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...To Think There Is Male Shopping Brain...?

81 replies

AlteFrau · 03/01/2026 09:13

Spouse said he'd do the shoppipng we needed yesterday, to stock up after the holiday break.

He went to the local High Street a few minutes away, and spent an hour shopping. On his return he said he'd been to two supermarkets, the two Asian run grocery shops and the chemists.

What he came back with
400 g cumin seed
1 jar mango pickle
4 bottles beer
2 toothbrush heads in contrasting colours - because the old ones were the same colour
Fancy little tomatoes
Sliced white sourdough

What he didn't get
Butter
Bananas
Frozen Peas
Bacon
Cheese
Milk

Thoughts?

OP posts:
ErrolTheDragon · 03/01/2026 09:24

Bluebluedoor · 03/01/2026 09:16

No. That's called strategic incompetence. Don't fall for it, he needs to go back and do the job properly.

Yeah.

mine retired before me and took over all the grocery shopping - part of it was covid when we were couldn’t get supermarket deliveries and didn’t want to go in person, he was great at finding local suppliers for basics, online for fancier stuff.
He’ll ask me if there’s anything I specifically want, eg he might not notice if we’ve run out of the chutney I prefer but we only make a list if we’ve got someone visiting or if we’re trying a new recipe. Same as I would.

PrincessOfPreschool · 03/01/2026 09:22

I thought this referred to clothes or Christmas shopping. My DS2 and DH have an issue where shopping is 'boring' and they want to go home almost immediately BUT if the trip is to buy them, say, a coat or trousers, they miraculously don't get bored at all - and in fact spend way way longer than I ever would.

Bluebluedoor · 03/01/2026 09:16

No. That's called strategic incompetence. Don't fall for it, he needs to go back and do the job properly.

UniquePinkSwan · 03/01/2026 09:16

Just yours. My DH does all the shopping

PersephoneParlormaid · 03/01/2026 09:16

Sounds like mine, can only buy what he’s cooking for tea plus his bottle of wine. Never thinks of the basics like milk and bread

Didimum · 03/01/2026 09:15

No, just ‘your spouse’s shopping brain’. My DH sorts the household shopping every week.