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To only work very part time?

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OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:01

I only work 2 days a week and even then only during school hours. I feel that’s the most I can cope with whilst also being a single kinship foster carer to 4 children. Colleagues are complaining though saying they think I should work more days because me being so part time is causing problems for them because they are having to do work that I don’t have time to do in my 2 days. Some colleagues have also described it as “ridiculous” that I only work very part time and they feel I should be working a minimum of at least 3 days a week or more. AIBU to work very part time like this? I feel like all my colleagues are gossiping and talking behind my back about how part time I am! One of my colleagues has also said they don’t think I’m a “proper part” of the team because I’m so part time.

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Cat1504 · 29/12/2025 22:44

theres no 2 day contracts at my place of work for this very reason….I get where your colleagues are coming from

BendingSpoons · 29/12/2025 22:42

It's understandable you don't want to work more hours, as you need to prioritise home life right now. Presumably the company valued you and agreed the request in the circumstances. It was probably the right thing to do to support you but possibly the wrong thing from a business pov.

It sounds like you have quite a big job for low hours. 12 hours per week TTO ends up being more like 9/10 hours when averaged out across the year. At my work the minimum is 22.5 hours per week.

It's unprofessional for them to complain like that, especially as managers, and it's not your fault. However I can see why they are frustrated and unless the company takes on anyone else or comes down hard on the gossip, you may need to stay very thick skinned.

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 22:41

And my role does sometimes have work that is time sensitive too yes.

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OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 22:39

stomachamelon · 29/12/2025 22:09

Global head of accessibility?

Yes.

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Homegrownberries · 29/12/2025 22:30

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:18

No they haven’t employed anyone else to do the other 3 days and they don’t currently have any intentions of employing someone else to do it either.

They're understaffed. That's their problem, not yours.
The work that doesn't happen when you are not paid to be there isn't your responsibility.

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 22:23

onwards2025 · 29/12/2025 22:17

Is your long term plan to remain that part time? If so you need to hold your head high and work your hours but accept you are going to need a thick skin and will become a lot less relevant and part of the wider team. Do you line manage others too? I just can't see how that would work long term without disgruntled team members. Again not necessarily your issue as your request was approved but dropping to such low hours ok a long term basis may run the risk of making yourself redundant over time

Yes the long term plan is for me to remain this part time. I do line manager others (and those still gossip and bitch too) as well yes.

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OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 22:22

Konstantine8364 · 29/12/2025 22:04

It sounds like someone higher up in management signed off your request without consulting the day to day manager(s) and the team about the impact on workload. Tbh there are a lot of jobs where 12 hours a week is pretty pointless, by the time you've caught up on emails, had a few meetings you're off again with minimal work delivered. This isn't your fault. But it depends how thick skinned you are as the team will probably see it if you quit they will hire someone else full time and their workload will improve.

I don’t get as much work done as when I was full time. I still do work and meetings but I just can’t get anywhere near as much work and meetings done as I used to.

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onwards2025 · 29/12/2025 22:17

Is your long term plan to remain that part time? If so you need to hold your head high and work your hours but accept you are going to need a thick skin and will become a lot less relevant and part of the wider team. Do you line manage others too? I just can't see how that would work long term without disgruntled team members. Again not necessarily your issue as your request was approved but dropping to such low hours ok a long term basis may run the risk of making yourself redundant over time

SereneCoralExpert · 29/12/2025 22:11

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 22:04

They still try to give me a similar workload to what I had when I was full time.

It does sound like your management is horrendous, and everybody is (rightly) annoyed because of whoever is in charge.

As a poster said, you need a thick skin, because none of it is your fault or your doing, and bad management is making everyone's work life difficult.

stomachamelon · 29/12/2025 22:09

Global head of accessibility?

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 22:08

Bushmillsbabe · 29/12/2025 21:53

Is this also termtime only?

It's not on that they are all gossiping about it, especially the managers, they shouldn't have agreed it if it wasn't going to work for the company, it's not your fault that they did and it's ? not working

What's the role? Is work time sensitive - can it wait until you return the following week or do others need to pick it up whilst you are off? Again, not your fault, but can see why they might be frustrated. However their frustration needs to be directed at the management.

We have a 0.5 whole time equivalent minimum, as anything less than that felt to be inefficient. But it's quite role dependent as to what is practical.

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Yes, I’m also termtime only. My role at the company is global head of accessibility.

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OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 22:04

SereneCoralExpert · 29/12/2025 21:56

you shouldn't be give the same workload that you had when working full time either.

You were needed when you worked full-time, you are working less, the workload hasn't changed, they do need to employ someone else. It's really not difficult to find part-time employees, there are more request than jobs

They still try to give me a similar workload to what I had when I was full time.

