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Can I wear fur?

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CosmopolitanCocktail · 31/12/2025 17:16

I have two fur coats previously owned by my great grandmother.
I have kept them in my wardrobe for the last 20 years.
One is a short mink coat so now bang on trend.
I am a total animal lover but these animals died 60 years ago and the pelts are beautiful. To just discard them seems wasteful so truly torn.
So would I AIBU to wear it?

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CortieTat · 03/01/2026 11:10

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 03/01/2026 10:29

It is not whataboutery as my original post was in reply to a woman who binned a vintage fur and bought a faux fur one instead. Thereby adding to the total sum of dead animals in the world.

Exactly.

Terriblytwee · 03/01/2026 10:32

I wouldn’t. I’d be constantly thinking about the horror that the animal went through and its death. I’d also hate to be considered a woman who thinks it’s ok to wear fur and all that entails. I couldn’t legitimise that.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 03/01/2026 10:29

It is not whataboutery as my original post was in reply to a woman who binned a vintage fur and bought a faux fur one instead. Thereby adding to the total sum of dead animals in the world.

Gloriia · 03/01/2026 10:26

CortieTat · 03/01/2026 08:13

I assume you were not born yesterday and are therefore aware of the disastrous effects of the fashion industry on the environment? There are already numerous campaigns, documentaries and studies available. Charities and people who care about the effects of fashion on the environment have to take on giants like Shein or Inditex. The scale is not comparable to the campaign against the fur industry. Fur trade was never that big and so heavily marketed.

How is it whataboutery to point out that burning a vintage fur won’t bring the animals back to life? The fur farms have been banned in most developed countries, even the largest producers like Norway closed their farms eventually, whereas overproduction of clothing remains one the biggest environmental threat nowadays.

I am not condoning the fur industry but it’s always a better choice for the animals that are still alive on this planet to reuse existing clothing rather than buy new, especially synthetic ones.

https://earth.org/data_visualization/impacts-of-fast-fashion-on-the-environment/

and some more:

https://changingmarkets.org/report/fashions-plastic-paralysis/

I really hope the day when people throw drinks at fake fur as eagerly as at real ones is coming because otherwise we are doomed.

No, I wasn't born yesterday. Do try to debate without being so rude and unpleasant.

This thread is about a real fur coat and whether the op should wear it, the answer is no. Slaughtering for fur is abhorrent. Wearing it because it won't bring the poor slaughtered animal back to life is a ridiculous excuse.

You could maybe take your whataboutery and stats and start another unrelated thread about fashion and the environment?

CortieTat · 03/01/2026 08:13

Gloriia · 01/01/2026 09:14

'How do you think faux fur is made? Do you think there is no pollution involved?'

Well campaign to stop fake fur production then! For some posters to argue that pollution caused by manufacturing of fake fur compares to inhumane conditions and horrific slaughter in the production of revolting real fur coats is whataboutery gone mad.

I assume you were not born yesterday and are therefore aware of the disastrous effects of the fashion industry on the environment? There are already numerous campaigns, documentaries and studies available. Charities and people who care about the effects of fashion on the environment have to take on giants like Shein or Inditex. The scale is not comparable to the campaign against the fur industry. Fur trade was never that big and so heavily marketed.

How is it whataboutery to point out that burning a vintage fur won’t bring the animals back to life? The fur farms have been banned in most developed countries, even the largest producers like Norway closed their farms eventually, whereas overproduction of clothing remains one the biggest environmental threat nowadays.

I am not condoning the fur industry but it’s always a better choice for the animals that are still alive on this planet to reuse existing clothing rather than buy new, especially synthetic ones.

https://earth.org/data_visualization/impacts-of-fast-fashion-on-the-environment/

and some more:

https://changingmarkets.org/report/fashions-plastic-paralysis/

I really hope the day when people throw drinks at fake fur as eagerly as at real ones is coming because otherwise we are doomed.

Impacts of Fast Fashion on the Environment | Earth.Org

Fashion, especially fast fashion, is among the most damaging industries for the environment, responsible for 10% of carbon emissions and 20% of wastewater.

https://earth.org/data_visualization/impacts-of-fast-fashion-on-the-environment/

averychoc · 01/01/2026 22:28

When my Nanna died we put her fur coat in the skip. There were a few options for it but by far the easiest for us at a really difficult time was just to load it into the skip outside when we were clearing out her house. It never occurred to us once that it should be worn again.

Hoppinggreen · 01/01/2026 22:04

CosmopolitanCocktail · 31/12/2025 17:27

Doesn’t bring them back to life though does it?

Sounds like you have decided its ok to wear them then.
I wouldn't do it but I think its down to the individual

Wordsmithery · 01/01/2026 21:58

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 31/12/2025 19:23

Leather is not a byproduct of the meat, or dairy, industry. HTH.

PETA define it as a co-product in fact, which chimes with what you're saying (I think).

SpanThatWorld · 01/01/2026 09:23

CosmopolitanCocktail · 31/12/2025 17:27

Doesn’t bring them back to life though does it?

