New puppy...

Your DH sounds like a bully
The dog sounds delightful,and will make a family a loving pet
Just not your family..
Op ,you are important
,you count
,you can't be living like this

The dog absolutely must go back to the breeder,
and I'd probably think about sending the DH back home to his mil ,unless he started to be kinder to you x

Either the dog gets rehomed or you do. Why does your partner care so little about your health?

The more you say, the more toxic he sounds, OP.

Try some petal cleanse - can help a bit

try an air purifier too. See if you can build up some tolerance to her over time - but this is only if your allergies are not very severe and breathing difficulties really need consideration here

switch up your antihistamine to another type to see if that works and keep a good air flow in the house

All you can do really, practicality wise. Partner wise - that’s a whole different ball game

Ten ..
Mine lived much longer
Dog needs to go back to the breeder asap

Make sure the puppy has had a bath since leaving the litter, as the dander and muck build up greatly in the nest. Then get your dick of a husband to PETAL CLEANSE the pup. We do ours weekly and it has to be done well - it makes a huge difference. I am allergic and manage fine as long as I don't sleep with Fido.

There's a product called Petal Cleanse that you can use on the dog to reduce allergens, particularly if it's the dander that you are allergic to. It takes a few days to work but it really does help - one friend of ours who was severely allergic to cats now has four, and another who was allergic to dogs has two, with no problems.

allergyshop.co.uk/product/bio-life-petal-cleanse-dog/

The dog isn’t the biggest problem in your home…

Franky this sounds like financial control or abuse. Why have you no money or no access to it?

@Doggynono I'm also allergic, but I lived for more than 10 years with hypoallergenic dogs with no real issues (though my allergic response to dogs is likely different from yours).

Are you taking the antihistamine on a regular basis and at the same time each day? They are most effective when taken on a regular basis, and before symptoms start (less effective when taken reactively, after symptoms have already started).

Is there any possibility of keeping the dog away from specific parts of the house? At least then you can keep distance from the dog if needed.

Sounds like it came from a puppy farm as the two breed mixes ending in poo are awful. Sadly the dog is likely to have major health issues and probably won’t live a long life so there is that to consider.

However, allergies are awful to live with and your husband is callous bastard if he can see you suffering and is nasty to you about it.

The dog is just one issue of what appears to be a very troubled relationship as he is horrible and abusive.

Try fexofendine (allevia)

What you have got is a mongrel, and there is absolutely no guarantee about anything: fur, health, temperament. However, it would not be difficult to find a new home for her, as a small, cute-looking dog.

You sound bullied by your husband. You knew this was a terrible idea for your health, yet he was able to strong arm you into it. You're now desperate to get your symptoms under control because he's angry and you're anxious about consequences. He has the absolute gall to tell you you would have to repay him, and you're worried about affording it, rather than that he'd dare to suggest it in the first place.
There is no outcome to this situation that's going to work for everyone, so is a cross roads in your relationship. If I were you I'd use it as the catalyst to reflect on whether you want to spend the rest of your life under his thumb or stand up for yourself and what's right for you.

This is bad advice. I've made a post about how there's truly no such thing as hypoallergenic dogs.

Daschunds also do shed but their fine hair can be hard to detect.

As dogs age too, their coats change and in their elderly years they can be prone to dryer skin, looser coats that matt, more sensitive skin that makes it painful for them to be brushed, and generally get a bit crusty too around the eyes which can be a huge source of allergens.

Elderly dogs also require significantly more intimate care, but not many people consider their dogs elder years when getting a puppy.

I’m sorry but I think you really have bigger problems in your marriage than the dog, your husband is an arse and this is just highlighting it.

Difficult one. I've always had dogs since I was a teen, mostly border collies, got 2 now. I wouldn't be with anyone who couldn't cope with dogs. I have read that if babies/children are exposed to animals, similar with peanuts that it lessened the allergens. It's usually fur or dander. We have dog proofed our place. No carpet, just washable laminate.we used to have a phalene lovely boy almost 18 when PTS January 23, supposed to be non shedding, they don't have oil or undercoat,so a lot of grooming and combing which he hated, they have hair not fur. He used to drop lumps like cotton wool balls. Lots of friends with cocky doodly things, discovered, not hypoallergenic and the very devil to groom, coat partly curly partly straight. How old are the kids? My DH won't let me have a cat, I have to respect that, but as it's causing you medical issues,that's different, either he does the load or dog goes.

That is ridiculous.

The way youre describing this man makes me wonder why youre married to him. He doesnt give a flying fuck that your allergic to the dog, now he wants you to pay him?

I'd be telling DH in no uncertain terms the dog goes - in reality it'd make me question the whole marriage if he can be so nonchalant about your discomfort.

Your husband sounds like an arsehole OP. Based on what you’ve shared on this thread I can’t imagine he’s particularly nice to you normally tbh.

I'm willing to bet GOOD money there's no "contract" for this obviously puppy-farmed dog.

And the OP should under no circumstances at all even consider sending this puppy away and 'trying another one'. Have you even read the full thread?

@francii I wonder if the partner would be any happier having to train, accommodate and open heartedly look after another breed of dog?

There's also the risk that OP would be allergic to another dog and repeat the same mistake twice. A mistake that's pretty appalling for the dog.

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They absolutely should never ever get another dog again. They can't abandon this one, try another just to give that poor creature up too.

Bonkers.

If he won’t give up on a dog would he consider a different breed. He should have had a contract from the breeder which means he returns to them within a certain number of months and I believe gets half the money back. So could you afford to pay him back half the money and then he gets a different breed? I had a miniature schnauzer for years who never shed once in her life, and now have a daschund who couldn’t shed if he wanted to! In contrast my poodle breed leaves whole carpets of fur everywhere if he isn’t brushed!

Just re-read your post OP. You hoover, mop & wipe every day? At the very least the rest of the family should be doing all the extra house work required by having this dog. I agree with others that the only fair thing for the dog is to rehome asap. But you'll be left with an awful partner who is not modelling the right way to treat you in front of your children. Good luck, I hope you sort this and find someone who will treat you with respect.