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To ask what age you would say is no longer dying young

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Whyohwhy88 · 01/01/2026 19:35

Although hard still I feel from 80 onwards it’s expected

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AndSoitComesAroundAgain · 01/01/2026 19:52

Dying young I would say under 60. Dying younger than expected if below 75+. I lost a parent who was 72, so definately before I expected to. It did not seem natural to be a parent down in my 30s.

Zanatdy · 01/01/2026 19:51

75

Hallywally · 01/01/2026 19:50

70ish

MissyB1 · 01/01/2026 19:50

I agree with 80+

my brother died at 67, definitely too young 😢

tumbletoast · 01/01/2026 19:49

It's grey.

Under 70 I always feel was "too" young/younger than expected/too soon.

Over 80 I would feel had had a good innings, but it's still sad.

Someone in their 70s, especially early 70s, I tend to feel is younger than expected and a bit "unfair" albeit not outrageously young.

When you consider that humans can live for a century, I think it's fair to say that someone who died in their 60s or early 70s died young, even though they're not a young person.

Newyear26 · 01/01/2026 19:49

75

Nevermind17 · 01/01/2026 19:48

My answer gets higher the older I become. My DF, my grandparents, three aunts and two uncles all died between 40-70. My DM is 73 and the oldest person we’ve ever had in our family, so I don’t think of her as ‘young’.

RedRiverShore6 · 01/01/2026 19:47

80, both my parents were in there 80s and in reasonable health, but their deaths weren't unexpected

Happytap · 01/01/2026 19:47

80 onwards I'd say, although I'd like to see my 90s please!

Chasingsquirrels · 01/01/2026 19:46

Actually, "dying young" and "dying earlier than you'd expect" are really 2 different questions.

The OP was "dying young", but most people (and I) are probably answering "dying earlier than you'd expect".

Moveoverdarlin · 01/01/2026 19:46

80

nondrinker1985 · 01/01/2026 19:46

My Dad was 46 that was so young I feel now anything below 85 is young.

Cienna · 01/01/2026 19:46

60-70+

Periperi2025 · 01/01/2026 19:45

State pension age.

Sasgatchewyn · 01/01/2026 19:45

I'd say 75.

Newsenmum · 01/01/2026 19:44

Probably 80.

I know 65+ isnt young but with modern medicine and good health it seems young to die. My mum is 70 and she’s extremely fit and healthy, takes no medication, exercises daily. Id be very shocked and upset if she just died. Im less healthy than her!

Chasingsquirrels · 01/01/2026 19:44

Cat1504 · 01/01/2026 19:42

65 is not even state pension age

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But it still isn't "young".

My late-DH was 58 when he died, that felt like dying younger than expected. But not dying young, which would be 40's and earlier to me.

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 01/01/2026 19:44

I feel like 75 is the point where people stop asking what someone has died of, and just assume it’s somehow old-age related. As for gone too soon… some people wish they could check out at 35, and some aren’t close to done at 93.

MrsWOLF1 · 01/01/2026 19:44

80 plus

ShesTheAlbatross · 01/01/2026 19:43

75ish maybe.

Average life expectancy is 83 for women, 79 for men, so 5-10 years before average seems like where I’d put “young to die”.

PumpkinScarf · 01/01/2026 19:43

80

therewasafishinthepercolator · 01/01/2026 19:42

I'd say 80s + too. But thats subject to change.

Years ago I might have said mid 70s onwards but my mum is 72 (stage 4 lung cancer) and dad is 75. I don't see either of them as old or near 'their time'.

My dad is the most capable person I know. My go-to. Fixed my central heating yesterday.

Cat1504 · 01/01/2026 19:42

Chasingsquirrels · 01/01/2026 19:38

Gut says 70.

But 65+ isn't "young"

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65 is not even state pension age

Starseeking · 01/01/2026 19:42

Anything below 80, I feel like you’ve gone before your time.

LlynTegid · 01/01/2026 19:41

I agree with you OP with 80.

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