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I found a pregnancy test in my DSs gfs flat

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Crutie · 29/12/2025 15:42

My DS is 28, he has been with his girlfriend for a bit over a year. They are away to her family abroad, they asked if I would mind checking in on her flat. I went today as I was in the area for a hair appointment. Collected up parcels left by the door or at neighbours, checked all was well then nipped into the bathroom. In the bathroom when I was washing my hands I realised there was a pregnancy test, positive left by the sink.
The thing is we met up with them before their flight (but after they left home for the airport) and his girlfriend was drinking.

I don’t know what to make of this, surely they’d have known I was going to be there and possibly using the bathroom.

Im tempted to message my son and let him know I’ve seen it? But then what if she has decided to terminate, or it’s from a friend who was over or some other personal reason that’s nothing to do with me?

Do I just mind my business? Or would it be okay for me to mention it.

OP posts:
Endofyear · 29/12/2025 15:49

Say nothing - they'll tell you if they want to but otherwise it's their business.

PersephonePomegranate · 29/12/2025 15:49

Comedycook · 29/12/2025 15:46

Don't say a word...by the way I've heard that negative pregnancy tests can eventually turn positive, buts its then a false reading as it's just that it's been left a long time...or am I imagining that? I'm sure I read that somewhere? Apologies if I'm wrong.

Anyway...they're adults, mind your own business

I was going to say that. That's why you have to look at them within the specified time frame.

Either way, it's none of your business, so forget about it.

And as to why it was left out - people often leave things out by accident when they're rushing to get somewhere. I wouldn't take this as a sign they want you go know.

Dulcie6 · 29/12/2025 15:46

I wouldn’t say anything. There’s a chance she’s having a termination if she was drinking.

Comedycook · 29/12/2025 15:46

Don't say a word...by the way I've heard that negative pregnancy tests can eventually turn positive, buts its then a false reading as it's just that it's been left a long time...or am I imagining that? I'm sure I read that somewhere? Apologies if I'm wrong.

Anyway...they're adults, mind your own business

Fargo79 · 29/12/2025 15:46

Come on. You cannot seriously need other people to tell you the right thing to do here!

Highlandgal · 29/12/2025 15:45

Stay out of it. If they want you to know

DramaAlpaca · 29/12/2025 15:45

Say nothing.

SweeetFannyAdams · 29/12/2025 15:45

Of course you mind your own business.

I'm surprised you need to ask.

Coffeeishot · 29/12/2025 15:45

Just say nothing, if they have anything to tell you they will.

ThisWaryCrow · 29/12/2025 15:45

Mind your business.

CaptainMyCaptain · 29/12/2025 15:44

If they want you to know they'll tell you.

rubyslippers · 29/12/2025 15:44

Do not breathe a word

Miranda65 · 29/12/2025 15:44

Stay out of it. Completely. If they have anything to tell you, they'll do so when they're ready.