Another short-term relationship ended...why? :(

Sounds to me like he was latching onto an excuse to end the relationship. I have an ex,who towards the end of our relationship, would deliberately engineer arguments and situations that would make him feel justified in ending things between us.

Sorry to say - this sounds like an ex of mine , she was 5ft 1 and i am 6ft, she did what you did and i never got over it, imagine if she did the same to you.

I do not think when someone says they want to leave you should block their way, and use your size as an excuse to dismiss how you made them feel.

Glad he left you OP, look at it the other way around.

You appear to have been doing something that he perceived as an attempt to stop him leaving of his own free will. Your small size and stature having nothing to do with this….it was your behaviour that caused him to feel you were obstructing him.

Perhaps there’s been an incident in his past when a similar situation occurred and there was either a third person or even a weapon involved which he would now find triggering.

It's not the kind of language men tend to use in my experience, so I wonder if he was couching it in terms he thought OP would understand. It seems unlikely that he felt physically threatened, but if he's the kind of man who would never make a move against a woman even when she's attacking him then he may have been worried she'd hurt him, even if he could defend himself.

There isn't much to go on, but if OP has been dramatic or emotionally manipulative with crying and so on (and people don't always realise they're doing it), and/or if she uses language like this to describe situations and relationships, then it might be that the words he used wouldn't be the best ones, or the ones he'd prefer, to describe his thought process, but they might be the ones he thought she'd understand and accept or respond to the best.

I was wondering what the argument/disagreement was about?

I am trying to understand why the partner getting up to leave was such a trigger for you?

Do you have any other issues from childhood or past relationships, you obviously don't have to answer but if might help you to figure out why this keeps happening?

Men and women don’t generally like overly emotional relationships especially over small things. I get you, I had bad PMT when younger and I’m sure I was a pita sometimes.

Too much drama. Try getting therapy.

'Another short term relationship ended where I was in love'. This sentence sums up the issue, it sounds like you are falling in love very quickly and trying to make things work with people who are unsuitable or cannot meet your emotional needs.
Maybe a little more restraint and try not to get too emotionally invested too soon.
Good luck OP things will work out x

Exactly this. He did the right thing.

If someone has a succession of failed short-term relationships, and claims they were ‘in love’ every time, though, that’s quite the red flag.

Is this fair?

It’s never unfair to end a relationship that doesn’t feel right.

If I was dating a man who cried and got ‘heightened emotions’ during a minor disagreement and then tried to bar me from leaving his house, I’d dump him. It’s got nothing to do with who’s physically bigger/stronger: I do not and will not tolerate that sort of behaviour. It’s childish and OTT and you sound very intense and melodramatic.

Fairly obvious to me why he felt unsafe.
He didnt feel unsafe because op might hurt him.
He felt unsafe because she clearly cant be trusted and as she clearly was v emotional and tried to block him leaving, his reaction or not then leaves him in a very vulnerable state.
Does he move her and risk her going nuts and accusing him of assault?
Does he not move and risk her lashing out at him?
I can imagine him standing there thinking ' how the f do i extricate myself here without it turning into a shitshow'.
Cos lets face it if he did put his hand on her it could easily result in her feeling/looking/ assaulted
Thats where he felt unsafe.
Not in his physical self.
Pretty obvious to me tbh.
And hes right. You dont seem like a safe place.

Maybe him feeling unsafe is not about him feeling physically in danger but because he's very aware of the difference between you in size and strength and felt that you provoking a physical confrontation was going to put him in a dangerous situation where he might, unwillingly, hurt you. You prevented him from leaving, meaning that he either had to manhandle you or give in to you. That sounds pretty manipulative

The crying and blocking sounds very intense. Also, the type of men who want long term relationships often want children.

I am also tempted to see "feeling unsafe" as an overreaction, but in fairness even a short woman can do a man quite a lot of damage especially if he isn't willing to fight back (because he thinks it's always wrong to manhandle a woman or because he's afraid any self-defence will be used against him).

You're right. Of course you are. But I do think that if someone is often "falling in love" over and over again, in each short term relationship.....its a red flag

I would also dump someone who was so unregulated in a ‘small argument’.

I think you need to unpack what happened a little. I don’t mean you need to share it here if you prefer not but to work things through yourself. You said it was a ‘small argument’ but this can cover a whole range of things. And something seemingly small can reflect much deeper issues. You said ‘he got up to leave’- do you just mean leave the room? If so, the reason for the argument and the way you both engaged in it needs understanding. Why was it an argument rather then a discussion? You said you became ‘emotional, crying a lot etc’- why? Were you upset that he was leaving mid argument? Or because he wasn’t hearing you? Or what? You blocked him leaving and said it was an emotionally charged situation- why? I’ve no idea whether this man was worth your time or not but I think it can be useful to reflect on yourself and your reactions to work out better ways to navigate things. Good luck.

I don’t think OP is coming back. With out an explanation of what the argument was about and why she was so upset that she stood in front of the door, it’s hard to know if it’s her fault?

Though this early on in a relationship it’s pretty rare to say you love someone, also rare to be having such emotional disagreements. Maybe you are investing too much too soon? Maybe you are being a but full on? Or even manipulative by crying in order to make him feel sorry for you and back down?

I would spend some time being single, maybe get some therapy based around ‘what is a good relationship’ and don’t rush next time. A relationship should be fun, there shouldn’t be arguments and tears so early on.

Genuinely if you can I would get some therapy. Work on yourself, your emotions. Work out what you actually want in life. Because a man should compliment your already fulfilled life. Not complete it.
I would recommend therapy to everyone, once you feel better within yourself you’ll attract the right person

Yes but if falling madly and intensely in love (screaming, crying, throwing up) within the first few months is a pattern you can identify with multiple men you’ve dated recently then perhaps PP was correct. It was OP getting too intense and had little to do with the men themselves. I think the fact the love didn’t seem to reciprocated echoes this too. Two people in love quickly - fair enough. One person thinking they’re in love and the other backing out of the room - infatuation.

lol I hope you felt great writing this

plenty of people know whether they’re in love or not within the first few months

He’s full of it and making excuses, I doubt he felt unsafe.

Regardless it’s his prerogative to be able to end things. I’m really sorry and I hope you find someone who is in the same page as you.

OP I’m sorry you’re having a bad end to the year and heartbreak is tough. But maybe take this time to spend a bit of time on yourself this book is good https://www.worldofbooks.com/en-gb/products/how-to-not-die-alone-book-logan-ury-9780349428291?sku=GOR011333506&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19553277260&gbraid=0AAAAADZzAIB5NdcPcqugAIa8lwjhCEwCt&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIlb3pyZnokQMVZ5pQBh3SugBMEAQYASABEgIhrPD_BwE
(title is a bit of a joke) or look up the book ‘Attached’.

If a relationship has this much upset and volatility it’s maybe not one that is great for either of you.

A short term (6 to 9 months?) relationship ended and you were in love?

Firstly, no, you weren't. I can be sure of this because you have said "another" which means you aren't in love with all these men. You're in limerance/lust/in love with the idea of the relationship

Crying and blocking his exit? Wtf? I dont care how tall you are. That is a very very unpleasant way to react.

Get some counselling

Stop pretending to fall in love

Grow up