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To think it's impossible to love your job? If you do love going to work, what job do you do?

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PuddingLane · 03/01/2026 14:35

I'm thinking of retraining to try to find a job I love, but wondering if maybe the grass is always greener and most people don't love their jobs and settling for something that's 'ok' and pays the bills is how it is for most people?

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whereisit1 · 04/01/2026 04:28

I love my job - school science technician. Have the holidays (unpaid), it's like the good bits of teaching and helping students without the stress. Fantastic team and boss. Can be a very high workload at times.
Drawbacks are definitely the abysmal pay and the inability to have leave during term time.

Myfluffyblanket · 04/01/2026 03:17

It took me a while to love what I did because I was always so caught up in keeping my own children safe.
I picked up on patients' family dynamics quickly and was sometimes able to intervene in ways that were subtle but entirely effective and frequently for the benefit of the unappreciated exhausted mother.
Oh, and the troubled teens. The so sad CAMHS children pouring their hearts out in the middle of the night, where we were safe in the dark.
It took even longer to realise that I had -and had always had- a bit of a gift for knowing the babies and children in my care were on the way to decompensating. It gave me time to call the team and gather equipment thereby turning a possible full-blown resuscitation (?) into 'a few minor tweaks and all's well'.
I'm not a boastful person, I'm really not...but it is nice to remind myself that I was once good at something important.
Rubbish pay though.
NHS PICU Nurse

TheMerryJoker · 04/01/2026 02:34

i did love mine, it was for a very good cause

Franjipanl8r · 04/01/2026 02:32

I work in a very interesting industry but it’s ruthlessly competitive and badly paid. There’s not much to love if you can’t pay your bills and are struggling for work! Sometimes it’s about getting a good life balance and being realistic rather than choosing a job you love.

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patooties · 04/01/2026 02:12

I work adjacent to politics- worked like a dog for years now working a day less a week, with a pa and an assistant for more than twice as much money. i definitely putin the hours though!

tartyflette · 04/01/2026 02:08

I used to really love my job, it was varied and interesting and I worked with very bright people, (who were mostly nice too) but as I climbed the greasy pole it became more and more pressured and the company changed too, becoming much harder-nosed and demanding.
We used to work a four day week, compressed hours, but management insisted we return to five days - same number of hours - they thought it 'looked better' to shareholders and was more efficient. It wasn't, at all, but it was the look that mattered.
It was well paid but I leapt at the chance of voluntary redundancy and an early pension when it was on offer.
I honestly haven't regretted it for a moment.
Editor, financial journalism.

Ioli · 04/01/2026 02:06

I'm a metalsmith, and love it. I love working alone, I enjoy the creativity and I love working with precious metals and gemstones. I'm a real tool-head and will always buy a new hammer rather than a new handbag Grin

There are a few downsides - the need to have a social media presence (mine is minimal, and I might just give up with it), and the market volatility with both silver and gold, to name two, but I genuinely love what I do.

boodlebeep · 04/01/2026 02:03

I love my job despite many who would
find it dull. I work in a customer focussed managerial role in home insurance.

I should add I returned to work after 17 years out as a SAHM and began again in an entry level position having never worked in the industry before. I am
lucky enough to work in a great company with a team of mixed ages (most decades younger) whom I love. I have progressed quickly into more senior roles which is rewarding. Definitely a benefit of maturity and life experience.

I think part of my love for my job comes from years of being Mum and wife, loved but a bit taken for granted. Work gives me huge gratification from knowing I make a difference to customers, team and department. It really has enriched my life far beyond my expectations of what was a hugely scary return.

FrazzledHippy · 04/01/2026 01:59

I was a chef in several restaurants for years, then a chef in a large care home then I moved on to run the kitchen and cook in a tiny care home with lots of interaction with the residents. I loved all my jobs and genuinely miss my last place. I still visit in my free time. I had to hang up my whites because of a degenerative health condition sadly.

Now I sell Pokémon cards for a living and I love that too. I guess I'm just lucky!

KidsDr · 04/01/2026 01:59

I have confusing and mixed feelings about my job. I do enjoy it, and even love it a lot. It can be so rewarding. And being completely honest, it's an ego boost.

Sometimes though the responsibility is crushing, and I feel extremely inadequate. It is also hard work, and draining. I would also say that it has traumatised me.

But it's also sort of made me who I am. It's a part of who I am. I find it difficult to imagine doing anything else for work. I'm not sure I'm cut out for a lot of other jobs. I'm not good at sitting still, I get bored and lonely very easily, and I procrastinate terribly. A constant stream of fairly immediate people-focused tasks/problems suits me very well.

Newnamehiwhodis · 04/01/2026 01:57

I love my job. I work in a library. That having been said, I echo what others have mentioned - a lot of it is dependent on one’s team, the company echoing one’s own values.
my first library was extremely stressful (very high paced, and heavy on the social work which i don’t feel I have an aptitude for.) but my team and manager were wonderful.
I moved to a different library in order to lower the stress, and my stress did go away, but my manager is a bully, to the point where I am out on sick leave and don’t want to return to that library… hoping to find a transfer before I have to go back.

there’s nothing worse than spending a good chunk of one’s life being undermined and bullied. :(

so yes, it’s possible to love a job, and at the same time, even the most lovely environment can be ruined by one bullying personality.

