My son is yet to wish me a happy new year

Last year neither of my daughter's called/texted/whatsapped re Mothering Sunday. I was ridiculously upset

You sound like the stalker mother from hell.

ClaxonRazon , I don't think you sound 'needy and desperate' at all. You're his Mum and always will be. You would normally expect hime to reply and he hasn't so you're naturally upset .
Nevertheless, I think you know he's safe, so no need to be worried.
It's quite understandable that you're upset.

I'm late-40s, I don't wish HNY to anyone (except if I'm meeting them in person and they say it). I don't ring or text anyone. I visited my DP on NYD and he didn't even realise it was NYD he just thought it was Thursday. I've never really understood why people treat New Year as a big thing though

I think most of us get abd send a multitude of ‘happy new year’ texts via group chats or group messaging etc.

it’s just what you do - a mass mailing to your contacts .

frankly I don’t notice and don’t care who I get a response from as it’s hardly an intimate message. It’s a quick mass greeting!

really think you are overthinking this.

If this isnt a troll post you are the type of parent who wonders why her adult youngsters have gone LC/NC

I can't believe you embarrassed yourself so much by even posting this. Where in the world did you think this was an issue.

I've 4 grown youngsters who I have good relationships with, who have families of there own.

I even before they were married wouldn't have expected a Happy New Year message 🙄🙄🙄

Mine hasn't either. I assume he's been busy.

For many people, texts like that don’t require a response - they’re nice to read but don’t need an acknowledgement as such - like a Christmas card.

You are coming across as much too needy. You know that your son is OK so leave him alone. Not everyone thinks that wishing people a happy NewYear is as important or meaningful as you apparently do. YABVU.

My son moved out a couple of weeks ago. I messaged him along with other family and friends just after midnight on New Year, wishing him a happy new year. He finally got back to me at 10 last night. I must admit I was like you and felt a pang of disappointment he didn’t respond over the New Year, but I’m still learning to let go! It’s hard, and I’m trying to get a mindset of he’s flown the nest as it were, and that I have to understand that he has his life and isn’t going to respond always to me on demand.

I’m 56 and my sons are 23 & 25. It’s not the HNY text in itself- I just think if you get any text with well wishes, even just ‘love you’/‘thinking of you’ type things it’s a bit rude and thoughtless not to reply at all.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if my son or daughter didn't say happy new year.

I don’t know how old your sons are, but I don’t know anyone my age who sends HNY texts anymore. I see them as something of my parents’ generation and a bit old-fashioned, really.

I totally get this. I have a good relationship with my 2 adult sons (both independent and in their 20s) and sent them both HNY texts just after midnight. As they were both at parties with friends I wasn’t expecting an instant reply but the younger one did reply almost immediately (clearly quite drunk!).
The older one still hasn’t replied. I’m not worried as I know he had plans to spend a few days with his girlfriend in her home country (Europe) so I’d certainly know if something had gone wrong. But I do feel a bit hurt that one of the 3 people I love most in the world can’t be bothered to spend a minute replying to a message. It just feels a bit uncaring.

Why?

I would imagine he see it during the early hours so didn't want to disturb you and thought il send a msg tomorrow but forgot as hes on holiday

I was working from 11pm - 5am (in a job where I'm not allowed to use my phone) so was a reasonable human being and didn't text anyone happy new year until I woke up at 2pm.

I don’t think I’ve wished anyone a happy new year! Is it mandatory?

Do you know how easy it is, especially when out and about distracted, to open a message and not reply right away then forget because it doesn't show s an unread message?

I'd have trouble being this upset about this.

I think in light of recent fire I would be worried too ( only read first page he has probably surfaced now)

I was keen to go to sleep so didn’t want to wait up in case he called.

Why would your adult son call you on new years in the early hours? This is a smart phone problem. Before smart phones no one would expect their adult son to call them whilst on holiday, they’d just wait until they were back and catch up then.

You’ve lived an independent life without the intrusion of WhatsApp, cut your adult son some slack and let him do the same.

I ain't wished any family hny, I've been working both new years eve and day . Nobody wished me either. It doesn't bother me , its just another year, nothing special.

@Florence19 that is super needy and clingy, and well add a touch of emotional blackmail. I like to think my kids want to reach out to me on NYE if we're not in the same place but if they don't that's fine, I don't expect to be at the forefront of their minds.

I like to think I’m not particularly needy as a parent

If this is your idea of not needy, I’d had to see what you think ‘needy’ looks like.

he is independent

I should fucking hope so, given that he’s 27.

Just be happy your son is enjoying life!

He spent Christmas with you so feels he’s ticked the ‘mum’ box until at least after his holiday!

It might be upsetting to you, but don’t mention your upset to him when he gets back as you’ll start to dampen your relationship for ‘no-good’ reason. Move on and look forward to hearing about his holiday.