Page 7 | Is this Facebook post reasonable or rude and ungrateful?

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 2026-01-01T19:58:37+00:00

Opinions in the comments are split. What's yours? YABU - rude and ungrateful YANBU - understandable

ExitPursuedByABare · 01/01/2026 20:11

Ridiculous leaving sandwiches on a doorstep.

HappyNewBeer · 01/01/2026 20:10

Lmnop22 · 01/01/2026 20:05

I think the sentiment is fine but the way it’s put is rude and ungrateful.

What about a post saying “we have had more than normal donations of things like bread/sandwiches lately and whilst we really appreciate the community support for the food bank, these aren’t the sorts of food we can easily distribute. Please bear in mind that packets/tins are preferred donations and anything else will unfortunately likely go to waste and cause extra work for those volunteering for the charity”

Much more polite but gets the point across rather than being rude to people who are clearly trying to to a good deed but went awry.

This is far too wordy and not nearly as clear as the original post.

Echobelly · 01/01/2026 20:09

Seems fair to me. Maybe they've tried leaving polite notes and the 'helpful' person hasn't got the message?

AgnesMcDoo · 01/01/2026 20:08

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:03

Fruit, veg and bread not needed?

Most foodbanks can’t store fresh food.

ChrimboLimbo · 01/01/2026 20:08

Donating what's convenient to you, but a pain in the arse for the charity is all about the giver, not the recipient.

Exactly.

It needs to be blunt so people take note

AgnesMcDoo · 01/01/2026 20:07

Completely reasonable

and if people still think it’s ungrateful after reading the explanation then they are a bit dim.

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:07

Lmnop22 · 01/01/2026 20:05

I think the sentiment is fine but the way it’s put is rude and ungrateful.

What about a post saying “we have had more than normal donations of things like bread/sandwiches lately and whilst we really appreciate the community support for the food bank, these aren’t the sorts of food we can easily distribute. Please bear in mind that packets/tins are preferred donations and anything else will unfortunately likely go to waste and cause extra work for those volunteering for the charity”

Much more polite but gets the point across rather than being rude to people who are clearly trying to to a good deed but went awry.

Yes, this would have been better, did they put up a list of what they do need? I imagine with how rude that post is people who have previously donated will think sod you unfortunately.

BeforeSigourneyWeaverTheyWoveTheirOwnSigourneys · 01/01/2026 20:06

Understandable. You can't dump refrigerated items like sandwiches outside, they are completely unusable.

Same with fresh food, if they don't have the correct storage or enough space for it, then it can't be used either.

Donating what's convenient to you, but a pain in the arse for the charity is all about the giver, not the recipient.

Lmnop22 · 01/01/2026 20:05

I think the sentiment is fine but the way it’s put is rude and ungrateful.

What about a post saying “we have had more than normal donations of things like bread/sandwiches lately and whilst we really appreciate the community support for the food bank, these aren’t the sorts of food we can easily distribute. Please bear in mind that packets/tins are preferred donations and anything else will unfortunately likely go to waste and cause extra work for those volunteering for the charity”

Much more polite but gets the point across rather than being rude to people who are clearly trying to to a good deed but went awry.

PumpkinSpicedLatte · 01/01/2026 20:04

I think it could have maybe been worded better but I do see their point

Clutterbug2026 · 01/01/2026 20:03

I think it should have been worded in much more polite manner.

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:03

Fruit, veg and bread not needed?

meganorks · 01/01/2026 20:02

It's not ungrateful if it can't be used. And people shouldn't be dumping stuff at the door anyway. If you have that amount of stuff to donate you should be checking the place can take it and taking it when its open. I see this as the same as people who dump their stuff at charity shops overnight- its just fly tipping essentially!

ChrimboLimbo · 01/01/2026 20:02

SquirrelFood · 01/01/2026 19:59

Ungrateful

Why?

Why is it ungrateful to not want something that costs the charity money?

ChrimboLimbo · 01/01/2026 20:01

Understandable.

If it is going to waste and costing the charity then the drop offs need to stop.

Because it makes someone feel good, doesn't justify allowing them to continue to cause issues.

HardworkSendHelp · 01/01/2026 20:00

Totally reasonable post. You cannot dump food like that outside a food bank. It will end up costing the charity money to get rid of it.

SquirrelFood · 01/01/2026 19:59

Ungrateful