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Is this Facebook post reasonable or rude and ungrateful?

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Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 01/01/2026 19:58

Opinions in the comments are split. What's yours?

YABU - rude and ungrateful
YANBU - understandable

Is this Facebook post reasonable or rude and ungrateful?
OP posts:
BringBackCatsEyes · 01/01/2026 20:57

There is community run food hub near me which gives out food otherwise heading for the bin.
Every post asks people not to park on site (unless blue badge holders) because they are based in a small industrial site and the other units don't want their own customers to be unable to park. I imagine it was one of the conditions to be allowed to set up the hub there.
Every few days they have to remind people not to park there. People think it doesn't apply to them.

Then there is the KFC giveaway, where recipients are asked to message the staff and NOT reply to the post with a "can I have some please". Every single time you see posts saying "I asked for some KFC, you didn't reply [moan moan]".

People seem to lose their heads when donated food is involved. Most of these hubs are run by volunteers and I don't blame them for throwing their hands in the air at times.

Springtimehere · 01/01/2026 20:57

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XenoBitch · 01/01/2026 20:56

The FB post was a few days ago, and now a sudden influx in the last hour of new posts telling them how ungrateful they are.
I bet it is people on here.

Screamingabdabz · 01/01/2026 20:56

You have to spell it out in a rude way for thick numpties to get the message that dumping perishable food on a doorstep is not the way you donate to a food bank.

pteromum · 01/01/2026 20:54

A bit like the thread when the OP was cross at her husband for using a community waste project.

this food should be going in that. Where people can collect it for animal or themselves but a WASTE project not a foodbank. Where this should not happen

VikaOlson · 01/01/2026 20:54

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:52

Delivered at the back of the house, people used to leave all sorts back there was the 80s no rules or regulations about things like that, we didnknow if it was fresh or had been sitting in a van overnight.

40 years later, no one wants to eat bin food off the street 😂

ChrimboLimbo · 01/01/2026 20:52

I guess it was written by a volunteer - if people don't like it they could volunteer their time instead.

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:52

VikaOlson · 01/01/2026 20:48

Delivered? So not mysteriously dumped at some point in the preceding days?

Delivered at the back of the house, people used to leave all sorts back there was the 80s no rules or regulations about things like that, we didnknow if it was fresh or had been sitting in a van overnight.

Spookyspaghetti · 01/01/2026 20:52

Clutterbug2026 · 01/01/2026 20:03

I think it should have been worded in much more polite manner.

Edited

Are you the donor op? Maybe it could have been worded better but if this is the 10th time they have posted about it maybe they are starting to get frustrated. Presumably, whichever business is leaving it is saving money on their own bins.

BringBackCatsEyes · 01/01/2026 20:51

I just looked them up on FB and see that the post has been edited to make it look more gracious and professional while still getting the message across.

52inJan · 01/01/2026 20:50

HoppityBun · 01/01/2026 20:13

But the problem is not “more than normal amounts of bread and sandwiches.” The message clearly says that the charity organiser does not collect much bread because it’s a nuisance. There’s no point being mealy mouthed and dressing it up: bread and sandwiches are unhelpful. And leaving it out like that is simply thoughtless and lazy.

It’s like people who are too lazy to take items to a charity shop and leave toys and unwanted stuff out on the pavement for others to deal with. It gets rained on, peed on by dogs and just hangs around until the council is forced to take it.

💯☝️

NiceCupOfChai · 01/01/2026 20:49

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:03

Fruit, veg and bread not needed?

Short shelf life and so difficult to distribute while fresh and therefore costs the charity to dispose of. Canned fruit and veg is usually appreciated.

VikaOlson · 01/01/2026 20:48

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:46

Well yes we did used to have things like milk, cream, veg and fruit, lots of bread and perishables delivered to the womans refuge and I remember all the fresher items were divvied up and consumed on the day we got them, some times we had toast and beans and cereal for days and other weeks we would have cream instead of milk with our tea, bowls full of fruit with cream.
I think this post has made me realise how much has changed compared to my experience, it's quite eye opening tbh.

Delivered? So not mysteriously dumped at some point in the preceding days?

CaspersMum24 · 01/01/2026 20:48

I would imagine that they have asked people not to do this umpteen times and it's being ignored. Not rude or ungrateful at all.

