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To urge you to get your flu jab…

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sundriftwanderer · 01/01/2026 20:38

i got flu over Christmas and it’s genuinely been the most poorly I’ve ever been. It hit me out of nowhere on Monday night and I’ve been so unwell. Night sweats, fevers, diarrhoea, the most horrendous cough, sinus congestion, a three day headache. I tested positive on Wednesday (I only tested because my dad had it), but I knew before that I had it.

Im at the point now where I slept until 11am today, had a bath at 7pm and I could go back to bed now and probably do another fifteen hours. It’s been horrendous. I’m hoping I’ve turned a bit of a corner, but I can’t imagine how it would be if I hadn’t been vaccinated.

My dad tested positive on Monday and had to have an ambulance today, thankfully he’s not gone in to hospital but he’s been asleep for pretty much five days now. He’s also vaccinated and I dread to think what would’ve happened if he wasn’t. I think we could’ve lost him.

It’s been awful. Please get your vaccine, it could’ve been a lot lot worse.

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Zocola · 06/01/2026 19:44

I was hospitalised with influenza A and pneumonia, it was awful. I did have the flu jab previous, and consultant agreed that it helped.Was given Tamiflu, nebulisers, antibiotics felt like shit, and spent my birthday in hospital in isolation. I always advise my people to have the jab.

KimberleyClark · 04/01/2026 11:55

Paid for mine just before Christmas.

Hopello · 04/01/2026 11:51

LightYearsAgo · 01/01/2026 21:08

Anyone can pay for a flu jab, eligibility is only to get it for free

I don't know how much it costs though

You can find info on the Boots and Superdrug websites, I’m HR for my company and I introduced the company buying it for staff who opt in. It’s. Its not very expensive though and worth it in the long run.

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 02/01/2026 14:18

sundriftwanderer · 02/01/2026 13:54

Of course they are able to say that given the presentation someone would have ended up in ICU if not vaccinated!

Only a PCR test could determine what strain of flu you and your Dad were infected with, it's entirely possible you're not even vaccinated against the strain you have!
The ambulance crew can give an opinion, they can't however give a categoric conclusion (nor should they attempt to).

Barney16 · 02/01/2026 14:05

I have only had flu once and it was horrendous. I literally couldn't stay awake. I ended up with a chest infection and four weeks off work. I hope you and your dad feel better soon.

sundriftwanderer · 02/01/2026 13:54

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 02/01/2026 13:30

No one, registered medic or otherwise, is qualified to say something as categoric as that.

I'm pro vaccine (in line with eligibility). The majority of people on MN won't have had a flu vaccine (because it's not deemed necessary for most age groups).

I don't like scare mongering, and the purpose of this thread appears to be just that. By all means share eligibility criteria, however asserting that the vaccine is the only way to avoid being unimaginably unwell is simply not true. It's alarmist and unnecessary.

Of course they are able to say that given the presentation someone would have ended up in ICU if not vaccinated!

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LiveToTell · 02/01/2026 13:35

Plump82 · 01/01/2026 20:54

All very well saying this but I've been trying to get mine since October. There's just nothing available in my area. My sister is on her 4th week of being unwell with it so I completely agree people should get it. It's just not that easy.

Same here - I had an appointment booked for January and they’ve (Boots) just cancelled it.

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 02/01/2026 13:30

sundriftwanderer · 02/01/2026 12:05

As I said, he didn’t need to go to hospital. The paramedics have said the jab is the only thing that stopped him going in!

No one, registered medic or otherwise, is qualified to say something as categoric as that.

I'm pro vaccine (in line with eligibility). The majority of people on MN won't have had a flu vaccine (because it's not deemed necessary for most age groups).

I don't like scare mongering, and the purpose of this thread appears to be just that. By all means share eligibility criteria, however asserting that the vaccine is the only way to avoid being unimaginably unwell is simply not true. It's alarmist and unnecessary.

zingally · 02/01/2026 12:11

The only possible chance you've got of getting a flu jab at this point in the season is via your GP, but that's not terribly likely.

I was talking to my friend just before Christmas who is a pharmacist for Boots. Because flu was in the news quite a bit in the lead up to Christmas, they had loads of people coming into store, asking about the jab. They've got none left, and haven't had any in for ages.

The time to get the vaccine is between early September and mid November. After that, you've missed the boat really.

Hallpast · 02/01/2026 12:08

I paid £24 for a private jab 3 weeks ago. Money well spent. DH has flu. I’m fine

sundriftwanderer · 02/01/2026 12:05

PollyPlumPeach · 02/01/2026 12:00

But your dad had it and still ended up going to hospital in an ambulance?

As I said, he didn’t need to go to hospital. The paramedics have said the jab is the only thing that stopped him going in!

