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Ex threatening suicide.

82 replies

1971girl · 01/01/2026 19:12

I finished with my partner at the beginning of Dec. Both aged 54. I live with my son and he has a place of his own. I moved town and decided on a fresh start as our relationship had been very up and down. Lots of rows usually on alcohol as he could be a total twat on drink and start fights. I decided to break the cycle when I moved to a new house back in my hometown as he lived so close by to me and my old house. He has a drink problem and definitely has anxiety and mental health issues. I blocked him on the phone but he has been emailing me. I do care what happens to him but I don't want his issues anymore. The emails range between pure venom for dumping him and then wanting to be civil and meet up. He blames me for everything and thinks I am a cruel bitch for finishing with him. I try not to respond mostly. I have a heart but I know we would always have issues and he was draining me at times. I received an email saying he is going to end it all in a few days. I am alarmed at this and don't know what to do or who I should contact. Any advice would be very appreciated.

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OhDear111 · 01/01/2026 19:17

I’d thank my lucky stars I’d moved on! Change your email address.

bombastix · 01/01/2026 19:16

Not your problem and don’t get involved. He can find someone else to call a cruel bitch and play on their emotions. What a bastard.

Men who do this are often domestic abusers and rarely actually kill themselves. But they are very good at being nasty to women who let them in

ComewithmeIntotheseaofLove · 01/01/2026 19:16

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oh gosh I would be really sad and I’m sure some others would but if that’s what you’ve decided I will respect it

TemporarilyCantDoMyself · 01/01/2026 19:15

A) Police will do a welfare check on him if you're seriously worried.
B) It's NOT your fault and he's NOT your responsibility.

WhatAmIsupposeToDoNow · 01/01/2026 19:15

You could call 111 and get through mental health team. This is the right thing to do (and keeps your consciousness clean)

KurtCobainLover · 01/01/2026 19:14

I would call the police and ask them to do a welfare check on him. He’s not your responsibility but this could help push him into getting some help (and not from you).

SBGM247 · 01/01/2026 19:14

Do nothing. It's not your problem. Any contact just draws it out. It's kindest to leave and cut all contact.