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Wwyd 14 year old NYE plans

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Mummabear888 · 30/12/2025 22:26

So I am unwell with Covid - Xmas has been a write off. Single mum to one so if I’m down it does ruin a lot.
dd has been invited out tomorrow basically her friend has invited some of them to join them at a family do at a pub about 5 mins away. This is a family pub and it’s not likely that they could be served alcohol. They let teens in until 11pm (on their licence) as they do games etc.

dd wants to go along with her friend on the basis the parents will be there (at least 2 of th girls parents will be there). If I was going it would be ok - but I’m not and I’m worried as with the best will in the world no one else will look out for her like I will. I’m considering saying she can stay till 10 then I’ll collect her. I know she will push back to stay until midnight but as much as I’d like to I’m wary people get massively pissed on NYE!
aibu - what are others thoughts
she is a sensible girl and I know she won’t drink but she is only 14 (15 in March) on a grown up environment!

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sharkstale · 30/12/2025 22:44

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Extremely uncalled for.

diamondsandrose · 30/12/2025 22:43

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Oh go and do one will you

likeafishneedsabike · 30/12/2025 22:42

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I’m not sure this comment is helpful or supportive. Circumstances around the girl’s father are not the topic of the thread.

Hankunamatata · 30/12/2025 22:40

Check with other parents that they are happy to keep an eye.

Bournetilly · 30/12/2025 22:38

I would definitely let her go.

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TheRocksStoppedRolling · 30/12/2025 22:38

It sounds like there will be a group of friends going so I would let her go and tell her to sticks with her friends all night, go to the loo together, keep an eye on drinks etc. Tell her to text you a couple of times throughout the night.

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Mummabear888 · 30/12/2025 22:37

Peclet · 30/12/2025 22:32

Do you think they will be bought drinks or sneak drinks from people?

what specifically are you worried about?

I would let her go and chat to the other parents beforehand about it. Find out what they think will happen.

I’m not too worried about alcohol they definatly wouldn’t get served and she’s not bad with alcohol! She wouldn’t take of anyone else (drummed that into her head)
if anything I think it’s more likely her and her friends will find a buzzball to to share (I’m not condoning this I just know it happens). I’m more worried about other’s being pissed or a fight happening urs not a rough pub or anything though.
I do keep thinking it’s safer than her being at a house party!

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Runningismyhappyplace50 · 30/12/2025 22:35

It sounds fine to me, mine have done similar at that age ( I know the parents).

miamo12 · 30/12/2025 22:34

Let her go, she needs to learn how to cope in environments with temptation, in pubs she’s unlikely to be able to be served because they would loose their licence, unlike house parties

Peclet · 30/12/2025 22:32

Do you think they will be bought drinks or sneak drinks from people?

what specifically are you worried about?

I would let her go and chat to the other parents beforehand about it. Find out what they think will happen.

SnowDaysAndBadLays · 30/12/2025 22:31

It sounds fine to me

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Mummabear888 · 30/12/2025 22:30

I know the parents will be there as that’s where they hang (there’s often a live band) but also just mindful it’s there NYE too and they shouldn’t have to be babysitting

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Elfie23 · 30/12/2025 22:29

I’d let her go and just pick her up after or even better see if she can catch a lift back with one of her friends. If you’re worried tell her you want a text at a certain time to check in x

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Mummabear888 · 30/12/2025 22:29

She can stay until midnight and I want her to but I’m just scared about others. It will be packed and whilst it’s 2 mins away you just can’t predict other adults! I want her to have the fun but I don’t want it to go wrong!

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KimuraTan · 30/12/2025 22:28

Does she have a mobile phone? Could you pick her up gone midnight? I’d let her stay if she is with family friends and drum into her to watch her drink and be sensible to refuse alcohol.

sittingonabeach · 30/12/2025 22:28

Will she be able to stay until midnight?

GogoGobo · 30/12/2025 22:27

Let her go. A 10pm pick up sounds like a great compromise.

NessShaness · 30/12/2025 22:27

It sounds family friendly, I’d let her go.