AIBU that I don’t want to pay for this woman’s alcohol everytime I see her?

I never took part in buying rounds and never would again. It’s not worth it buy your own drink and then it’s okay and no drama and this would become a non issue and also if I’ve ever wanted to buy just someone a drink I would just do that

This isn't Rounds Culture. I never get into rounds with soft drinkers; I drink wine, and that can be anywhere between £5 and £15 a glass depending on where we go. That would be robbery!

If there is a soft drinker among us, we usually just buy them a drink when we go up to the bar.

I would ignore “rounds” and just say to your friend “you got me one earlier, what would you like?” …. if stingy woman tries to put an order in I’d just smile and say “oh I think it’s your round actually”!

Rounds only work where people meet regularly, drink drinks of a similar price and drink at a similar pace.

Write off those 2 drinks, but next time you meet up, before your bums even hit the seats, say to Woman 2 in a friendly, loud voice, "Jane! I think it's your turn to get the first round isn't it? I'll have a coke please. Miriam? Ruth? What do you want?"

I would ignore her, address the people you do want to buy drinks for, “Katie and Susie, I’m going to the beer can I get you anything?” If she did pick up on what you were asking this time, she’ll get the message. If she didn’t say you don’t have enough hands and she’ll have to come to the bar.

Buy your own. Getting into rounds with people who have expensive alcoholic drinks isn't fair if you're only on soft drinks. They come out of it better than you because they only have to buy you a cheap drink whereas you have to buy them expensive ones

This is how you do it.

Just don’t buy rounds. I have similar situation with a friend who drinks larg3 wines whilst I drink soft drinks as I drive. I just made it clear at the start of our meet-ups that I’d prefer to just buy my own. Whether or not she agrees with it (although why would she not?), I’m not sure. But you just have to be assertive and upfront, and then you’ve made your position very clear.

Yes. It doesn’t sound like it’s much more than the cost of the soft drink. Couple of £. For the sake of not blowing up a big argument I couldn’t get excited about it. If that amount is a struggle for the OP, that is different but then I wouldn’t think the OP would suggest rounds in those circumstances. With rounds unless everyone drinks the same and they drink enough for each person to buy a round, there is always disparity and so you either accept that or say no to rounds.

I agree- it doesn't really even out at all if you dont drink alcohol (like me) and rarely go to the pub. I know some people that always drink things like expensive cocktails and double spirits - totally fine, its their choice and I am not judging what they choose to drink but its hardly fair when I am always drinking Diet Coke!

Tell her it's her turn to buy the first round.

Or stop doing rounds.

Yeah, this is what I do. Make it clear from the start and then stick to it. Voila - problem solved. As ling as you state it upfront no-one can argue.

It probably evens out if you are a regular pub goer and (no offence!) a biggish drinker. If you're a light weight or someone who doesn't like to drink a lot of alcohol it definitely doesn't balance over a lifetime.

Round culture is stupid, I've never participated unless it's genuinely easier and equitable. I assumed it would be dying out with COL these days! Just don't participate.

You’d be ok with spending £5-7 on the same person each time, and they never pay for any drinks?

Try the direct approach: “Haha, fuck no I’m not buying a round. I’m so over some people in this group never buying a round. Let’s buy our own drinks going forward”.

I once was on a work trip with about 10 colleagues and someone else on the trip “forgot his wallet” at dinner two nights running. The first night everyone chipped in to pay for him. The second night I told him in front of everyone that it was no problem - we’d wait while he nipped back to the hotel to collect it. That was a proper walk of shame.

Some people are so thick skinned you have to be quite blunt. They convince themselves that other people don’t mind paying for them and it’s only a problem if someone raises it. So help them socially by raising it.

Next time don't offer. Just get up and say you're going to get a drink. If she attempts to ask for a drink say "actually it's your round as I got you a drink last time. So I'll have a .... ". Let it be awkward! Who cares! If you do want to offer others drinks that got you a drink then do so and conveniently forget the freeloaders drink. Say oops, forgot.... then let them get up and get their own!

Rounds are a nightmare. If I buy a round im not expecting the drinks back - there are many cheapskates out there, unless its close friends just say "im getting my own thanks"

I enjoy round culture and generally think it all evens out. Maybe not with individuals, but over a lifetime, I won't buy more drinks than I've had bought for me.

I rarely turn down the offer of a drink, even if there won't be an opportunity that evening to reciprocate. I do know when it's my turn first next time though.

For serial offenders I'd have no trouble at all saying "Sarah, it must be your round" when we arrive next time.

OP it's you that's trying to do rounds, no one else is. Infact they are trying to put a stop to it by not continuing it.
Just buy your own drink, there's no expectation to do rounds.

I don't know how to do a link but if you google Hale and Pace, myroundaphobia, I think you'll see that she has a medical condition.

Don't do rounds, cheeky cow.

Round-dodgers are the scum of the earth. How can you enjoy this woman's company?

You’re also missing the point that the other two women don’t do rounds either, they’ll have cottoned on to the CF so you also need to just buy your own drinks