To give myself box room?

I was looking to see if someone said this ..my sister did this and it destroyed the family dynamics her 2 daughters treated her with huge disrespect in the time afterwards

I’d say go for it - I’m the same as long as I have a bed and space to put clothes all good

EXCEPT - why does DD1 need the biggest room?! I hate this the eldest gets the biggest and best stuff - they didn’t choose their birth order so she stays in her room and Dc2 has to e biggest and you say as they have had the smallest for x amount of years they now get the biggest room

I have done just that over Christmas but for slightly different reasons. I have a two bed house with a lounge and dining room downstairs and I lived in the dining room changed in to a bedroom for 10 years.

However, my son has become unwell needing me to be close overnight, so I am now in the upstairs box room opposite his room which is the biggest in the house. I have painted it soft pink, have a small double bed, cute bedding and some clever storage and it is a cosy and lovely space. Not ideal circumstances but it was better this way for my peace of mind.

My friends have re-shuffled bedrooms every couple of years according to who is at home eg when the inhabitant of the biggest room went to university, when one child came home from uni with a husband...

My kids have all swapped rooms over the years as they've moved away and then moved back

I did this when I had a 2 bedroom place, and my DC shared the larger room. You can get some great storage solutions these days! I got a small double bed with storage underneath it, a wardrobe with a sliding door, and shelves with baskets on for some of my smaller clothes and toiletries etc.

I would - then sort of have the rest of the house to myself without their clutter and mess everywhere. Win-win!

I wouldn't. It suggests a hierarchy where the kids are the most important people in the house and therefore get more than thier mother.

Plus you may eventually end up in another relationship or have friends/family to stay.

There was a thread about box rooms a few months ago: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/home_decoration_pictures/5426160-show-me-your-cosy-box-rooms?page=1

Currently looking at houses post divorce, and I would do the same. The only thing stopping me is that young DC still get in bed with me most nights and we couldn’t do that in a single.

Edited to add that I’d make a single out of kallax units for extra storage, and commandeer some storage in DC rooms if need be.

My parents had the tiny bedroom when I was a kid. They had the rest of the downstairs too really - particularly as we got older we would hang out in our rooms a lot. They were massive and we could have sleepovers, Lego setups, whatever. My parents just used their room to sleep and would hang out in the living room or kitchen.

And of course, if DD2 has always had the smaller room, why not give her the large room and DD1 stay in the medium one?

I wouldn’t, unless you’re very sure.

The kids will go to university and you’ll be lest the smallest room. It will be hard to take back the large room.

Do you have enough space for your things?

And would you want it back once they're teenagers and stay up late either friends?

My sister did this. Her kids are 13 and 16.

I did this a few years ago for similar reasons and it's great. I do use the big cupboard in largest bedroom to store various stuff like camping kit, a few long dresses of mine etc that don't fit elsewhere.

I don’t see why not. We are having similar discussions about downsizing our bedroom to give the kids the bigger ones in the house because we don’t use our bedrooms for much other than sleeping and getting dressed, but they use them for sleepovers, play dates, just playing by themselves, doing their crafts and stuff at their desk, etc. It’s all about best use of space, isn’t it? And that will be individual to each family, so if works for you then that’s all that matters.

I think you could make a small bedroom really quite cosy too!

We have the box room! We made the same decision about three years ago. I mean, it's not the same as having our old room as we can only fit our bed (no walk around room) and a bedside table - dh has the windowsill as his table, we've had to take the door off and install a folding door and we have a chest of drawers on the landing for our clothes, and my dressing table has been given to our dd and mine is disguised in the living room. But, the kids have so much more space. They can have friends over, they have room for sleepovers and they really enjoy their bigger rooms. It won't be forever though and one day, we'll have a bigger room again!

Go for it, they probably spend more time in their rooms than you do in yours and will continue to do so as they get older. Will it give you enough storage space for clothes etc? I assume you have a downstairs space you can spend time in - living room or similar? I suppose the only thing to make sure of is that you have somewhere in the house that you can relax.

My friend had 4 siblings.

The largest bedroom had 3 youngest siblings, with partitions made by bookcases etc.

Friend and older sibling had medium sized room.

Mum and dad in a double bed that just squished in to the box room.

It's was common back then 60s/70s with larger families.

I did something similar about 8 years ago - my two boys had the two big bedrooms and I moved. Just made more sense…you have to use your space to suit you and your family.

We moved downstairs for similar reasons. Whatever makes the kids more comfortable

I moved downstairs so they can have own space

I have noticed as an adult I don’t spend time in my room like I did as a kid and teen, like you it is just for sleeping

Plus they will have space to study it for play dates etc