Ex threatening suicide.

Well it IS true - because I was saying it is MY experience.

And I am not saying they have never spoken to anyone about it, but not in the "LOOK AT MEEEEEEEEEEE!! I AM GOING TO KILL MYSELF AND IT'S YOUR FAULT" way

Call the police and report his suicide threat. This is over your pay grade.

If he's serious, it's a psychiatric emergency and he needs immediate evaluation and treatment. If it's manipulation or alcohol, he can explain that to the police and there's official documentation in case he gets more aggressive.

My husband once tried this and I said to him. Well that would be absolutely devastating for everyone in your family, but let me make this clear to you it would be your choice to do that and would be absolutely nothing to do with me. If you chose that path, which quite frankly is horrendous, I would never ever feel guilt because I would never chose that path for you or anyone else. I’m not going to feel guilty about a decision he’s making when I would never choose it. Do not let him emotionally blackmail you, his choices are his choices.

Block him on all channels and don’t respond, you’re not responsible for his decisions and it sounds like he has major issues. Cut all contact, he’s a grown man.

Hes not your problem. Abusers use the threat of suicide to keep control. They dont do it because they are not suicidal.

Send his emails to your spam folder and delete them.

He'll get the message eventually

Attention seeking. I'd get the police to do a welfare check. That will soon put the frighteners on him, then I would block his email x

Yes, previous posters are correct. In coercive/ controlling relationships the period when the relationship has ended is the most dangerous time for you. Much of the research completed around the stages of domestic homicide cases suggest that any threats made to hurt or kill themselves can be interpreted as a direct threat to hurt or kill you. Please keep yourself safe.

Report to police the block him. Not your problem. I bet you are glad you not with him now. Lucky escape

I would contact professionals but from experience, people who intend suicide do not tell others what they plan to do and I would read this as him trying to mentally fu@k with you/create drama.

BUT I would reach out to professionals on his behalf but don’t contact him yourself.

People who commit suicide don’t prewarn you that they are going to do it.

they make their decision and follow through with it without causing a drama beforehand as they believe that by doing it they are relieving you of any more hurt and pain. (If only that was the case)

Report the harassment. Have them do a welfare check on him if you wish but tell them you are blocking all his ways to contact you further. Block his email, block everything. Nothing he does is your business.

Do nothing. Not a single thing. I wouldnt even bother contacting the police.

Its a pathetic attempt at manipulation.

The best thing you can do is totally ignore him, because he can't have a fight on his own. Set his emails to go to junk/spam and then move on.

I mean this is what abusive men do. Guarantee about a third of them or more threaten self harm when dumped.

Call the non emergency ambulance people and tell them they can check on him if they want.

Block him and change your locks if he ever had a key. Advise family and friends not to share info about you with him. Cut off anyone who doesn't respect that.

Never agree to meet him. Do not answer the door if he shows up.

Read up on the 'narcissust hoovering tactics' and 'narcissist smear campaign'. Forewarned is forearmed.

Where have you got that idea from? No one on this post has said anything like that?

@Kayoh - there's a difference between talking about killing yourself and threatening to kill yourself to someone who dumped you. One is talking about distress. The other is manipulation.

Report to police. One visit and they don't threaten suicide again.

Don’t respond to his emails. Contact 111 or the police and pass on his threats etc.

Distance yourself now. Get a Ring doorbell. If he turns up on your doorstep don’t answer the door. Well done for finishing with him and getting away.

Once men like this realise their threats won’t work they can become dangerous. Please take care OP.

If he kills himself it is his responsibility

It is nothing to do with you

Sorry if this is obvious but it can never be said enough times

If he tries to make you responsible and you say no that does not mean that you do not care. All it means is that you stating a simple truth.

I have read that when a partner threatens to kill themselves that is the time they are more likely to kill you.

Please be careful.

Does he know your new address? Your workplace? Your car? I would ensure your security is 120% and I would alert your neighbours, family, friends and colleagues. Your life is statistically much more at risk right now than his.

Also call the police about the harassment (stalking?) they SHOULD take this very seriously. Mention the suicide threats. That leaves the professionals to support him or smoke him out.

Please know that the risk of severe assault and murder to women escalates to the max when they leave a relationship and for the 2 years following.

Get a ring doorbell and a dash am.

"You made me do it"

A childish argument that some adults never let go of.

Don't reply or respond in any way anymore. Block his emails or mark as spam if you can. Just don't read them.

You need to call the police TONIGHT and explain that he has been constantly harassing you and is now threatening suicide.
Give them his name and address and then wipe your hands of him and block his email address.

Change your email address. I think he’s only saying that to get your attention. You need to completely cut him out of your life.