Jijithecat · 01/01/2026 20:46

TY78910 · 01/01/2026 20:43

The message is fine. The delivery is not professional for an organisation. It should have read more or less ‘thank you so much, we appreciate, a small ask is don’t put this in because of this and that. Once again thank you so much yada yada’. ‘Whoever is doing this can you please stop’ absolutely had me 😂😂😂

Have you seen all of their social media? Do you know that they didn't start out all softly softly?

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:46

VikaOlson · 01/01/2026 20:34

Who needs fruit, veg and bread in bin bags left in the street overnight? Would you eat it or give it to your kids?

The people dumping the food don't have the best intentions, they've probably picked up a load of left over food from a supermarket through Olio/TGTG, taken the best bits and dumped the rest.

Same as people who dump tat on the doorsteps of charity shops - they've not doing it with good intentions, they just don't want to have to dispose of their rubbish themselves so are pushing the cost and effort onto volunteers.

Well yes we did used to have things like milk, cream, veg and fruit, lots of bread and perishables delivered to the womans refuge and I remember all the fresher items were divvied up and consumed on the day we got them, some times we had toast and beans and cereal for days and other weeks we would have cream instead of milk with our tea, bowls full of fruit with cream.
I think this post has made me realise how much has changed compared to my experience, it's quite eye opening tbh.

5128gap · 01/01/2026 20:44

Both.
They do need to tell people not to donate things that are not needed and cause more hassle than help, but they REALLY need to get someone better at writing their coms. The emphasis needs to be on appreciation and what they do want, with a polite request not to leave the things they don't because they can't distribute them, rather than scolding people and making them feel they've been a nuisance.

TY78910 · 01/01/2026 20:43

The message is fine. The delivery is not professional for an organisation. It should have read more or less ‘thank you so much, we appreciate, a small ask is don’t put this in because of this and that. Once again thank you so much yada yada’. ‘Whoever is doing this can you please stop’ absolutely had me 😂😂😂

Taweofterror · 01/01/2026 20:41

Maybe they've tried putting it nicely and keep getting ignored. It certainly reads like they are exasperated with people doing this as if it's been going on a while.

VikaOlson · 01/01/2026 20:41

hourspassed · 01/01/2026 20:39

This looks to me like a pick up from a place like Food Diverse who offer free collections of close to use by date food from supermarkets and restaurants etc. My church gets collections every week - we get it in green crates and big plastic bags like the ones in the photo.

It is probably a local charity/organisation who are registered and get a regular collection and they are trying to off load what they don't want or need. There can often be lots, especially bread, and you never know what you're going to get until you turn up but it is up to the organisation/charity who has the collections to ensure that the food is used and not dumped. It's not ungrateful of the church to ask people to stop.

I doubt an actual charity or organisation would dump bags of food outside.

hourspassed · 01/01/2026 20:39

This looks to me like a pick up from a place like Food Diverse who offer free collections of close to use by date food from supermarkets and restaurants etc. My church gets collections every week - we get it in green crates and big plastic bags like the ones in the photo.

It is probably a local charity/organisation who are registered and get a regular collection and they are trying to off load what they don't want or need. There can often be lots, especially bread, and you never know what you're going to get until you turn up but it is up to the organisation/charity who has the collections to ensure that the food is used and not dumped. It's not ungrateful of the church to ask people to stop.

LamentableShoes · 01/01/2026 20:35

kαλοκαλοκαιρι · 01/01/2026 20:33

people who donate to make themselves feel good will see it as rude. people who donate to make a difference will see it as reasonable.

That's a really good way of looking at it.

VikaOlson · 01/01/2026 20:34

TomatoSandwiches · 01/01/2026 20:03

Fruit, veg and bread not needed?

Who needs fruit, veg and bread in bin bags left in the street overnight? Would you eat it or give it to your kids?

The people dumping the food don't have the best intentions, they've probably picked up a load of left over food from a supermarket through Olio/TGTG, taken the best bits and dumped the rest.

Same as people who dump tat on the doorsteps of charity shops - they've not doing it with good intentions, they just don't want to have to dispose of their rubbish themselves so are pushing the cost and effort onto volunteers.

kαλοκαλοκαιρι · 01/01/2026 20:33

people who donate to make themselves feel good will see it as rude. people who donate to make a difference will see it as reasonable.

ProfessorBinturong · 01/01/2026 20:31

SquirrelFood · 01/01/2026 19:59

Ungrateful

Why should they be grateful for something that attracts vermin and costs them money?