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To urge you to get your flu jab…

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sundriftwanderer · 01/01/2026 20:38

i got flu over Christmas and it’s genuinely been the most poorly I’ve ever been. It hit me out of nowhere on Monday night and I’ve been so unwell. Night sweats, fevers, diarrhoea, the most horrendous cough, sinus congestion, a three day headache. I tested positive on Wednesday (I only tested because my dad had it), but I knew before that I had it.

Im at the point now where I slept until 11am today, had a bath at 7pm and I could go back to bed now and probably do another fifteen hours. It’s been horrendous. I’m hoping I’ve turned a bit of a corner, but I can’t imagine how it would be if I hadn’t been vaccinated.

My dad tested positive on Monday and had to have an ambulance today, thankfully he’s not gone in to hospital but he’s been asleep for pretty much five days now. He’s also vaccinated and I dread to think what would’ve happened if he wasn’t. I think we could’ve lost him.

It’s been awful. Please get your vaccine, it could’ve been a lot lot worse.

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5128gap · 02/01/2026 09:29

Berlinlover · 01/01/2026 20:53

Whatever about posting several paragraphs on Mumsnet, I’ve never heard of anyone with a genuine case of ‘flu taking a bath, just saying.

This is nonsense. 20% to 30% of flu cases are mild or asymptomatic. It's really unhelpful to keep repeating this myth as it leads to people with flu not thinking they have it because they're not ill enough, then going round spreading it. Flu is simply being infected with one of the viruses grouped under that name. It's not the word for being very very ill.

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/01/2026 09:29

tistheseasontobegrinchy · 02/01/2026 08:47

It's what I was told by NHS staff. No idea how true it is - I'm not a scientist or healthcare professional. All I know is that it's the only year I've been floored since getting the flu jab.

I know strains evolve, but I also thought they had to pick a strain at the time of designing the flu jab, based on which one they thought was most likely to spread that season - so our absolute protection from the flu is a bit of a gamble. Last year, I was told the gamble was wrong.

Happy to be better informed by someone more in the know!

Getting a gamble wrong doesn't mean they made a mistake.
A gamble is chance. A mistake is doing something wrong.

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/01/2026 09:24

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 02/01/2026 09:16

I've never been able to find anything that comprehensively explains how being vaccinated for one flu strain offers protection (in the sense of reduced/lesser symptoms) for a strain NOT included in said vaccine? I realise there are a few strains included in the vaccine btw, it's moot though for the purposes of the question because I'm talking specifically about catching a strain not included.
I think it'd be a no brainer for us all to get the vaccine if it was made crystal clear that it provides x level of reduced severity in ALL strains of flu. My deduction though is that most people don't bother because the message is a very ambiguous one that protecting yourself from one type of infection 'may' make your system more resilient to secondary infections.
So when I see threads like this, my curious mind asks how - how is the vaccine making you less symptomatic of something you're not vaccinated against?

Look up cross-reactive immunity.

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 02/01/2026 09:16

I've never been able to find anything that comprehensively explains how being vaccinated for one flu strain offers protection (in the sense of reduced/lesser symptoms) for a strain NOT included in said vaccine? I realise there are a few strains included in the vaccine btw, it's moot though for the purposes of the question because I'm talking specifically about catching a strain not included.
I think it'd be a no brainer for us all to get the vaccine if it was made crystal clear that it provides x level of reduced severity in ALL strains of flu. My deduction though is that most people don't bother because the message is a very ambiguous one that protecting yourself from one type of infection 'may' make your system more resilient to secondary infections.
So when I see threads like this, my curious mind asks how - how is the vaccine making you less symptomatic of something you're not vaccinated against?

ThisHazelPombear · 02/01/2026 09:08

Getting the flu jab right has always been a gamble but the year it failed completely due to the virus they thought was dominant being the wrong one an extra 60k died over the year because it’s not just flu it’s the effect it has on the rest of the body. Can’t remember which year but pre covid.

TidyCyan · 02/01/2026 08:50

Muchtoomuchtodo · 02/01/2026 08:44

I had mine in the first week of September.

Me too! My surgery texted me the minute they got them in.

tistheseasontobegrinchy · 02/01/2026 08:50

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/01/2026 08:37

Everyone you know? Really?

Yes, really. Everyone I know.

I'm obviously not including random people I bump into once a year as I don't "know" them. Everyone in my immediate circle of friends, family and coworkers.

I live in a big city though, so it's unsurprising we've all caught it. There's not exactly good ventilation and spacing out on the tube...

tistheseasontobegrinchy · 02/01/2026 08:47

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/01/2026 08:39

They didn’t make a mistake. The strain they developed the vaccine for evolved.

It's what I was told by NHS staff. No idea how true it is - I'm not a scientist or healthcare professional. All I know is that it's the only year I've been floored since getting the flu jab.

I know strains evolve, but I also thought they had to pick a strain at the time of designing the flu jab, based on which one they thought was most likely to spread that season - so our absolute protection from the flu is a bit of a gamble. Last year, I was told the gamble was wrong.

Happy to be better informed by someone more in the know!

Moanranger · 02/01/2026 08:45

IdreamedAdreamINtimesGONEby · 01/01/2026 21:32

To anyone querying about the different strain.

Yes, the virus mutated after the vaccine was created. So there is a different strain which the vaccine will not fully protect you from. However, the vaccine will still ensure that you do not get as sick as if you didn't have it at all. The mutated strain is the one causing most issues, but the vaccine is still very very helpful.

