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To only work very part time?

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OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:01

I only work 2 days a week and even then only during school hours. I feel that’s the most I can cope with whilst also being a single kinship foster carer to 4 children. Colleagues are complaining though saying they think I should work more days because me being so part time is causing problems for them because they are having to do work that I don’t have time to do in my 2 days. Some colleagues have also described it as “ridiculous” that I only work very part time and they feel I should be working a minimum of at least 3 days a week or more. AIBU to work very part time like this? I feel like all my colleagues are gossiping and talking behind my back about how part time I am! One of my colleagues has also said they don’t think I’m a “proper part” of the team because I’m so part time.

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Bumcake · 30/12/2025 11:17

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 11:08

I just have a lot of stress going on in my life and I feel like this is my employers problem to solve and not my problem to solve, maybe I’m wrong with thinking that though.

Weird take for someone in a management position. Anyway, they’re not interested in solving it by the sound of things so where does that leave you?

Ohnobackagain · 30/12/2025 11:15

@OneJadeSheep it is understandable that colleagues are frustrated but they need to take it up with HR and explain it isn’t working. Where I work, flexible work requests are reviewed to see if they are working. If you can see that the work can’t be done then you know that this is not workable in its current form - perhaps suggest a job share. At senior level such as yours, you need to be honest if it is not working. It is on your employer to some extent but someone should be overseeing how it’s going - you said yourself it isn’t working.

Moonnstarz · 30/12/2025 11:13

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 11:08

I just have a lot of stress going on in my life and I feel like this is my employers problem to solve and not my problem to solve, maybe I’m wrong with thinking that though.

Yes I think you are wrong in thinking that. As a senior member of staff some of this responsibility does fall to you and managing your team's workload (as well as happiness as this might impact productivity) is surely part of your role.
Once you have tried different strategies (which many of us have given suggestions) then you take it higher outlining all the ways you have tried to minimise the reduction in your hours on other staff members.

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 11:08

I just have a lot of stress going on in my life and I feel like this is my employers problem to solve and not my problem to solve, maybe I’m wrong with thinking that though.

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OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 11:06

Ohnobackagain · 30/12/2025 11:05

@OneJadeSheep why don’t you have a conversation with colleagues and explain how part time works? Two days’ work, not five days condensed into two. And they shouldn’t be gossiping and bitching about you - why haven’t you asked them to stop? It sounds like part time doesn’t work for your job so a job share is needed or it needs to revert to full time. Or better processes are needed so that people don’t end up waiting on you to return for example.

I have tried to do this a few this.

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Ohnobackagain · 30/12/2025 11:05

@OneJadeSheep why don’t you have a conversation with colleagues and explain how part time works? Two days’ work, not five days condensed into two. And they shouldn’t be gossiping and bitching about you - why haven’t you asked them to stop? It sounds like part time doesn’t work for your job so a job share is needed or it needs to revert to full time. Or better processes are needed so that people don’t end up waiting on you to return for example.

Livpool · 30/12/2025 11:02

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:57

I’ve told my colleagues and management etc who they need to contact if they want to complain but they’ve all chosen to just gossip and bitch about me instead because I’m part time.

If this is your attitude I can understand why they aren’t happy with you.

Moonnstarz · 30/12/2025 11:02

Somersetbaker · 30/12/2025 10:58

I suspect that if the OP were to leave, she wouldn't be replaced, so her "colleagues" would be expected to pick up the work she does in her 2 days. There are many threads about how little people do at work and skiving off when WFH, Do people really think their managers don't notice, they might cut some slack when the economy is booming, but now slack = costs = reduced profit.

Or she would be replaced with someone on a lower wage...she is currently 'head of' so I imagine comes with a bigger salary (although she works minimal hours so won't be too high). If she left they could scrap the head of title and just have another team member at the entry salary for the role.

KabukiNoh · 30/12/2025 11:00

Moonnstarz · 30/12/2025 10:33

Why are you ignoring all comments about what you could do to help manage the situation?
All you keep doing is repeating the same point about how it was approved.

As I have said above, if your colleagues all go above your head and say it's not working, then there is a good possibility you will be pulled in and told that you cannot continue with the reduced hours/the job will be made redundant and you will then lose out.

For someone who is in a senior role you sound pretty useless in being pro active. Maybe this is the real issue that you are out of depth in this role and were fine when everything was going well, but now lack the skills in managing people.

Totally agree with you here, and your other posts.

OP - you are not acting is a way that is consistent with what you describe as a leadership role. And I get a lot of transference from your posts that helps me understand why your colleagues might be annoyed with you.

Bumcake · 30/12/2025 11:00

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:52

We have fixed headcount’s per department so recruiting someone else won’t happen.

That’s illogical though, if you are now 0.3 of a role then the 0.7 should be recruited to.

I don’t understand how your employer thinks your job can be done in a third of the time it used to take with no ill effects.

Moonnstarz · 30/12/2025 10:59

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:57

I’ve told my colleagues and management etc who they need to contact if they want to complain but they’ve all chosen to just gossip and bitch about me instead because I’m part time.

But other than talking to someone, what else do you suggest? I have given you some ideas for free but you are paid to do the job and know what the work involves.

