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To think my DD should go to Edinburgh Uni instead of Kent?

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Girlypops154 · 01/01/2026 17:44

My DD has been accepted to Edinburgh to study Astrophysics and she has also been accepted to Kent University. We live outside of London and she says wants to be closer to home but I say she should go to Scotland because it’s a better university (she has also been accepted to St Andrews but we prefer Edinburgh). We are in a blessed position that we can afford the extra year up there. How do I get to change her mind as she has her mind now set on Kent but I really think going to an RG would be far better. She’s now getting annoyed at me because I keep insisting on Edinburgh. She has also been accepted to Durham and Aberystwyth but neither of them have got back to us yet. Any advice or am I being unreasonable? Thank you.

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CrazyGoatLady · 03/01/2026 08:18

Rosealea · 02/01/2026 17:00

My friends daughter was accepted to Edinburgh and St Andrews for the same course. St Andrew's is far superior and I wouldn't want my child living in Edinburgh.

That said if she doesn't want to move up here then she shouldn't. Closer to home is better for het no matter what you think.

Why, what's in Edinburgh that makes it unacceptable for your child? Dragons? Vampires?

Nofksleft2give · 02/01/2026 22:43

Point taken.

FunnyOrca · 02/01/2026 22:38

OhDear111 · 02/01/2026 19:01

@FunnyOrca She’s surely completed her applications now as she has offers! I’d be interested in Durham though.

She sounds like she might have regretted choosing places so far from home. She could always defer if Kent isn’t the best fit but the only option she has nearby.

OhDear111 · 02/01/2026 21:19

@Nofksleft2give Remote for the DD in question one assumes. Not remote for people in Aberdeen! If you are travelling from Kent it’s a long journey to Aberdeen. Neither is it top 10 for this subject so what’s the point?

Nofksleft2give · 02/01/2026 20:37

Blasterplaster · 02/01/2026 17:06

But I thought someone said Will and Kate were the only good thing about St Andrews???

St Andrews is ranked marginally above Edinburgh overall, but they are VERY different unis (St Andrews is a small town) so people make their minds up depending on how they feel about that. Glasgow’s a good uni. Dundee uni is probably the best thing about Dundee which is an extremely deprived place indeed. Aberdeen is cold and remote.

Aberdeen is cold and remote?

This is a very parochial outlook. It's an ancient university and was rated number one for medicine last year. Remote is a very relative term. Remote from what? London?

ThatHappyBlueCritic · 02/01/2026 19:24

I would investigate why she’s feeling she wants to stay closer to home. It could be many things that are easily fixed with time and support or you may find that she’s struggled with A levels and needs family support to get through them. You don’t want her to go to Edinburgh and then screw up her results due to stress or quit and refuse to finish midway through.
Many kids I have heard from recently are struggling with the concept of independence and becoming an adult. I think making sure they are ready is as important as the university they pick. Maybe plan how often you will visit or she can visit you might be enough for her to feel safe to be that far from home. And as others suggested visit the area more so she maybe feels a connection that makes it less scary.

OhDear111 · 02/01/2026 19:07

@dynamiccactus Do you know, most of us easily get dc from uni miles and miles away. We cope because it’s needed.

OhDear111 · 02/01/2026 19:03

@Picklelily99 ? Durham is 3rd on CUG for this subject, I’d look at recognised league tables not Google. Research in this field really matters and the best lecturers and world recognition.

OhDear111 · 02/01/2026 19:01

@FunnyOrca She’s surely completed her applications now as she has offers! I’d be interested in Durham though.

OhDear111 · 02/01/2026 19:00

@Sartre Manchester is ranked 4. One above St Andrews but below Durham at 3. Professor Cox pulls them in!

macshoto · 02/01/2026 17:46

I’m biased as a St Andrews alumnus, but I would go to St Andrews as first choice, Edinburgh second and Kent a distant third. I went to St Andrews in an era when the trains to Scotland were much slower. It’s now only 4.5-5 hours Edinburgh-London.
As others say, with Kent and Greenwich merging due to financial pressures, I would be worried about the sustainability of smaller / less popular degree courses.

Sartre · 02/01/2026 17:45

I think she’d be better off at Manchester for Astrophysics. I know that isn’t helpful but…

FunnyOrca · 02/01/2026 17:38

Rosealea · 02/01/2026 17:00

My friends daughter was accepted to Edinburgh and St Andrews for the same course. St Andrew's is far superior and I wouldn't want my child living in Edinburgh.

That said if she doesn't want to move up here then she shouldn't. Closer to home is better for het no matter what you think.

Why wouldn’t you want a child to live in Edinburgh?

AgnesMcDoo · 02/01/2026 17:38

Rosealea · 02/01/2026 17:00

My friends daughter was accepted to Edinburgh and St Andrews for the same course. St Andrew's is far superior and I wouldn't want my child living in Edinburgh.

That said if she doesn't want to move up here then she shouldn't. Closer to home is better for het no matter what you think.

What’s wrong with living in Edinburgh?

it’s one of the most beautiful cities in the world.

FunnyOrca · 02/01/2026 17:36

Girlypops154 · 01/01/2026 17:58

I’m not entirely sure. Kent was always the option that she would go to if her A Levels were going worse than expected and I always thought she wanted to move farther afield

I wondered on first read if she’s got the jitters about the up coming change? Moving away from home, school ending, starting university. It is so much! This might be why she is now preferring Kent.