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Konstantine8364 · 29/12/2025 22:04

It sounds like someone higher up in management signed off your request without consulting the day to day manager(s) and the team about the impact on workload. Tbh there are a lot of jobs where 12 hours a week is pretty pointless, by the time you've caught up on emails, had a few meetings you're off again with minimal work delivered. This isn't your fault. But it depends how thick skinned you are as the team will probably see it if you quit they will hire someone else full time and their workload will improve.

arcticpandas · 29/12/2025 21:59

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:12

Yes, I didn’t have any children before these 4 children that I’m now a kinship foster carer to.

Wow. You should be proud of yourself for taking on that responsability. To go from 0 to 4 is tough, especially when there is trauma behind. Just ignore the assholes. You are doing something extremely valuable for these children and ofcourse you shouldn't take on more work than you can handle. They can hire someone else for 3 days a week and problem solved.

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:57

Yes I’m also term time only, I don’t work in the school holidays.

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SereneCoralExpert · 29/12/2025 21:56

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:48

And colleagues and management also moan and gossip that I “never seem to get any work done and only seem to do so little work” because I am “so part time and only work so few hours with no time to do lots of work” but I do as much work as I possibly can during my contracted hours!

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you shouldn't be give the same workload that you had when working full time either.

You were needed when you worked full-time, you are working less, the workload hasn't changed, they do need to employ someone else. It's really not difficult to find part-time employees, there are more request than jobs

Bushmillsbabe · 29/12/2025 21:53

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:09

Yes I’m only paid for 2 days a week during school hours now, those are now my contracted hours.

Is this also termtime only?

It's not on that they are all gossiping about it, especially the managers, they shouldn't have agreed it if it wasn't going to work for the company, it's not your fault that they did and it's ? not working

What's the role? Is work time sensitive - can it wait until you return the following week or do others need to pick it up whilst you are off? Again, not your fault, but can see why they might be frustrated. However their frustration needs to be directed at the management.

We have a 0.5 whole time equivalent minimum, as anything less than that felt to be inefficient. But it's quite role dependent as to what is practical.

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:48

And colleagues and management also moan and gossip that I “never seem to get any work done and only seem to do so little work” because I am “so part time and only work so few hours with no time to do lots of work” but I do as much work as I possibly can during my contracted hours!

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Pol12345 · 29/12/2025 21:47

SereneCoralExpert · 29/12/2025 21:41

That's not helpful.

They don't sound "jealous and bitchy", they had a full-time working colleague that went from 2 days a week, school hours, and they have to pick up the workload, presumably without extra pay.

They very reasonably are complaining to management about that.

Not the OP's fault, not the OP's problem, but the colleagues are not wrong to complain.

They're wrong to do it within ear shot of the OP! They do sound bitchy. They shouldn't have to pick up the slack but should complain directly to management at appropriate time.

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:47

Everyone else (colleagues and management) also gossips and moans that I’m not available on other days when I’m needed because I’m only working 2 days a week. They also gossip and moan if something comes up on the other 3 days a week and I’m not there to deal with it.

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OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:46

Eyeshadow · 29/12/2025 21:38

Do you enjoy your job?
Do you get paid to be a foster carer?

If you don’t need this job then I’d tell them to shove it!

We have lots of staff who are PT and they are just as valued as the FT ones, in fact some work twice as hard!

Lots of peoples situations mean they can only work PT.
They sound jealous and bitchy - I would not want to work in this environment.

Yes I enjoy my job, and yes I also get the fostering allowance as a kinship foster carer. But to be honest I am starting to like my job less recently because of all the gossiping and bitching from everyone else in the company.

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Blogswife · 29/12/2025 21:45

I’d be inclined to talk to HR/ Senior Management about this . Managers should not be openly discussing this with junior staff - completely unprofessional bordering on bullying . Clearly your colleagues don’t understand the contract that has been drawn up between you & your employer. They need to go through the correct channels if they have an issue with their workload

Mumofoneandone · 29/12/2025 21:44

If they stopped gossiping, they'd get more work done!!
I think you need to make notes of what is being said and if needs be, put in a formal complaint about the way you are being treated. It is not acceptable for you to be having to deal with this level of nastiness.

SereneCoralExpert · 29/12/2025 21:41

Eyeshadow · 29/12/2025 21:38

Do you enjoy your job?
Do you get paid to be a foster carer?

If you don’t need this job then I’d tell them to shove it!

We have lots of staff who are PT and they are just as valued as the FT ones, in fact some work twice as hard!

Lots of peoples situations mean they can only work PT.
They sound jealous and bitchy - I would not want to work in this environment.

That's not helpful.

They don't sound "jealous and bitchy", they had a full-time working colleague that went from 2 days a week, school hours, and they have to pick up the workload, presumably without extra pay.

They very reasonably are complaining to management about that.

Not the OP's fault, not the OP's problem, but the colleagues are not wrong to complain.

Moonnstarz · 29/12/2025 21:38

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:30

I get the sense that no one in the company sees the point in me working there anymore because I’m only in work for 2 days (and even then it’s only during school hours) a week.

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Well that's a them problem 🤷
As long as you are doing your job within your contracted hours you need to just ignore them gossiping.

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