Sister is angry over a car

Thank you.

I'm not diminishing the struggles that some women go through and I have friends who have struggled with it, but none of them behaved irrationally badly like the sister.

Wait, what?

Why are you and your family tolerating such batshit behaviour?

Can you arrange for someone to torch her car ? That might shut her up.

This is her issue and she is the one who needs to apologise.

She is in the wrong.

Nothing you can do except continue to be a good person and continue to speak to your adult niece but do not discuss your sister at all .

She will get bored.

Good luck , this is not on you or your husband .Plenty of people see on TV / newspaper advice on buying a good reliable car and that's all your husband did.

Totally agree. I’m slap bang in the middle of the menopause and I find it really offensive when all sort of batshit and cuntish behaviour is excused as being down to the menopause.

This is the weirdest thing to get upset about everything .
My partner bought a 2nd hand car my son bought the same significantly newer version a week later my mother followed suit with a brand new plate a week or 2 later we all laugh about it pngsy light-hearted copying jokes ,,this is crazy

Could your sister have felt you had copied her with previous things? Clothing, hairstyles, career, lifestyle..perhaps the cars being the same brand has compounded this idea. Alternatively is your husband's car a better or newer model?
Was she extremely proud of purchasing her car and your husband doing so a short time later has wounded her pride?

It may in fact be you having a second child that she could not and she just can't face it so the car has become her reason to be hurt.

It's interesting that your other sibling felt you had done it on purpose so there's some undercurrent there that perhaps you aren't aware of. I would probe this sister more for a reason why they would think that.

That's madness to cut anyone off because they bought the same car!
For comparison I can tell you that in my family and close friendships we have so many things that are the same! Because one of us bought it and recommended to everyone else if it was good. So we have the same fridge freezers in 3 homes, the same cars in 2, the same sofas in 2. My best friend has similar home decor to mine and I love it. They aren't my competitors in anything, they are my team and I want the best for them.

Sorry, why did your husband apologise to her? What for? She seems to have taken a neutral event and turned it into some kind of insult. Does she have a personality disorder?

I’m at an age where I know plenty of sane, educated and charming women who have had some pretty mad episodes during this period of life, myself included. It’s not derogatory or ageist/sexist or anything else, just a fact that might explain what is, on the face of it, pretty irrational behaviour on the part of @Mon85‘s sister.

Nice. So not only is she a looney, but she also has no consideration for other road users and has bought a massive car which will cause harm to other people.

I had the same car as my husband at one stage in a different colour, we were quite pleased with ourselves and it was a good car so made sense!

plus quite likely the menopause/ mental hormone storm

Am I the only one who gets fed up with women's behaviour always being blamed on their hormones? It gives us a bad name.

Firstly she’s being ridiculous. However she clearly is deeply upset and then there’s the additional factors of having a baby (congratulations!) when she wanted one plus quite likely the menopause/ mental hormone storm. While it’s completely unreasonable it is vaguely understandable if irrational.

So you have the option of ignoring her and being in the right or apologising to her for upsetting her and maybe restoring the relationship you previously enjoyed.

Which do you want most?

Me, my mum and my Nan all had the same car in the same colour at one point. Who gives a shit! It’s just a car.

I don’t understand why you are pussyfooting around this. Have it out with her and make sure she knows she’s utterly ridiculous

FFS just apologise!

Your sister is an absolute weirdo/twat/lunatic/fruit-loop. Who the hell gets upset because a relative buys the same car?!?

Just send her a message "I'm very sorry that my husband buying the same car as you has upset you. It didn't cross our minds that anyone would get upset by someone owning the same car because you're a weirdo because it's just a car, but nevertheless I apologise that you found it upsetting and when we next need a car we will choose another model because Range Rovers are shit."

Or do a full social media apology with a sad face photo of you and your DH and the car, holding the baby scan photo. "We would publicly like to apologise to my sister for buying the same car as her. We had no idea that buying the same car would cause her such distress to the point where she has not spoken to us for a year. Please accept our apology."

She is a complete batshit fruit loop. Life is far too short to be worrying about such unhinged nonsense.

Just get on with your own life and ignore her and the other crazy relatives who are pandering to her.

You can't reason with stupid, so there is no point in trying.

Frankly she sounds like she's got something seriously wrong with her.
There just isn't anything approaching logic or even a shred of a possibility she has any grounds to feel this way whatsoever.
I can't believe you've managed to maintain a relationship at all thought your life if this is the way she acts?

I was looking to see what car it is as I assumed it was a rare american import with special styling and an unusual colour. Even then I would find it funny if someone got the same.
But a Range Rover in a different colour? she’s not well.

She needs to be told to grow the fuck up.

I see two options for you, op: 1 is to continue as you are, confused, with certain family members urging you to apologise for nothing. The second option, which will resolve everything one way or the other, is to go round to your sister and confront her with her batshittyness. Tell her she doesn't have a veto on Range Rovers, you didn't even buy the stupid car, and you're sick of her behaviour. Either the air will be cleared or she'll sulk for ever. Either way, you'll have taken some control back and can move on.

I had a flatmate at uni who would do stuff just like this.

One of our friends bought a new phone, (back in the days when everyone had the exact same Nokia and it only came in 3 or 4 colours). Mad flatmate threw a huge tantrum as that was the colour she wanted to get (at some unspecified time in the future) and demanded the phone be taken back and changed for a different colour). Our mutual friend gave in and took it back!

This was not an isolated incident, but flatmate got away with this type of behaviour constantly as most people were too scared of the tantrums and sulking if she didn't get her own way.

Basically your sister is an entitled lunatic and there is no reasoning with batshit crazy.

Ha! The most obvious “naice” car these is (no offence OP) and she expects no one else to have one? 🤣

Sounds more to me like she bought it thinking it’d make her somewhat superior and your husband buying one has brought her crashing back down to earth at the realisation that she has in fact just bought a mass produced vehicle that doesn’t make her any better than anyone else and she doesn’t like it because it defeats what her purpose was for buying it. Absolute nonsense.

Definitely to do with status then. How dare you spoil her standing as the only one in the family to have a Range Rover. You’ve knocked her right off her glorious, elevated pedestal leaving her battered and bruised.
Such nonsense from her especially as you don’t even drive. She’s nuts.

Oh you’ve done it now. MN hates RR’s. All the votes will change to YABU!