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Sister is angry over a car

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Mon85 · 30/12/2025 00:35

Hi
My sister has cut me out of her life because my husband bought the same model car as her! (Different colour). My sister is ten years older than me (she’s 50). I don’t drive, I had no input into his choice of new car. We had a car accident and he needed a new one. We only seen her once a year, live totally different areas, I really didn’t see it being a problem. I heard through family she was furious so my husband contacted her to apologise and tell her it had nothing to do with me! Several weeks later I hadn’t heard anything from her so I sent her a scan picture of my 2nd ivf baby and she totally blanked me. Fast forward a year and she still hasn’t spoken to me. I met her 25 year old daughter for dinner last week and she clarified her mum is still raging and is demanding an apology off me! This is the thing I don’t understand, she is ignoring the fact I’m a non driver, it’s not like I bought the car for my use. She is trying to pin this whole thing on me. For me though this runs deeper on my part now. She has missed out on the birth of my son, ignored my 2 year old daughter, has not acknowledged the baby’s birth and she stopped her husband joining us for dinner last week, told him he’s not allowed to speak to us! I don’t even know what to think, I think the situation is as mad as a box of frogs! Advice would be appreciated thanks

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Ponderingwindow · 30/12/2025 01:04

Your sister has issues that you can’t solve.

I once pulled up to the supermarket and my sister happened to be there as well. She was in her new car. The exact same make, model, year, and color as mine. I just laughed.

PollyBell · 30/12/2025 01:02

Just move on

Moussell · 30/12/2025 01:02

Mon85 · 30/12/2025 00:51

She has a very comfortable life, she’s always had the best of everything and I’m thinking maybe she doesn’t like the fact we can afford the same as her? She’s always liked being above everyone. Never really bought the same as her before, there is 10 years between us so almost always been at different stages in life!

Hmm I think I would leave her to it. I have two dsis. One gets really jealous. The other likes to be in charge. As they’ve got older they’ve got worse. Divorce and the menopause took their toll. She might be more reasonable in a few years’ time.

WonkyMirror · 30/12/2025 00:55

That’s absolutely bonkers, who gives a crap about that sort of thing. A bloody car! I’d just ignore it but if you want to be in touch with her then apologise and have a conversation about why it means so much to her.

Mon85 · 30/12/2025 00:51

She has a very comfortable life, she’s always had the best of everything and I’m thinking maybe she doesn’t like the fact we can afford the same as her? She’s always liked being above everyone. Never really bought the same as her before, there is 10 years between us so almost always been at different stages in life!

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Moussell · 30/12/2025 00:48

Wow how ridiculous. Is she prone to jealousy? Or do you frequently buy the same things as her?

Istherestilltime · 30/12/2025 00:46

You can’t reason with crazy, OP

Mon85 · 30/12/2025 00:44

She has ignored me on the occasion I sent the scan photo (I thought it was going to be an ice breaker so we could talk about it ) and another occasion after that my husband contacted her husband and he was told he couldn’t reply because he wasn’t allowed to. Family that have had a chat with her have told me that I have copied her and she doesn’t like being copied

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TheatricalLife · 30/12/2025 00:41

My advice would be to let the absolute knob carry on making a tit of herself and get on with your own life. You really want to make things "right" with someone who would cut their own sister and her babies out over a CAR?! Ignore it all completely and spend your time and effort on the family that are actually nice.

Istherestilltime · 30/12/2025 00:38

Have you asked for an explanation of why she is upset about it? It makes no sense to me

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