You are very robotic in your responses about how your flexible working was agreed and how it isn't your problem, and you have told them to go to management.
If you are this robotic and impersonal in real life it's no wonder you aren't liked by your colleagues and they gossip about you.

Oldandgreyer · 30/12/2025 10:59

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:24

Yes my problem is with all the gossiping and bitching from colleagues and management and everyone else in the company.

Tell HR.

Ask them to deal with it for you.

Somersetbaker · 30/12/2025 10:58

OneJadeSheep · 29/12/2025 21:18

No they haven’t employed anyone else to do the other 3 days and they don’t currently have any intentions of employing someone else to do it either.

I suspect that if the OP were to leave, she wouldn't be replaced, so her "colleagues" would be expected to pick up the work she does in her 2 days. There are many threads about how little people do at work and skiving off when WFH, Do people really think their managers don't notice, they might cut some slack when the economy is booming, but now slack = costs = reduced profit.

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:57

Moonnstarz · 30/12/2025 10:56

So what other solutions do you have to offer if a new member of staff isn't going to happen?
You are management! Act like it. Can you reallocate workload, can someone from another department take on some of the tasks?

I’ve told my colleagues and management etc who they need to contact if they want to complain but they’ve all chosen to just gossip and bitch about me instead because I’m part time.

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Ellie1015 · 30/12/2025 10:57

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:52

We have fixed headcount’s per department so recruiting someone else won’t happen.

Currently the fixed headcount has been reduced by over 60% of a permenant post (before factoring in term time) so they should be recruiting. Not replacing you for the missing hours is the issue and causing the animosity. It is not your fault at all, but equally I csn understand why collegues are annoyed at the situation (unprofessional to talk about you and expect you to change your hours to fix it though)

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:56

Poodlelove · 29/12/2025 23:25

I could have written this myself.I am getting the same responses that you are .I applied for a part time job so I don't think that people who are much younger and applied for a full time should have a say.
I do feel that they give me as much work and save the awful jobs for me too , and watch and wait to see if I complain , so.i keep quiet.
I cannot wait for retirement.

I have worked full time , 3 jobs and a baby years ago ,

Exactly, this! I’m so sorry that you are having the same problem in your workplace too

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Moonnstarz · 30/12/2025 10:56

So what other solutions do you have to offer if a new member of staff isn't going to happen?
You are management! Act like it. Can you reallocate workload, can someone from another department take on some of the tasks?

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:54

bleakmidwintering · 30/12/2025 09:58

Jesus when did we start thinking that the only type of valid work pattern was full time? Guilt tripping women into working at home and working at work. If there needs to be more staff let management employ more staff, preferably more part time so you and others get a decent quality of life. It’s not on you. It’s on them.

This. My colleagues and management all chose full time roles, if they want part time hours too then they could also make a flexible working request for it.

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OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:52

Ellie1015 · 30/12/2025 10:49

Collegues are right to be annoyed that your hours have been reduced substantially without anyone else being recruited. They should not be annoyed with you personally though.

Sounds like company saving over 3 days a week of your salary and everyone else picking up the slack. They should recruit another part time member of staff.

We have fixed headcount’s per department so recruiting someone else won’t happen.

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shhblackbag · 30/12/2025 10:50

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:48

My colleagues and management all chose full time roles. They could do a flexible working request for part time too if they wanted.

If this is your general attitude, I'd be pissed off with you as well.

Moonnstarz · 30/12/2025 10:50

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:48

My colleagues and management all chose full time roles. They could do a flexible working request for part time too if they wanted.

Then there will be even more work with no one to do it, and following this it's unlikely anyone else would be granted it.

Personally I wouldn't want to work with you as you sound very obstructive and unwilling to do anything to help the situation and I see it as poor management. I assume you were promoted before you were ready and now don't know how to manage the conflict as didn't have the experience.

Ellie1015 · 30/12/2025 10:49

Collegues are right to be annoyed that your hours have been reduced substantially without anyone else being recruited. They should not be annoyed with you personally though.

Sounds like company saving over 3 days a week of your salary and everyone else picking up the slack. They should recruit another part time member of staff.

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:48

My colleagues and management all chose full time roles. They could do a flexible working request for part time too if they wanted.

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Moonnstarz · 30/12/2025 10:48

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:42

I have advised my colleagues and management (and everyone else in the company who is gossiping and bitching) who to contact in the company if they want to raise any concerns about their workload or ask for more resources/more staff but they’ve all chosen just to gossip and bitch about me and my part time working instead.

But what have you actually done other than advise them to speak to someone? Again as I keep saying, you have given the impression you are in a senior role as 'head of' so you should be more pro active.

They aren't suddenly going to stop moaning because the workload still exists! Until something is put in place by some one more senior like yourself of how to address it, then I think they are valid in their annoyance of the increased workload and nothing to compensate for it (extra staff, increased pay).

OneJadeSheep · 30/12/2025 10:42

I have advised my colleagues and management (and everyone else in the company who is gossiping and bitching) who to contact in the company if they want to raise any concerns about their workload or ask for more resources/more staff but they’ve all chosen just to gossip and bitch about me and my part time working instead.

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