Page 4 | To ask what age you would say is no longer dying young

Whyohwhy88 · 2026-01-01T19:35:45+00:00

Although hard still I feel from 80 onwards it’s expected

SnozPoz · 03/01/2026 04:37

85+ But it really depends on the person.... some people can be totally amazing into their 90s and you'd be surprised they've died... other people give up on life much earlier... even in their 60s and it's not surprising.

99bottlesofkombucha · 03/01/2026 04:05

ShesTheAlbatross · 01/01/2026 19:43

75ish maybe.

Average life expectancy is 83 for women, 79 for men, so 5-10 years before average seems like where I’d put “young to die”.

I applaud the statistically based approach, but I think people mentally characterise younger deaths as tragically young, and different from older but too young to die. The life expectancy for those who make it to 50 is probably the average that should be used here.

Dancingspleen1 · 03/01/2026 03:20

70+

Festivespirit85 · 03/01/2026 03:07

Any age under 85 is young.

deadbobaplace · 03/01/2026 01:07

Under 45 = young
Under 60 = untimely
Under 80 = sooner than might have been reasonably expected

All of course dependent on any underlying health conditions and/or lifestyle choices. It wouldn't for example be reasonable to expect a heavy smoker or type 2 diabetic to get past 80, though of course some will..

XenoBitch · 03/01/2026 00:51

70s
I think the average age in the 80s skews things a bit. People think if you die before that then you died too young.

When a celeb dies in their 90s and beyond, you always get the performative grief from people thinking it was a tragedy. No, it is sad, but it was an inevitability.

SnobblyBobbly · 03/01/2026 00:48

Anything over 60 - not old old, but it’s no longer a shocker like if someone was in their 40’s.

GlasgowPingu · 02/01/2026 23:25

Chasingsquirrels · 01/01/2026 19:44

But it still isn't "young".

My late-DH was 58 when he died, that felt like dying younger than expected. But not dying young, which would be 40's and earlier to me.

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Agreed. My parents died at 62 and 63. I was (and to some extent still am) devastated, and would have loved to have them for another 10 or 15 years, but dying ‘young’ to me is e.g. one of my husband’s friends who died at 43.

Lockdownsceptic · 02/01/2026 23:20

Dying young and dying too soon are too different things. My brother-in-law recently died too soon, but he was 94. We just weren’t ready for him to go yet.

applegingermint · 02/01/2026 23:17

Wildefish · 02/01/2026 20:14

I’m 67 and if I died I’d find it young😂 Seriously I can still do anything a 27 year old can do, but with more experience😉

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Hardly, otherwise we’d see 67 yo Olympians. With the best will in the world your physical capabilities are well past their peak.

Lockdownsceptic · 02/01/2026 23:13

Once your three score years and ten are up I’d say you were no longer young. So seventy.

Bourneyesterday · 02/01/2026 23:04

I don't think you can describe 60 or over as young though it isn't old either. My dad died at 60. I felt he was too young to die but I know he wasn't young when he died.

fetchacloth · 02/01/2026 23:03

I agree, the last 6 years have been brutal for many : the cost of living crisis, covid and it's aftermath and the issues in the NHS to name a few. Life is becoming harder for many in this country which will have a negative effect on age expectancy.

fetchacloth · 02/01/2026 22:57

It depends on person's health really, but generally I would say 80+

firstofallimadelight · 02/01/2026 22:36

70+

knor · 02/01/2026 22:30

80+ also.
although I said to my dad that a friend’s grandma had died at 77 and it felt really young and he disagreed massively

Happytap · 02/01/2026 22:30

Pam100127 · 02/01/2026 22:04

My mother died this morning at 81.
Although she had a few health issues, when I was with her last night, she was in great form.
No indications that she would be dead 12 hours later.
She had me a month after she turned 18, so having her for 63 years, I imagined that we would have more time.

I'm so sorry for your loss

TheHateIsNotGood · 02/01/2026 22:18

And then...hard to forget the times "I wanna die before I get old" actually resonated. Sure, there's always been a few that have lived a long 80+ life but then there's usually been a fair few that have died properly young, say under 30.

And the large contigent that kept going inbetween that would die oldish but still a bit youngish. And what keeps a lot of people alive and going.....is that NHS thing. Without it many of us would have croaked or be barely functioning.

Irrespective of anything we rely on it to keep so many of us that would have died in various stages of youngish alive it's obscene.

I think we need to reduce our expectations a tad.

winnieanddaisy · 02/01/2026 22:15

My husband died at 57 and it didn’t occur to me that he died young .

Pam100127 · 02/01/2026 22:04

My mother died this morning at 81.
Although she had a few health issues, when I was with her last night, she was in great form.
No indications that she would be dead 12 hours later.
She had me a month after she turned 18, so having her for 63 years, I imagined that we would have more time.

TheHateIsNotGood · 02/01/2026 21:29

Currently 67, the State Pension age for the majority of people; could push it to 70 as a "die young age" but I foresee the current 'longetivity' stats decreasing for numerous reasons.

ErinAoife · 02/01/2026 21:23

Over 50

Crochetandtea · 02/01/2026 21:02

3 score and 10 so 70

Wildefish · 02/01/2026 21:01

Gingercar · 02/01/2026 20:36

I don’t mean this rudely, but the one thing a 27 yr old can do that you can’t at 67 is call themselves young. (and I’m much closer to your age than 27)

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I didn’t take it too seriously. I really know at 67 I’m not young, but it’s young to die.

Anotherdayanotherscan · 02/01/2026 20:57

Well young widows don't let you join if you are over 50 so id say 50.