Can you take her up to Edinburgh to visit? Spend time looking at the university area (including near Pollock Halls and the Bruntsfield/Marchmont areas - rite of passage for English students to rent in those areas) and identify the sort of amenities she likes (galleries, leisure centres, outdoor walks, shopping) and take her to those things in Edinburgh? Possibly you could tie in Durham if you hear back!

That being said, I agree with PPs, why not imperial, UCL or even Bristol? I would be so pleased if my child wanted to stay near home, but since your daughter originally didn’t, just check it is not fear of change!

socks1107 · 02/01/2026 17:10

It’s her decision so back off and let her make it for her self

Picklelily99 · 02/01/2026 17:06

Is the degree course of any significance? *a quick Google shows Durham not even in the ratings, and St. Andrews rated highly.

Blasterplaster · 02/01/2026 17:06

Rosealea · 02/01/2026 17:00

My friends daughter was accepted to Edinburgh and St Andrews for the same course. St Andrew's is far superior and I wouldn't want my child living in Edinburgh.

That said if she doesn't want to move up here then she shouldn't. Closer to home is better for het no matter what you think.

But I thought someone said Will and Kate were the only good thing about St Andrews???

St Andrews is ranked marginally above Edinburgh overall, but they are VERY different unis (St Andrews is a small town) so people make their minds up depending on how they feel about that. Glasgow’s a good uni. Dundee uni is probably the best thing about Dundee which is an extremely deprived place indeed. Aberdeen is cold and remote.

Eepers · 02/01/2026 17:00

Blasterplaster · 02/01/2026 16:51

I have two children at uni who are fully funded by us. The third is old enough to go in 18 months. They currently want to do a 3rd rate degree at a 3rd rate uni, despite being the brightest in their school by a long way and never having got less than 91% in an exam. They can choose what they want to study and where, but if they go for their current idea they’ll be funding every penny themselves. We as parents are more experienced in life and should ensure our children don’t blindly make disasterous mistakes!

Exactly

Rosealea · 02/01/2026 17:00

My friends daughter was accepted to Edinburgh and St Andrews for the same course. St Andrew's is far superior and I wouldn't want my child living in Edinburgh.

That said if she doesn't want to move up here then she shouldn't. Closer to home is better for het no matter what you think.

Blasterplaster · 02/01/2026 16:57

BoredZelda · 02/01/2026 14:03

This is absolutely true for UoE. £140m cuts in the next two years. Large numbers of redundancies coming, teaching programmes cut and scaled back, a freeze on capital spending. A lot what is happening internally has been kept out of the press but it is a financial shitshow at the moment.

This isn’t true at all! Billions of £ in investments at Edinburgh. Other unis have £0. Edinburgh proactively making savings to balance income to spending while other unis bury their heads in the sand. The University of Edinburgh is loaded, it’s just not stupid enough to think running at a loss year after year is a good idea - it’s not!

Nofksleft2give · 02/01/2026 16:53

MimiGC · 02/01/2026 16:02

OP - has your daughter visited Canterbury, Edinburgh and the other possible places? If not, I would strongly recommend it, as actually seeing the university and the cities can make all the difference. I know it’s expensive and time consuming, but it really is worth the investment.

Seconding this. The science campus in Edinburgh is no where near the centre of town where the hub of the university is. Depending on where students live it can involve quite a commute to reach every day.

Blasterplaster · 02/01/2026 16:51

2chocolateoranges · 02/01/2026 12:23

Wow!, wow, wow!

our children do not belong to us, we do not make their choices for them, we trust that how we have supported and guided them growing up enables them to make valued choices and decisions in their life and for their future .

we believe that with the guidance and support we have given is a good solid foundation for them to make their own choices in life.

surely that’s what adults do?

I have two children at uni who are fully funded by us. The third is old enough to go in 18 months. They currently want to do a 3rd rate degree at a 3rd rate uni, despite being the brightest in their school by a long way and never having got less than 91% in an exam. They can choose what they want to study and where, but if they go for their current idea they’ll be funding every penny themselves. We as parents are more experienced in life and should ensure our children don’t blindly make disasterous mistakes!

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 02/01/2026 16:46

HighStreetOtter · 01/01/2026 19:37

Kent is highly likely to get rid of more specialist/smaller number degrees as the merger goes ahead. Think they have done for languages and iirc a poster on here had a dc at Kent doing some sort of more specialised degree and recruitment for that degree was stopped when she was already a student.

yes they have to “teach the course out” but they can only do it to the extent that they have staff. And of course lecturers don’t hang around for three years when the writing is on the wall. So suddenly you’re halfway through a degree course and you find your only options are more mainstream physics ones as nobody is left who can teach astronomy or space science. It’s a possibility.

thats what happened to that Mumsnetters Dd, suddenly the modules she was expecting weren’t available.

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This a hundred times....

It has to be her decision... But i would be putting all this info re Kent going bust in front of her...

Demotivated, upset staff leave.... This has a profound impact on the teaching /overall experience..

I once had to do a professional course at a failing uni... It was utter rubbish... No one gave a toss on staff as they were so run down by it all...

dynamiccactus · 02/01/2026 16:36

Fry12 · 02/01/2026 14:21

I think it’s about balance. At 18, they’re teenagers still and do need some form of guidance. If it was free then I’d probably say go ahead and let her choose but in a world where almost everyone has degrees, getting a graduate job is hard, the amount of money it costs, where you attend has to be considered.

I think if parents are funding education, they do get an opinion. Maybe not the deciding vote but they should be able to say that one university might be a better choice over another.

Yes you can definitely express an opinion. However, when it comes to lugging your dd's stuff around you might be glad she stayed close-ish to London ;)