Tell me your positive experiences on dating apps. I'm beginning to thinks it's all a con!

I met my husband on Tinder. I dated a lot from there (all Army officers, I fear I have A Type) but my husband was relatively normal compared to most of them.

We now have two children and live overseas. So it’s worked out for me. 🧿

A little different but I met my husband on a Muslim marriage app. I’m told by him and friends they can be just as bad as OLD. I did a paid subscription, he was my first match, we met 3 weeks later and we both just knew it was meant to be. He’d been on and off there for 5 years so I know I got lucky.

Depends on what counts as success. I’ve successfully met men and had a long term relationship. But it ended after 2 years and honestly he never wanted the serious LTR he made out he did. His profile also said he wanted kids and he was very much not bothered.

Glad it's not just me!

I met my dh on a dating site (paid) - I closed 648 complete non starters over about 4 months, and seriously thought I'd give up, then saw his profile and said out loud to myself, "now that's more like it!". We met up after a few weeks (I was divorced, he was widowed) and very quickly fell for each other. He's a sweetheart. I was late 40s, he was mid 50s when we met.

If you carry on OP, definitely thick skin and try to be v casual in your approach (easier said than done sometimes!). You can always come off the apps for a bit then think about trying again another time.

I married dh years before OLD was invented, but I do know a few people who have got married after meeting on-line (incl one of my dc). It does happen.

I met the man I’m seeing now just a few weeks into starting OLD. I was lucky, he was only my second date. I do think it’s just luck.

Really charming from your brother! 😄

I went in with no expectations. I had moved to London and wanted to meet people over the course of the summer. By the end of the summer, and multiple first/ second dates, I had had enough of the small talk and decided one more date - said date turned out to be DH. After the second date I knew he was the one. We met in 2012, got married in 2017 and 5 (!) dc later, here we are.

In terms of how, I didn’t bother with anyone who sent just a ‘hello’ or a copy and paste first message. Any short/ personal messages I responded to and went from there. I also met anyone I liked quickly - for me at least, there was no point spending months chatting online to meet in person and there be no spark.

Goodness Facebook dating! All I seemed to attract were men who looked like Fuckboys and sexualised messages. I lasted a week!

I’m a similar age and in my brief foray into OLD I was getting messages from men in their 70’s who resembled Dobbys older more wizened brother telling me age is just a number.

And far too many men my age looking for a nurse with a purse - I gave up pretty quickly

I'm with my lovely guy who I met on hinge 2 years ago after a year of being happily single.

I honestly think the short hair is a thing. When I was younger I had a pixie crop and got way more attention when older with longer hair... it's lame but it's facts.

don't give up, I do think they work but they can make you feel like dogshit so take breaks often and don't get invested too quickly. Fingers crossed for you.

What an awful brother

get a new one!

I met my lovely husband online but we actually already knew, and liked, each other in real life.

A friend had actually introduced me to him years before suggesting to me that he was the man I should marry!

I'll always answer a message, and I'll always be honest about what I'm looking for /not looking for. Have had some lovely dates, and a couple of more involved situations too. Generally a good experience, but I just dip in and out of it, not expecting much. Have met some rude people too, but most are OK. Profile photo has to be good (not with random, unexplained men in them, or it's mostly their dog, or they're pissed on a dancefloor.)

I’m 50 and my brother told me it’s unlikely I will find anyone now, I’ve been single for a long time.

Met my DP on Tinder 11 years ago, getting married this year. Try not to get too hung up on it, there was a lot of weeding to do!

All my friends have met their husbands online

• many of them said they were about to jack it in and gave it one last go when they met future DH

I've never used OLD but I have 3 friends who met their subsequent wife/husbands on there. To the best of my knowledge they are very happy.

I remember going on crappy dates or just not getting any replies. Did Match (including a date with a man who had just left the priesthood) and then pof. I was about to give up but decided to go on a date with a bloke I didnt think was my type, on the grounds that my type wasn't working out for me. We've been together for six years now, married with two children.

I set myself a time limit. Six months.

I went on a couple of dates with a lovely guy a week or two after joining, but I wasn't feeling it (really hope he's happy now though!).

Met my (now) husband on there just a few days later.

I think stick with the ones who sound like real people and want to talk. No stupid chat up lines and whatnot. Be brutal. You only want and need to hit gold once.

Good luck!

Met my husband on match 12 years ago I met some really lovely people and often wonder if they got their happy ending. There are some jaw dropping eye opening weirdos out there though for sure. I don’t think I could bother if it came to it again!

I was 33 and DP was 39 when we met on Hinge. We used it because we were just not meeting people in real life!

Had it a few weeks before we matched. We chatted in the app, met up, and the rest is history!

He was a massive breath of fresh air - really genuine and talkative, and we just got on. We have the same values, food tastes, have artistic interests (though not the same ones), and love walking. And most of all he’s a lovely, kind, wonderful man, and he actually likes me.

You have to be prepared to look past certain things though. For example, mumsnet will warn you off men without jobs or
homes (rightly so in many cases) but my DP was getting back on his feet (literally) after an injury and operation. He was rebuilding his life, so to speak. He has turned out to be incredibly hardworking so I’m fortunate!

We have a daughter, and split the parental leave 6 months each. He does the food shopping and cooks. He’s frugal and generous and loves the little things. He’s a total diamond.