New puppy...

I believe it’s possible to have a vaccine made up.
Put air purifiers in each room and keep them on.
Keep the fur short and have her bathed weekly. (Nowadays shampoos for dogs are very good) Talk to the Groomer who clips and bathes the dog,she should be able to recommend sprays etc.
Find a herbalist/ homeopathic vet/ homeopathic doctor to talk to.
Your partner sounds as if he’s feeling very guilty. Could you involve him in your search for an answer?
At a push….would you consider asking a neighbour/ friend/ local person to house her. The children could visit to feed, groom , exercise They could change and wash before coming home.

Best wishes for sorting this problem.

I honestly can’t believe you were so stupid as to cave in the first place. You now need to remind EVERYONE that this is not your dog, you made it clear from the beginning that you would have nothing to do with her, therefore THEY need to do full 100% care. End of. None of this, well just have her for a morning lark. YOU need to be as hard as they are.

There is no such thing as a hypoallergenic dog. I’m allergic to dogs, can tolerate about an hour or two in the same house before I start sneezing, wheezing eyes puff up, it’s actually on my medical notes as slow anaphylaxis because the reaction is so severe.

There is absolutely no way we could ever have one. Despite the pressure from my kids and DH. Being able to tolerate one a couple of times is completely different to having one in your house! If you knew you were allergic to them why agree?

If anything you are unlikely to build immunity to any dog

Your DH is treating you like an unwanted housemate.
Stop looking after his dog at least until you know if your allergy will subside.

Completely agree. I despise the whole designer dog breeding thing. Could moan about it for hours.

This whole thread is so sad. People buying dogs with no thought of the impact, getting rid because it’s not the easy dream they imagined, back yard breeders charging hundreds for a crossbreed. The whole thing is a farce and the animal suffers.

You agreed to getting a dog so you have to do the responsible thing and step up. If you knew you were allergic, why did you agree? As always, it’s the poor animal that suffers.

FWIW, you will build an immunity to your dog over time. I used to be crazy allergic to dogs and horses. I own two of each.

@Doggynono the fact he wants you to pay him back doesn't seems to bother you suggests that your sense of what is right/wrong/fair in a normal relationship is off.

You have a bigger problem to deal and suggest not to add a puppy to the mix. Don't waste time and energy managing the allergy, rehome the dog before the kids get attached (it would also be a kind thing to do to the dog provided you find her a suitable home) and focus on how your husband treats you. You are focusing on the wrong thing at the moment.

It's because people pay it. They are mislead by "hybrid vigour" and do not realise the parents of the dogs will not be good examples of the foundation breeds, are unlikely to be health tested, may be totally incompatible conformation wise, may have serious underlying health issues and the "breeders" are actually puppy farmers focussed on money not dog welfare.

There are low allergy breeds eg pure poodle. A pure poodle would have been much more suitable in the current example. There are also non poodle breeds. It's easy to google and is what should have been done here.

The problem here is your nasty, selfish husband who is treating you cruelly.
Please look into healthy vs abusive relationships and assertiveness.

What you have said about your husband is alarming. Healthy relationships don't look like that and you deserve better.

It's very sad that the dog didn't work out (not least for the innocent dog) but it needs to be rehomed.

So much to unpack here:
The decision making
The partner
The coercion
The Unethical Breeder
The Financial bullying

Main point though you are ALLERGIC
My DS (age 22) is allergic to dogs, has been since he was tiny, requires Salbutamol inhaler etc this year he also ended up on a course of STEROIDS following a bad reaction after being around a dog as he couldnt breathe properly!
The GP said he must NOT be around dogs

It's obvious, re-home.

I can't believe you need to ask.

Purely because you mentioned your holiday...I have luckily built up an immunity to my own dog - although take daily antihistamines and inhalers still, but if I spend more than a few days away from him or away from my home, that immunity starts from scratch. Be prepared to go through it after each holiday. I knew this going in, so was well aware of the commitment. FWIW, I am terribly allergic to every family and friends' poodle crosses I have met, there is no guarantee with them.

At least after you ditch your arsehole and the dog goes to his house you can fumigate the kids on handover days and your house will be allergen free 💁🏼‍♀️ not what the thread is about, but his behaviour and comments are absolutely disgusting! I hope your symptoms improve in the new year.

You can get dander wipes that you use on the dog I believe. I’m not sure if they work but it might be something to look into.

So you answer to that is that you say it's either me or the dog. And stick to it. He cannot expect you to live like this for at least 12 years.

You crossed two cross breeds. Not a good idea at all.

You’ve got 4 breeds of dog thete

the only one that doesn’t malt is the poodle.

The partner, yea?

I’m allergic to all animal hair but we have a dog and we did have 3 cats. I used to suffer terribly when they were new to the household and was having to take antihistamines twice a day. Over time though, I have built up my immunity and my own animals no longer affects me. Really hope that taking antihistamines and being careful with clothing and bedding helps you!

Crates used properly aren’t cruel. My last dog was a nutcase as a puppy. He would not sleep. He fell asleep on me once through his whole puppyhood. The only way he’d sleep was if we put him in his crate for an hour, as that was his little space where he felt calm, he wouldn’t have stayed in a normal dog bed at that age as he was too hyper.

He slept in it overnight for the first few months and it made toilet training a total breeze with him. Once he was a few months old he didn’t need the crate anymore and progressed to a normal dog bed and being loose in the house all the time.

They aren’t designed for the dog to live in, they’re for overnight and very brief periods of time during the day. It wouldn’t mean they’re never taken for a walk or exercised, not sure why you’d think that.

It can live outside in a kennel

Wouldn’t make a jot of difference. No such thing as a hypoallergenic dog. It’s not even the fur, it’s generally dander and saliva that causes allergic reactions.

Why would the father being a poodle make it ok? It would still be a cross breed.

You really think she should pay this arsehole back half his money when he hasn’t thought of her well being at all? Dream on springs to mind.

If you can hang on a while longer you may well adjust. When I lost my childhood dog, my allergies towards dogs became worse, and when we got a new dog 18 months later, I was quite allergic to him. Over time it faded to a manageable level (I.e I’d need to rub my face on the dog to really get a bad reaction!)

Ive known the same with other people, getting a pet they’re allergic to and kind of “acclimating” to it.

Exactly this. Poor dog

We have a cat and dog, husband is allergic to both. And they're his pets!
If it is any help, fexofenadine (prescription strength) work far better than other antihistamines.
Husband's allergies are so bad that he's been referred to dermatology and immunology and will be starting new medication which should re-set his immune system shortly.
Dont know about the system you mentioned.