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AIBU to think we can’t profoundly change ourselves after middle age?

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wildfellhall · 03/01/2026 01:03

Or to think it is impossible for most of us to really change our behaviour in later life ? And how do those who do so pull it off?

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Devilsmommy · 03/01/2026 01:52

IDontHateRainbows · 03/01/2026 01:48

Mine too.

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I'm gonna guess we're not the only ones😂

IDontHateRainbows · 03/01/2026 01:48

Devilsmommy · 03/01/2026 01:29

I think you can. My dad turned from a happy jokey bloke to a full on grumpy bastard so surely it's not impossible 🤣

Mine too.

NoraLuka · 03/01/2026 01:44

I think you can if you want to. I made a decision at 40 to stop being so afraid of trying stuff. I didn’t change overnight but over the past few years I started a new hobby, joined two sports clubs, including football after a lifetime thinking I hated team sports (thank you, school PE!) and also got my motorcycle licence. Not sure if it’s a midlife crisis type situation or what, but I’m definitely happier living like this!

Devilsmommy · 03/01/2026 01:29

I think you can. My dad turned from a happy jokey bloke to a full on grumpy bastard so surely it's not impossible 🤣

Cageauxfolles · 03/01/2026 01:21

My mother became the most fantastic confident woman in her 50s - I think through some quiet epiphanies and circumstance. She also started running in her 60s. I adore and admire her so much.

Meadowfinch · 03/01/2026 01:11

I'm not sure that's true. It depends what you mean by middle age.

At 48, after not owning a pair of trainers since school, I took up running and have run regularly for 14 years.
And I changed my diet significantly three years ago to mainly plant based.