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Stop telling me to watch The bloody Traitors!

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dreamiesformolly · 02/01/2026 20:41

Obviously not a particularly serious thread, just feeling a bit grouchy about this as it's happened a number of times just this week. I'm really not interested in watching it and people keep assuming I am, trying to discuss it with me and then acting like it's the most astonishing thing in the world that I'm not and going on to try to persuade me that I simply must watch it. What the flip is it about this programme that everyone's getting so excited about?

(Usual disclaimers apply: everyone has different viewing tastes, live and let live, yadda yadda. I'm just so bored of being told I MUST watch it! 🙄)

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Lolalady · Today 20:14

It’s the same with Strictly - people go on and on about it and look amazed when I say I don’t watch it. I don’t watch The Traitors either.

dreamiesformolly · 04/01/2026 16:47

Brianthepug · 04/01/2026 13:33

I don't watch much reality TV, but I do love Traitors. After a hard and stressfull day at work, listening to people's problems, I like a bit of escapism. Some people watch soaps, they aren't my thing. I don't tell people what they should watch, but there is the opposite end of the scale when people get sniffy over other people's TV choices and " I don't watch that rubbish"...🙄

I agree. Some of the crap I watch, I'm in no position to judge other people's viewing choices. 😆

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Brianthepug · 04/01/2026 13:33

I don't watch much reality TV, but I do love Traitors. After a hard and stressfull day at work, listening to people's problems, I like a bit of escapism. Some people watch soaps, they aren't my thing. I don't tell people what they should watch, but there is the opposite end of the scale when people get sniffy over other people's TV choices and " I don't watch that rubbish"...🙄

singthing · 04/01/2026 13:27

The type of show it is doesn't interest me for a start, but more than that, I cannot stand Claudia Winkleman at all. Just seeing her face gets on my nerves* so I am never going to watch anything she is in.

(*I expect she is truly distraught about my opinion)

FolioQuarto · 04/01/2026 13:23

This annoys me too. Especially conversations like this:

"Did you see Traitors/Strictly/Big Brother/the Queen's funeral yesterday?"

"No, I don't have a television, I don't see anything."

The person then tries to tell me all about it, probably feeling pity that I am missing out. If I was interested and wanted to spend my time watching TV I would buy a telly and a licence. Not sure why that isn't abundantly clear 🤷

dreamiesformolly · 04/01/2026 13:07

Anna1mac · 04/01/2026 12:31

It's an affectionate way of describing programmes you watch under the TV licence. Some of us are old and cannot remember if we saw something on channel 4 or ITV or on one of the BBC channels. Widely used in my part of the world, and not rude at all. Disney plus, Netflix, Prime, Paramount, Apple TV and "cooncil telly". .. are all valid answers when someone asks you where you've seen a film you're raving about, for example. ...
You're welcome.

I never knew that was what it meant! I'm oldish myself though, so IKWYM. 😄

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Anna1mac · 04/01/2026 12:31

ilovesooty · 02/01/2026 22:35

"the council telly"?

Rude.

It's an affectionate way of describing programmes you watch under the TV licence. Some of us are old and cannot remember if we saw something on channel 4 or ITV or on one of the BBC channels. Widely used in my part of the world, and not rude at all. Disney plus, Netflix, Prime, Paramount, Apple TV and "cooncil telly". .. are all valid answers when someone asks you where you've seen a film you're raving about, for example. ...
You're welcome.

TheeNotoriousPIG · 03/01/2026 16:09

I'm another one without a TV licence, and no, I won't be buying one at any point in the near future... mainly because I've never really been into watching TV. Nor do I have Netflix at the moment, so that cancels out anything on there, too! Poor me 😁

If you love it, that's fine, and I'll listen to you waffling on about it. It's just that I'm as unlikely to watch it as you are to take up aerial silks!

Possibly controversially, I find Alan Carr "a bit much". I thought the same about Jeremy Clarkson, due to over-exposure to Top Gear, until he started up Clarkson's Farm. He was quite bearable after that!

ohyesido · 03/01/2026 15:40

I feel the same about Love Island and TOWIE. How anyone can think that these shows are real and not scripted is beyond me

the traitors is all right as light entertainment but the contestants take themselves way too seriously. Tears and tantrums when they know the rules and they aren’t actually being accused of murder (or murdered, as Paloma Faith seemed to forget!)

TrackerBar · 03/01/2026 12:44

You MUST watch Barry….

Lemonade2011 · 03/01/2026 12:39

I’ve no interest either my mum keeps going on about it and a few other crappy programmes they watch, I don’t watch a lot of tv so certainly won’t be tuning in to anything like that. I don’t know why she keeps going on about it when I’ve said multiple times I’m not interested if you like it super but I don’t like people insisting I’ll like something when I really won’t and don’t want to watch

Cheeseandonioncrispswithmytea · 03/01/2026 12:35

Am autistic and this program is abdolute hell for me.

I spend my life trying to read people - work out if they are being literal, sarcastic, funny or genuine… read the social cues - learn the rules of society to fit in… it’s exhausting and hard work.

here is a show designed to confuse the hell out of you as everyone is pretending to be something they are not or second guessing people who are genuine.

absolutely can’t stand it - not for me . Totally confuses me and I really dislike it.

my oh loves it

each to their own…

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 03/01/2026 12:25

I’ve no interest in Traitors and Love Island/MAFS are my idea of TV hell.

