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DH told me “there’s no point in crying” after seizure

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Likelysmike · 01/01/2026 23:02

I’ve had repeated seizures over the last 2 weeks. I’ve never had them before and I’m frightened.

i was in hospital for 2 days just before Christmas but wanted to go and see my mum on Christmas Eve. When I got there I was crying and he said “what’s the point in crying?” In front of my family.

I had another seizure Christmas Day and he told me that I just needed fresh air and to eat something and that I needed to “want” to get well

Had a further seizure 29th December and was in A&E. I was sitting there sobbing whilst he was on his phone. When he saw me he said “what are you crying for?” When I said I didn’t feel well he said “there’s no point in crying” and “stay positive”

hes just said his “life has been on pause for 2 weeks because of your illness”. Then he was saying he’s not allowed to be tired or complain about his cold because my seizures “are the main talking point”. He said “the world doesn’t stop because you might have epilepsy”

aibu to reconsider my marriage? Am I being OTT or is this entirely heartless from DH?

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Theghostofchristmasarse · 01/01/2026 23:09

That's awful, I'm so sorry. Do you think he could be worried and not know how to deal with it? No excuse,but could be his way of reacting and dealing with it. He needs to man up though.
To give you a positive, I struggled with seizures for around a year at 19/20. They started suddenly, then stopped. I've had maybe three more since then, and I'm 48. They seem to happen when I'm run down, I can feel when they're about to happen now, I'm not on medication, still drive, as they only happen at night. Nobody ever got to the cause of it, but I've heard of others where the same thing happened.
Ignore him for now, use your family for support, and try to trust in the doctors..I did go on medication for about 6 months, but after a while I stopped and didn't have one for about 15 years. They were horrific though, grand mal seizures, injured myself a lot, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Others around me are petrified when It happens, I go blue and I'm out for what feels like ages, to me and them. My partner witnessed one, and I know he really struggled. However he had nothing but support, your dh is being a dick.

workinghardhardlyworking · 01/01/2026 23:09

I honestly wish I could give you a hug. Of course the seizures are terrifying and upsetting. It could be because he doesn't know how to handle your illness, but that's no excuse for being awful to you.

OldGothsFadeToGrey · 01/01/2026 23:08

I’d want either a stunningly impressive explanation for his attitude and behaviour, or a divorce.

Edit - I had a single seizure, out of the blue, about 14 years ago and if I so much as sneeze DH is ready to look after me.