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modernminimalist · 02/01/2026 12:05

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They’re myths. Like turbo cancer

PollyPlumPeach · 02/01/2026 12:00

sundriftwanderer · 01/01/2026 21:34

It worked exactly as it’s supposed to. It’s made sure I’m not deathly unwell

But your dad had it and still ended up going to hospital in an ambulance?

itsgettingweird · 02/01/2026 11:49

tistheseasontobegrinchy · 02/01/2026 08:47

It's what I was told by NHS staff. No idea how true it is - I'm not a scientist or healthcare professional. All I know is that it's the only year I've been floored since getting the flu jab.

I know strains evolve, but I also thought they had to pick a strain at the time of designing the flu jab, based on which one they thought was most likely to spread that season - so our absolute protection from the flu is a bit of a gamble. Last year, I was told the gamble was wrong.

Happy to be better informed by someone more in the know!

my Understanding is we follow Australia who have their season before us and we go for vaccine strain based on that but this strain evolved and therefore we have a bad flu year.

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HugglesAndSnuggles · 02/01/2026 10:55

DH is pretty ill right now. I’m hoping that I don’t get it as we’re going away next week 🤞 He’s in bed feeling very sorry for himself drinking lemsip. I’m using first defence spray and continuing to take my vitamins (C, D and magnesium) Hopefully I’ll be OK. I’m also staying away from him and increasing the handwashing routine.

Mauhea · 02/01/2026 10:51

Not RTFT but just chiming in to say I wish I'd paid for a flu jab this year. It absolutely clattered me and I was off work for a full week. Thankfully my toddler's symptoms were mild (though he's so full to the brim with nursery bugs I don't think it could fit in) but it was miserable.

Theonlyfatmiddleagedwomannotonmonjaro · 02/01/2026 10:35

I think until unless you've ever actually had symptomatic real proper flu, it can be easily under estimated.
My friends Dad died aged 40 from flu. As far as I know he was a healthy 40yo. (We were young at the time).
Ive had flu several times in my 50 odd years and it truely does knock you. It usually comes on quick. Its never a bad cold that turns to flu.

Having had Covid 3 times, I'd choose COVID any time over flu.

There also seems to be some people carry flu. Can test pos and carry on as usual.
I try to get the jab but getting it privately isn't as easy as it used to be. I eventually managed to get a private jab beginning of Dec, alot later than usual.

paddleboardingmum · 02/01/2026 10:17

Exact same as @HashtagShitShop had the vaccine and also all the symptoms you described OP and weeks of illness.

sundriftwanderer · 02/01/2026 10:07

jasflowers · 02/01/2026 09:53

How do you know that?

There is no parallel universe in which you never had the jab.

Even the authorities say its around 30% to 40% effective in not attending or being admitted to hospital.... so 60% to 70% that you'll end up there regardless.

Because of what I’ve been told by health professionals, because of what my dad was told by the paramedics yesterday.

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Pollymollydolly · 02/01/2026 09:59

Muchtoomuchtodo · 02/01/2026 08:38

Can you explain this?

I thought that the Covid vaccine (well, all vaccines really) prime your immune system to recognise the variant of the virus contained in that vaccine. Of course they mutate, which is why vaccines are adjusted but what do you mean when you say it doesn’t stay in your system?

I mean the mRNA doesn’t stay in your system, mRNA is apparently quite fragile and is cleared from the body quickly, in days to weeks. Yes you’re right, the vaccine primes your immune system to recognise and fight the virus if needed - so the immune response is much longer lasting but the actual vaccine doesn’t remain in the body .

jasflowers · 02/01/2026 09:53

sundriftwanderer · 02/01/2026 08:38

Except the vaccine doesn’t stop you getting it.

All I can do is sit here and be grateful I got the jab, because I can’t imagine how unwell I’d be if I hadn’t.

How do you know that?

There is no parallel universe in which you never had the jab.

Even the authorities say its around 30% to 40% effective in not attending or being admitted to hospital.... so 60% to 70% that you'll end up there regardless.

tistheseasontobegrinchy · 02/01/2026 09:46

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/01/2026 09:29

Getting a gamble wrong doesn't mean they made a mistake.
A gamble is chance. A mistake is doing something wrong.

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I'm just repeating the language that was used - you seem to be taking this personally, so I apologise if I've offended. I didn't mean it in a negative way.

Gamble or mistake - or any other word - the flu jab doesn't always save you from the flu. You can get the jab and still get poorly.

I still get mine every year. The flu is awful, and the jab is a minor inconvenience. It's more than worth getting the jab, and I always encourage others to get it. I'm very grateful to the clever people who make it all possible.

Being vaccinated definitely improves the quality of my life.

HashtagShitShop · 02/01/2026 09:44

I've had the jab and have lost 3 weeks of December and still not fully 100 percent now. Dread to think what it would be like if I hadn't had the flu jab in Oct.

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 02/01/2026 09:38

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/01/2026 09:24

Look up cross-reactive immunity.

I have, and as I said it's entirely ambiguous in relation to the flu vaccine.
Suggestions that it both successfully induces same and that it very rarely induces same (and indeed possibly blunts/hampers same).

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