Ah.
The response of the person who didn't want to be told that there's an alternative to binning the skins of dead animals.

You want to wear it and you want us all to tell you it's fine. Aggravating when someone suggests something else, isn't it?

Gloriia · 01/01/2026 09:14

'How do you think faux fur is made? Do you think there is no pollution involved?'

Well campaign to stop fake fur production then! For some posters to argue that pollution caused by manufacturing of fake fur compares to inhumane conditions and horrific slaughter in the production of revolting real fur coats is whataboutery gone mad.

Sharptonguedwoman · 01/01/2026 09:05

No. You can't wear a notice to say these are vintage so it's ok. The wearing of fur? Absolutely unacceptable, for me at least.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/01/2026 07:48

Gloriia · 31/12/2025 21:34

Allegedly dying form pollution because of fake fur trade (where do you get that from out of interest?) Is not comparable to being kept in horrific conditions then being skinned alive is it?

How do you think faux fur is made? Do you think there is no pollution involved?

Real fur is worse on immediate visible animal cruelty, I give you that, but by every other metric faux is dreadful. Including long-term environmental harms of the sort that kill animals slowly and painfully.

wombat1a · 01/01/2026 02:11

Its a sad stte of affairs when you can not wear vintage clothing because you're worried how people will treat you.

Datgal · 01/01/2026 01:51

Yeah. Not a good look. You wouldn't say the same thing about ivory. And that's been banned.
Just awful. The only thing the fur looks good on is the animal it came from.
Photo looks horrendous.

Derpytiger · 01/01/2026 01:16

Not sure why you're posting as you seem convinced already it's fine to wear. Vintage fur fuels the fur industry by making it appear acceptable to wear fur therefore creating demand. This is well documented. Thankfully it's now illegal to farm animals for fur in the UK however fur is still sold as fake on the high street and fur is imported. The animals farmed and killed for fur suffer cruelly throughout the process. I can tell real fur and I would absolutely judge anyone for wearing it. It also looks rank when humans wear it and looks much nicer on the animals who died to make it. Burn it.

StepsNotMiles · 01/01/2026 01:06

www.peta.org.uk/blog/vintage-fur/

Gloriia · 31/12/2025 21:34

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 31/12/2025 19:15

I woukd be willing to bet more animals die from the faux fur trade (loss of habitat, pollution etc) than from vintage fur

Allegedly dying form pollution because of fake fur trade (where do you get that from out of interest?) Is not comparable to being kept in horrific conditions then being skinned alive is it?

CortieTat · 31/12/2025 21:02

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 31/12/2025 19:15

I woukd be willing to bet more animals die from the faux fur trade (loss of habitat, pollution etc) than from vintage fur

This. Plus marine life killed after every wash. So sensible.

Rosealea · 31/12/2025 20:48

Don't be ridiculous no matter what time has passed, it'll never be ok 😡

Jumpingthruhoops · 31/12/2025 20:46

Dartmoorcheffy · 31/12/2025 17:23

Leather is a byproduct of animals that have been humanely killed for the food chain. Fur absolutely is not and involves the unnecessary and cruel death of animals purely for their coats.

Was coming on to say exactly this! 👏👏

Garroty · 31/12/2025 20:39

This is a relatively morally neutral way to wear fur but I couldn't do it. To wear something that I knew was the product of intense suffering and cruelty would really distress me. But I don't consume animal products at all so I'm aware not everyone feels this way.

BohoGarden · 31/12/2025 20:36

A little while ago there was a flurry of posts on here obviously by the same poster under different names. They were all, "Look at this vintage fur coat - surely this is more ethical than buying a new coat and ohhh, my boyfriend loves me in it."

Turned out she owned a fur shop in London and was trying to normalise the wearing of fur. This OP is giving me the same vibe,

Don't wear it OP. It looks ratty and the poor animal probably had a miserable caged life and a horrendous death, perhaps skinned alive. That's what you're parading if you wear it. Could that feel comfortable under any circumstance?

Poppy123xyz · 31/12/2025 20:06

I'd donate them to an animal charity, orphan animals can use them in their nest. To someone above defending leather, there is no such thing as humane killing for the food chain. They just do a great job hiding the hideous reality. I don't wear leather either, or consume any animal products at all. I know that's not for everyone, but I love and respect animals.

Sunandfrost · 31/12/2025 20:02

I also find wasting parts of animal because they are undesirable bad.

Sunandfrost · 31/12/2025 20:00

blacksax · 31/12/2025 19:52

That leather is from the carcasses of animals slaughtered for food. The animals killed to make fur coats only died so someone well-off could wear a fancy outfit.

One is a by-product of the food industry which would otherwise be thrown away. The other is the unnecessary murder of animals (often endangered species) for no purpose other than human vanity. See the difference?

That is not necessarily true though.
Rabbits are used for meat. Minks were primarily fur but also oil. I guess not much to eat there...
Yes, mink industry was shit, no one can deny that but it's a bit of a farce to say all fur comes from animal that is not eaten or used for anything else while leather is.