Sister is angry over a car

What??? I have never heard something so stupid.

My ds is 10 years younger , I wouldn't give a thought to what car she has or any of that . Is your sister going through anything else at the minute it seems like an odd thing to be bothered to the point of needing an apology over. Maybe it is just you can afford nice things and she viewed you as her younger less fortunate sister

That's absolutely insane. There's no reasoning with crazy. Just ignore her. I recommended my car model to a friend as everyone I've ever met who has had one has said they're the most reliable cars they've ever had. Mine's a 10 plate and I've never had any trouble with it. Just usual wear and tear stuff like brake pads, the odd filter, tyres, light bulbs kind of stuff that gets done in a service.

She being so irrational that I think you'll just have to leave her to it. You can't fix this. It's all in her head. Even if you apologise and somehow manage to smooth it over it will happen again over some other random thing.

When you spoke to your niece about it, did she realise her mum is being completely unreasonable about it? I can’t see how anyone would not recognise that it’s an absolutely ridiculous thing to ignore you over!

What sort of car? Is there something unique about it?

She sounds unhinged tbh.

I really want to know what the car is 😆

She’s clearly got issues, not really about the car. Jealous of you managing to have what she has but 10 years before she got it. Honestly, I think you’re better off without her in your life. I feel sorry for her Dh, but he should have stood up to her years ago.

I'd be interested too. Does DSis think it impresses people? From another thread about cars bought to impress:
"That's not the point. It could backfire, as OP doesn't seem to know the car tropes.
Range Rover: Chelsea tractor, can't park for toffee;
Audi: new money, no indicators;
Lexus: drug dealer;
Boxster: poor man's Porsche;
and so on."

I’m dying to know what car it is! Something Very Expensive presumably - I doubt she’d get so worked up about e.g. my 2nd hand (one careful lady owner) Honda Jazz.

Which model car is it? I didn’t think the op had said.

She sounds like a nut case.
Forget about her and get on with your life!
Don't waste any more mental energy on this controlling idiot!

I had a falling out with someone but the time she ignored my child put the full stop on any future contact with me.

Move on. She's ignored your baby being born. She'd rather have her tantrum than enjoy her niece or nephew. Game over.

Well said!

Why do people insist on trying to find some kind of explanation to justify this kind of behaviour? It’s the menopause etc..no it isn’t. She’s a bitch. That simple. She likes to be seen as better than is having more money than everyone else in the family. Under no circumstances would I apologise. I would happily point out to her face that the car is very common, wasn’t even that expensive and you could easily have gotten a more expensive one..

I’m glad you at least still see your niece. It says a lot about her character that she won’t be drawn into her mother’s nonsense.

Shame your BIL can’t do the same because he could probably do with as many normal people in his life as possible as a buffer for your sister’s nuttiness.

Stop trying to understand and just stop trying! Shes crazy.

Why on earth would you want this person in your life? Be thankful she’s made an absolute tit of herself, looks pathetic and has gone no contact off her own back and enjoy your lovely family. This is the kind of person you don’t need in your life she will only continue to get worse as she gets older. She is completely unhinged if she is sulking because you own the same car as her.

Unless there is another side of this story ( I do believe you, op) then your sister has got serious issues that quite frankly, you’re better off away from.

My sister, my only sibling- 12 years older than me, has grade 4 brain cancer .
We are devastated.

Your sister is bat shit and clearly out to cause trouble. She needs to also wake up and smell the coffee if that’s all she has to grumble over .

Please detach yourself from this shit and complete and utter nonsense.
Because that’s what it is : nonsense.

Just be happy this level of crazy is out of your life.

That's really odd behaviour on her part! Is it an unusual type of car?

She sounds like a child. Is there much point reconciling when she will probably do this to you again over something else? I can’t imagine you had a perfect relationship with her and this is the first time she’s done something like this. She is the one who’s missing out, you are in contact with her daughter so still have that connection. I think your life is probably a bit easier without the drama, she will learn eventually that jealousy, immaturity and petty grudges don’t achieve anything at her age (or will continue to be mad and you’ll be glad you don’t have to deal with it)

Your sister has some serious issues if she’s really like this. I’d ignore her and never apologise as she’s just bonkers.

You can’t argue with batshit- does she have form for this type of nonsense?

And gives women of a certain age a poor reputation. None of my friends who struggled with the menopause have behaved like this.

The menopause is just a poor excuse, not a reason.