Who is unreasonable, me or DH?

You have 3 DDs but you only feel this way about this DD. It’s worth working out why because it doesn’t sound healthy. And I wonder it DH insisting is his worry coming out.

I this this is problematic, OP. I’m not saying force yourself to go (though I actually think you should), but indeed it’s not terribly healthy. I understand a night away - though I had a night away when my twins were 3 months old (everyone is different) but an evening show at 6m? I think high anxiety over that is a problem.

In response to your question about whether or not most Mums will have spent more than an hour away from their 6 month old. I had three children very close in age and left them with my parents for a week when the youngest was 5 months old. So my husband and I could go on holiday together. The children had a lovely time with their grandparents and were perfectly happy. I was a SAHM for 10 years so they had plenty of time with me and I was very devoted to them. But I had no problem leaving them with my husband or parents if I needed to go to an appointment, see friends or go on date nights.

The way you write about it doesn’t seem healthy. Does your DH get any 121 bonding time with the baby? Does he want to?
Do you spend any 121 time with your other children? Do they get your time and attention?

YABU. It’s perfectly normal to miss your DC when you’re away from them, and 5 hours is a long time. But it sounds like your DH is more than capable of caring for your child, so what good reason do you have for not having some time for yourself? You might even enjoy yourself.

Yes, it’s normal to have an hour away from a 7month old, let alone one who will be with a parent.

Yes, it is normal for most mothers to be away from their baby at 6 or 7 months. It's borderline abnormal to have never been away from her for more than an hour.

Leave her with her dad for an afternoon. She'll be perfectly fine and so will you.

The OPs other children don't matter? Her 7 month old doesn't matter and her husband doesn't matter? Just the OP? I can't believe anyone could be so quick to dismiss the needs of everyone else in this situation so readily.

So much for it takes a village.

Who don’t matter? Her older kids and her husband?

It’s not the norm in the UK. Most mums would be taking a few hours to themselves at least quite frequently.
It’s a choice to be a baby wearer - and there are advocates for this choice , personally I think by now baby should be getting plenty of independent time to play and explore surroundings .

They don’t matter. The baby is 7 months old, so small, if the child was 7 years old then I would think differently.
right now she needs to follow her instincts and do what feels right.

Its unhealth for you. For the child. For your other child. For your husband.
This is all about you.
You need to stop this.

Lots of people seem to be projecting their own experiences here, OP, and I’d take some of these comments with a pinch of salt. I felt the same distress at the prospect of being apart from my third baby, and similarly was encouraged to go out and take trips away from him. It felt absolutely horrible when I did, and he didn’t sleep away from me either.

He’s 14 now and we have a completely normal non-symbiotic relationship.

This seems very combative. You're basically saying only the OPs opinions matter.

What about this child's father's opinions?

Her youngest daughters opinions as she grows?

Or perhaps most crucially her other children who never get 1-1 time with their own mother?

Saying they don't matter as much is ridiculous.

If she is with her Dad she will enjoy some special time with him. It will enrich her little life. You could probably do with the rest but might not even realise it.x

Do what feels right FOR YOU, don’t go against your body and your instincts. Fuck everyone else.

When do your older DD’s get to be your world? I can’t imagine it’s been very nice for them being sidelined and unable to spend any time with you that you aren’t centring the baby.

Same here. I would have LOVED for my DH to encourage me to leave the baby for a few hours however it would never have been for as long as 5 purely for boob-related reasons.

And how old are your other DDs?

They're going to get jealous and feel pushed put by baby DD if they notice you devoting all your attention to her

It's not healthy tbh to deny your entire life to hold her

You're also denying your DH chance to bond with his DD

I don't think your oh is unreasonable for thinking you should go, forcing is another thing altogether though. It should be your decision.

Yabu but not intentionally. I think DH is worried about you and trying to help.

This sounds extremely unhealthy. 20 years ago we all had to go back to work when our DCs were 6 months old.

This all sounds rather unhealthy to be honest. It's wonderful that you want to spend time with your child, but what about Dad, when does he get to spend time with your daughter? You have another child too, so where is this child, whilst you are focusing on your daughter??? Is your husband spending all his time with your eldest??? You have TWO children, not one, so you have to make sure both your children are getting time with you and your husband.

I'd booked a concert before I found out I was pregnant, so my son was 6 weeks old, and I went to a concert in my hometown with my husband. I was breastfeeding as well! You need to start leaving your daughter and your other child with your husband, even if it's just for an hour, to start with.

Your husband needs to bond with his daughter, and also he needs to be able to cope with both children on his own.

I didn't go out a lot when my son was very young, but I did go out for a few hours and leave him in the care of his Dad. You are not just a Mum or a wife, you are your own person, not an extension of your children. Having adult time is healthy. Having time to yourself is healthy. Spending time with your husband, just the two of you is healthy.

It’s completely up to you. Neither of you are unreasonable in my opinion, he is more so for making out your bond is pathological and abnormal. My littlest is nearly three and the longest I have been away from her is once, for three hours. But I left her with her Dad so even though I missed her, he’s the person I trust most apart from myself.

At 7mo, I couldn’t have left for five hours, but someone doing so is also absolutely fine to me, I’m just saying I wouldn’t.

It’s up to you. I find it bizarre that someone assumed you’d want a theatre ticket with a young baby.

Yes it is normal. I personally didn’t really with my second. I was with her a lot more and didn’t feel the need to leave her. But I wasn’t terrified to do so and would have been able to enjoy a night at a show.
In the kindest possible way, you may be suffering with some postpartum anxiety that needs addressing?