LucyLoo1972 · 04/01/2026 01:53

Buscake · 03/01/2026 14:47

I genuinely love my job and am so grateful for it but also I recognise from the outside it’s nothing special! I manage a statutory service for a local authority. Sounds so boring but it absolutely fills me up - the service makes a difference to peoples lives in such a meaningful way. It was never my career aspiration, I fell into it, but I was made for it and it was made for me. Won’t be forever but right now it’s perfect despite a monstrous commute (2.5hrs drive each way). I am so motivated in it.

Yikes. The commute is insane, 5 hours everyday? Does that not like you?

HRTQueen · 04/01/2026 01:43

I love my job I work as a manger in forensic mh it’s rehabilitating our residents back into society

It’s certainly challenging at times and also very rewarding

I do not like that over the past few years more and more work has been added this is mainly administrative

and the pay is rubbish for what I do

interesting to read pp who work in hospices saying how much they love their jobs. Years ago I did some training in a hospice and I have never met/worked with such a positive team not just the medical staff but everyone there. I know a number had relatives that has died at the hospice and they wanted to give something back some voluntary. It really felt people felt honoured to work there (I feel emotional thinking about it I was so moved by the whole experience of working there)

Alconleigh · 04/01/2026 01:36

I love my job, but as PP have correctly said I don’t love every minute of it. In fact there’s an awful lot of stuff that pisses me right off. But I’m head of operations for an SME which I was in on the ground floor for, and there’s now 100 of us. I’m a fairly major shareholder and my hope is we can sell up soon enough that I can pay off my mortgage, stop commuting and corporate balls and then take a lower paying job doing something else that interests me. So….do I love it or do I love what I hope it will bring me? Bit of both

PhoenixRisingHigher · 04/01/2026 01:33

”things I once enjoyed….. just keep me employed now”

”things I’m longing for… one day I’ll be bored of”

make me think of these lyrics by Billie eilish

PhoenixRisingHigher · 04/01/2026 01:31

As soon as you monetise the thing you love it kills it somehow

pinkgown · 04/01/2026 01:31

I loved my job but I was a nuclear physicist so it would take a while to train for if you are not a scientist.

Leapintothelightning · 04/01/2026 01:25

I work in a nursery and love most aspects of my job. Don’t love how low paid it is but I’d much rather do this than be miserable in a higher paid office job!

overthinkersanonnymus · 04/01/2026 01:24

Armychef30 · 03/01/2026 23:51

I'm a youth support worker and do 24 hour shifts in a 1-1 in their home. I help to support their transition intion leaving care, showing them life skills, cooking , budgeting and support them when they are struggling emotionally, it can be emotionally draining if a young person is having a bad day but they rely on us to give them that support. I used to be a chef 20 plus year previous to that but I have found my purpose and wouldn't change it. It also means I can do 2 shifts a week and can have 5 full days home and spend a good chunk of time with family and socialize which is also important to me.

That sounds amazing. Where do you sleep when you’re on shift?

overthinkersanonnymus · 04/01/2026 01:22

I think a big part of liking your job, is being very good at it, what ever it may be.

Im shite at my job because i don’t care about it at all (not that i want to be unemployed, but the industry is so boring), so I just trundle through the days which is rather depressing.

Booksandsport · 04/01/2026 01:16

Public sector role and same area as I have always worked in, but currently I have a great team, great boss and two peers within office who are also great so the whole 3 teams work well together. While my commute is getting worse with traffic, I have never been happier.
But I am well aware to enjoy it as I know that when my team, boss or peers change, there could be an awkward or lazy replacement and it would change.

DetectiveDouche · 04/01/2026 00:33

I love my job. I am an administrative co-ordinator for a centre which offers assessment, therapies and research involvement opportunities to people with Parkinson's disease. We operate as part of a University because our type of service is new and heavily entrenched in the research side of things.

I was involved from the outset (in 2023) so although my job is administrative, I work alongside management and have quite a lot of involvement in how we run and are evolving. My role is quite expansive and involves working on and managing the Reception desk (therefore I know all the members well) as well as other as administrative elements and some PR stuff.

I work with a great team with excellent bosses, who are all engaged and enthusiastic about what we are doing for the local Parkinson's community and beyond and the members are great - many are very inspiring and many just need our help so it's a privilege to be able to do that.

It wouldn't suits the majority of Mners however I fear, as I am in my 50s and earning less than 30k which will probably my scandalise most of you from what I read. I know from experience however that I'd rather be happier at work and earning less than the reverse.

SkaterGrrrrl · 04/01/2026 00:22

I love my job. Voluntary sector. I feel like I make things better in my little patch. Pay is crap though - you cut your cloth.

PuddingLane · 04/01/2026 00:20

So lovely hearing how many people enjoy their jobs! Food for thought for me 🙂 Thanks for all the replies!

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