This. I got the vaccine in October. I still got the flu, in December. But it was relatively mild. It still was the flu, though, & knocked me out for a week.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 02/01/2026 08:44

DeftGoldHedgehog · 02/01/2026 08:42

I thought the seasonal flu jabs were not even released until October. It's not a case of "getting sorted earlier".

I had mine in the first week of September.

itsgettingweird · 02/01/2026 08:43

My friend has had this flu.

She has said she will get the vaccine from now on in.

I get because my ds carer and he has a neurological condition so he gets it for that.

Im so glad I’ve avoided the flu as I’ve heard even with the vaccine this years has been horrendous.

These posts are so helpful to those who don’t quite get it - my friend now does. Sadly she’s learned the hard way with being very ill for 3 weeks.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 02/01/2026 08:42

Muchtoomuchtodo · 02/01/2026 08:41

There was plenty of availability September / October time.

When the numbers of cases are soaring, demand inevitably peaks causing the shortages we’ve been seeing recently. Get sorted earlier next year would be my advice.

I thought the seasonal flu jabs were not even released until October. It's not a case of "getting sorted earlier".

Muchtoomuchtodo · 02/01/2026 08:41

Comefromaway · 02/01/2026 00:52

There is nowhere to book it. Others in other areas have posted the same. No availability, presumably because the genuinely vulnerable have used all the stocks.

There was plenty of availability September / October time.

When the numbers of cases are soaring, demand inevitably peaks causing the shortages we’ve been seeing recently. Get sorted earlier next year would be my advice.

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/01/2026 08:39

tistheseasontobegrinchy · 02/01/2026 08:12

Pretty much everyone I know this year has caught it, and they've been miserable for weeks.

I usually catch every bug under the sun and struggle. I was a bit ill for a few days.

The only time I've been exceptionally ill despite getting jabbed was last year. Some people I know who were vaccinated were hospitalised that year, as well.

I was told they they made a mistake with the variety they picked for the flu jab, and that's why it seemingly did nothing to protect anyone last year? This year, however... I feel quite relieved I had mine. I cannot think of any other reason why I escaped being bed bound for weeks - I can get really slammed from a common cold.

They didn’t make a mistake. The strain they developed the vaccine for evolved.

sundriftwanderer · 02/01/2026 08:38

curious79 · 02/01/2026 07:31

You’ve both been vaccinated
you’re both floored with flu
not great adverts for a vaccination I’m afraid
Year after year everyone I know who gets flu vaccinated ends up ill with flu - my own Dad being in that number this year

Except the vaccine doesn’t stop you getting it.

All I can do is sit here and be grateful I got the jab, because I can’t imagine how unwell I’d be if I hadn’t.

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Muchtoomuchtodo · 02/01/2026 08:38

Pollymollydolly · 01/01/2026 23:54

The Covid vaccine doesn’t stay in your system. Entirely your choice whether to have it or not - but it doesn’t stay in your system.

Can you explain this?

I thought that the Covid vaccine (well, all vaccines really) prime your immune system to recognise the variant of the virus contained in that vaccine. Of course they mutate, which is why vaccines are adjusted but what do you mean when you say it doesn’t stay in your system?

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/01/2026 08:37

tistheseasontobegrinchy · 02/01/2026 08:12

Pretty much everyone I know this year has caught it, and they've been miserable for weeks.

I usually catch every bug under the sun and struggle. I was a bit ill for a few days.

The only time I've been exceptionally ill despite getting jabbed was last year. Some people I know who were vaccinated were hospitalised that year, as well.

I was told they they made a mistake with the variety they picked for the flu jab, and that's why it seemingly did nothing to protect anyone last year? This year, however... I feel quite relieved I had mine. I cannot think of any other reason why I escaped being bed bound for weeks - I can get really slammed from a common cold.

Everyone you know? Really?

DeftGoldHedgehog · 02/01/2026 08:36

I'm 50 and have never had a jab for flu and have never had flu badly, touch wood etc, DH is 54 and the same. I hardly ever get colds. I was unwell for 24 hours when I had Covid. My kids are older and not relying on me. I don't have elderly parents relying on me and work would just have to cope if I were unwell. I'm not anti vaccine and had all the free Covid jabs but have never felt that I needed to pay for a flu jab. I don't feel I want to introduce a virus into my body that I must have good natural immunity/defences to, and pay for the privilege. I've been out socalising a fair bit, have mixed with huge crowds of people, go to a busy gym several times a week and take public transport to work so I hardly lack exposure.

springintoaction2 · 02/01/2026 08:35

Crikey - so much ignorance on this thread!

When you have a biomedical science degree - I will listen to what you're saying.

Otherwise - perhaps keep your batshit thoughts to yourself.

Superhansrantowindsor · 02/01/2026 08:35

I had to try several different pharmacies to get it and had to wait a month but did manage eventually to get jabbed. It wasn’t easy though especially when you need to fit an appointment around work.

jasflowers · 02/01/2026 08:28

sundriftwanderer · 01/01/2026 20:53

It’s a flow flex test off Amazon, the same brand as the Covid lateral flows. You can also get combined Covid and flu tests. AFAIK the jab isn’t 100% effective against all strains but it does protect you in general, that’s how the paramedics made it sound today.

I thought the overall effectiveness was around 15 to 25%?

Thats what they say in France anyhow (same vaccine) with some studies, saying it helps reduce symptoms.

TwilightAb · 02/01/2026 08:25

I had the jab in October and have been in bed for the last 7 days with flu!

TheaBrandt1 · 02/01/2026 08:20

Tried to get it but told ineligible. Happy to pay but nope.

springintoaction2 · 02/01/2026 08:20

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