But, I’m definitely not cool. I love to watch old episodes of Midsomer, Poirot or Marple.

usedtobeaylis · 03/01/2026 12:14

grumpygrape · 03/01/2026 09:37

I got bored with people telling me I had to watch Game of Thrones because I like Lord of the Rings... No, it is possible to enjoy one and not the other.

It would be more tolerable if people could mention what it's about if you ask, any given programme, and leave you alone otherwise. My colleagues all watch a fair bit of reality TV so when they start talking about it I am literally head down, get on with my work and disengage from the conversation, because I never watch any of the shows they mention, and they know that at this point. So why they started telling me to watch The Traitors I don't know. Talk to the other people who are watching it, no need to try to connect with me over something you know I don't watch!

For people to then make out that those who are saying they have no interest in watching are somehow making it a badge of honour is ridiculous. We would have nothing to say about it at all if you stopped bugging us about it.

Kingscallops · 03/01/2026 12:05

The Masked Singer/Dancer is also on my list of popular garbage that I can't join in on.

WongKarWaiMe · 03/01/2026 10:15

I get you. I just don’t enjoy reality tv or any kind and there’s so much other TV out there that I would prefer that I don’t see the point even trying it, but people either act like I’m a snob (I’m not and I have many guilty pleasures) or that I’m a complete weirdo, just because I haven’t seen the bloody Traitors.

I don’t get all offended at people who’ve never watched Twin Peaks or Buffy! We’re all different and we all like different things, why is that so hard for some people to understand?

dreamiesformolly · 03/01/2026 10:11

newornotnew · 03/01/2026 08:43

What the flip is it about this programme that everyone's getting so excited about? If you watched the first episode, you'd understand the show, then could decide if you want to watch it or not.

People enjoy sharing conversations about popular TV shows, it's a connection point.

But, as I said to a pp upthread, I'm not complaining about people sharing re TV shows. I do that myself with programmes I like. It's the whole 'What do you mean, you don't watch Traitors? How can you not watch Traitors? You must watch Traitors!' business that's irritating me. (Ditto Bake-Off, I'm a Celebrity, etc etc.)

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grumpygrape · 03/01/2026 09:37

usedtobeaylis · 02/01/2026 23:05

I'm with you OP. I've been told I need to watch it and that I would love it and when I looked it up I was a bit baffled. I rarely watch TV and I don't watch this kind of TV because I... don't like it. I don't enjoy it. I'm not opposed to it existing or to other people enjoying it, just stop trying to beat me over the head with it. I didn't harass them when they didn't watch Game of Thrones!

I got bored with people telling me I had to watch Game of Thrones because I like Lord of the Rings... No, it is possible to enjoy one and not the other.

Twirlyhockey · 03/01/2026 09:29

ilovesooty · 02/01/2026 22:35

"the council telly"?

Rude.

I find "council telly" quite funny but also dark, the same way I do "council pop" for the fresh, clean, guaranteed not full of shit water that comes out of our taps reliably, not for free, but for pennies compared to any other water.

It's all fun and games with netflix and co, until there's no truth any more, we will remember fondly that ol' cheap state broadcaster we used to have, with internal checks and balances and Reithian values.

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 03/01/2026 08:56

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 02/01/2026 22:32

These threads appear every time a new series starts, filled with people who are falling over themselves to tell us all just how cool and uninterested they are in the Traitors and competing to be the least interested "I don't watch TV", "well I don't have a TV", "well I don't even have eyes" etc.

Traitors is great. No one actually cares if you aren't watching it, it's just fun to discuss it with other people that are.

Exactly this. And most people couldn’t care less if you actually watch it, they’re just trying to make conversation or alas, be inclusive.

Freysimo · 03/01/2026 08:51

EmeraldRoulette · 02/01/2026 20:45

I also don't have a TV license and don't do live TV

But I don't think I'd watch this anyway. It's actually a bit too real world scary for me. I mean all the psychological tactics and everything. It's based on that werewolves game is it? I don't know - things like that and squid game - just no. I seem to have reached the stage of life where I want comforting TV. Or maybe it's just the contrast from real world stuff.

I am currently watching "mid century modern" and I can't believe it got cancelled! That is exactly the kind of TV we need. Just silly and happy.

Although I think there's a new season of Emily in Paris is there? So that will be next for me if it's out.

Emily in Paris/Rome is already on Netflix. My guilty pleasure, although I can't stand Mindy!

bumphousebump · 03/01/2026 08:47

It’s pretty underwhelming to be honest, the scenery is nice. I watched the first series where they didn’t know what was happening and the participants seemed less annoying.

X123x321X · 03/01/2026 08:45

I watched it once because it wasn't convenient to switch channel. I thought it was pointless. I felt the same with Big Brother 25 years ago.

newornotnew · 03/01/2026 08:43

What the flip is it about this programme that everyone's getting so excited about? If you watched the first episode, you'd understand the show, then could decide if you want to watch it or not.

People enjoy sharing conversations about popular TV shows, it's a connection point.

minuette1 · 03/01/2026 08:38

I've never watched any of these type of gameshows, I don't know how people find the time - there is so much more interesting stuff to watch on AppleTV/Disney+ etc that I wish I had time for!

But lots of people do really get into them and get excited for new series so they must strike a chord with the majority of people, so I guess OP, they assume you are also one of the sheep!