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To Ask Guests To Bring NYE Food?

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ChicMintUser · 29/12/2025 21:44

AIBU to ask guests to bring food to my NYE party?

I’m hosting NYE this year and I’m already dreading the sheer volume of foods I’ll need to buy. I’ve always been high-energy and very lean (I prioritize fitness and honestly, my body just doesn't require much fuel to thrive. I intermittent fast from 5 pm to noon the following day).

The problem is my guests. They are lovely people, but they seem to treat New Year’s Eve like a competitive eating trial. Last year was a bloodbath, I put out what I thought was a generous spread and it was inhaled within twenty minutes. I'm talking platters of cheese, fresh fruit, delicious charcuterie, imported European crisps, sandwiches, etc. By 11 pm people were looking at the empty platters like I was starving them, despite the fact they’d already consumed more calories in one sitting than I do in three days.

I want to be a good host, but my internal gauge for "normal" portions is clearly broken compared to the average person. I find the sight of mountains of beige food quite off-putting, to be honest. I don't want to spend my evening watching people descend into a food coma while I’m trying to actually celebrate.

How do those of you with "normal" appetites handle catering for the "bottomless pit" crowd?
Do I just buy out the local Costco and accept the waste? How many sausage rolls per person is considered "enough" for people who don't know when to stop?

Am I a total Scrooge for wanting to serve elegant, light nibbles rather than a buffet that looks like a Viking feast? I just can’t wrap my head around needing that much fuel to simply sit in a living room and wait for a clock to strike twelve.

Is it unreasonable to ask guests to bring the snacks they like instead of buying a pile of food I would never, ever eat?

OP posts:
DeathStare · 29/12/2025 21:47

Can you not suggest that you all order a takeaway and split the cost? Send them a menu and order in advance

Coconutter24 · 29/12/2025 21:47

If a buffet is a problem for you why not let your guests know you’ll be doing nibbles not a full spread. Then they’ll hopefully eat before they arrive

Barrenfieldoffucks · 29/12/2025 21:46

Neither your approach nor theirs’ sound “normal”.

Tammygirl12 · 29/12/2025 21:46

Completely fine to ask them to bring a plate each.

But you do need to provide the majority yourself if you are hosting. Can you do the same as you did last time eg fruit, sandwiches, nibbles etc and double the quantity