians · 03/01/2026 19:06

Did anyone else get the pizza cutting slice ad on this thread?Did tickle me.

Yes I did 😆

I agree with the OP. Stop wasting my time. Either you are shut or you are not. I’ve got places to be.

WilfredsPies · 03/01/2026 21:38

mumanger · 03/01/2026 19:18

No
She already said she was shut. So why then ask how many pizzas I wanted?

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Why are you finding this so hard to understand? She told you she was shut, and then obviously felt sorry for you so decided to help you if she had enough toppings left for the number of pizzas you wanted. But oh no, you decided to bite your nose off to spite your face, so I expect her next thought was ‘Fuck you then, have a ready made one and I hope it gives you indigestion’.

Also, if you’re telling a story from your point of view, and every single person is saying that you were in the wrong, at what point are you going to consider whether or not you could have handled things differently? You behaved like a rude child having a tantrum.

TheMerryJoker · 03/01/2026 21:38

mumanger · 03/01/2026 19:01

How is it kind? She told she straight away she wouldn't serve me. So I had to look for premade pizzas. So why then change? And it's "how many do you want" it wasn't "I can squeeze you in if you order just one". It was conditions.

because she was either then feeling bad and was trying to help, jesus mary whats wrong with people

Mummyneedsacoffee · 03/01/2026 21:37

Why post this? It’s a none issue. You are totally being unreasonable for arguing with EVERYONE on here. YOU are clearly in the wrong and VERY rude, own up, grow up and move on

vodkaredbullgirl · 03/01/2026 21:36

This thread is making me want pizza now 😂

Hello19834 · 03/01/2026 21:36

Christ what an attitude!

tilypu · 03/01/2026 21:28

I used to work in retail. I have been known to tell someone that my till is closed, then notice that they only have a handful of items and tell them I'll serve them anyway.

Maybe she donated what she was doing quicker than she thought, so she had a bit of time.

But with your attitude she won't worry too much about you not getting the pizza you wanted.

Bloozie · 03/01/2026 21:26

It’s definitely the mum rage.

Really, REALLY not reasonable to be this mad over pizza/perceived poor service.

Storming home, starting a thread on Mumsnet, fighting to the death with anyone who suggests you are being unreasonable…

It really is you, my love.

xanthomelana · 03/01/2026 21:25

In all fairness I’d say I was shut if I was five minutes into my shift if you rocked up at the counter with this attitude.

SunnyViper · 03/01/2026 21:24

Crazy way to respond. Be rigid and don’t get what you want or behave flexibly and possibly get a positive outcome. I know how I would act……..

Owly11 · 03/01/2026 21:23

Oh dear is everything in your world black and white?

Franjipanl8r · 03/01/2026 21:23

It’s not “mum rage”, it’s “petty rage”. There was nothing motherly about your actions.