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Supermarket carpark rage

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Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:12

Just popped to my local Waitrose to restock on the Belgian biscuits (half price!). As I drove in I spotted a nice convenient parking space outside the front of the store and pulled in, only vaguely aware of a vehicle approaching from my right. As I pulled in to park, the driver of the car, a 60 something blonde, started gesticulating and waving out of her window. I got out, saw that the car park was half empty so load of spaces for her. As I walked into the shop she shouted that I was a selfish bitch and worse!! In the store I saw her in the aisle and mentioned that I didn’t appreciate being sworn at by a total stranger. She repeated that I was a selfish bitch and threatened to punch me. At that point I realised I was on to a loser and went home. She’d left a note on my windscreen for good measure, again calling me a selfish bitch. I actually think she would have punched me if I hadn’t walked away. 2 questions - am I a selfish bitch? Genuinely didn’t see her and car park was half empty. Should I have reported her to the store manager or are threats of violence a factor of modern life that we all have to accept?

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Clockyclockz · 29/12/2025 13:22

@PodMom I did that on purpose 😆, now we will have the predictable responses that 60 equals fetus.

Clockyclockz · 29/12/2025 13:20

@KissMyArt I know it’s upsetting and you may need to take a seat but 60 something is not young.

PodMom · 29/12/2025 13:20

KissMyArt · 29/12/2025 13:16

Where did the OP say she was old?

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She didn’t, she did say “60 something “. So now half of us can rage that mentioning the age is irrelevant while the other half can rage at the other poster for thinking that 60 is old. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I will take a while to decide which team I’m going to join. 👍

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Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 13:19

ZoggyStirdust · 29/12/2025 13:01

very different from what you originally said and makes it clear you did see her, did see she was waiting but decided you could nip in.

poor show

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No - I saw her only when I had committed to the space and was half way in. Decided not to play Russian Roulette and reverse out again because why would I? Because a belligerent and aggressive woman is gesticulating at me?

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Icouldwriteabookonmydisastrouslife · 29/12/2025 13:17

Passaggressfedup · 29/12/2025 12:21

Your choice of words would leave me to wonder whether you were actually quite aware that she was there before you and like you favoured the most convenient place but you chose to pretend you were fully innocent...

Let's face it, why would anyone, blond or not, in their 60s or younger, feel the need to be so pissed off if you did nothing wrong.

I'm taking the liberty to make this assumption because I've witnessed it quite a few times in car park, the suddenly appearing person who drive into a space that take that perfectly innocent, I don't what you are on about, when others mention their wrong doing when it was quite obvious they knew they pushed the boundaries of acceptable social behavior but had hoped nothing would be mentioned.

I don’t agree . My DD pulled up recently into a car park and there was a space and a car had just stopped past the spot so my DD stopped thinking he was going to reverse and she waited for a minute and he still just sat there , no lights on , nothing , almost like he was waiting for someone so my DD pulled into the spot (he was parked so far past the spot that she had no problems driving into it)

He realised and then sped off round the car park and found another space … 🤷‍♀️

People literally take the piss these days in how slow they are and how they expect everyone to just wait for them to decide what they are doing like we’ve all got all the time in the world … you snooze you lose !! Simple as that….

KissMyArt · 29/12/2025 13:16

Clockyclockz · 29/12/2025 13:10

OP you made the mistake of mentioning that she was old. Now you will get piled on and told it’s your fault.

Where did the OP say she was old?

MissyPants · 29/12/2025 13:14

Even if she was eying it up or waiting to park in it, you got there first, it's no one's space until you drive into it.
Reminds me of the silly people who think by standing in a parking space you are 'reserving' it for the driver.
Nonsense! She has anger issues and was completely out of order.

Clockyclockz · 29/12/2025 13:12

😆

PodMom · 29/12/2025 13:11

Belgian biscuits are half price you say? Is there plenty of stock?

Clockyclockz · 29/12/2025 13:10

OP you made the mistake of mentioning that she was old. Now you will get piled on and told it’s your fault.

notacooldad · 29/12/2025 13:08

Well thats around the houses story about half price biscuits at waitrose that you need to restock , convenient parking spots, the colour of the woman's hair and her approx age! So much irrelevant detail. 😆 🤣 😂.
I wouldn't have bothered approaching her in the store about not appreciating been sworn at. She knows that but wouldn't care. Just shurg and move on. I wouldn't give oxygen to this drama.

peacefulpeach · 29/12/2025 13:07

KissMyArt · 29/12/2025 13:07

You should've secretly followed her and licked it as soon as you got a chance.

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😂😂😂😂

KissMyArt · 29/12/2025 13:07

peacefulpeach · 29/12/2025 13:04

I know! A lady (40’s brunette) took the last olive roll, right in front of me, last week. I had to have a granary roll instead. I was apoplectic. But I didn’t say anything. Not in our Waitrose.

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You should've secretly followed her and licked it as soon as you got a chance.

Pavementworrier · 29/12/2025 13:06

If this story is true report it to the police not Mumsnet

peacefulpeach · 29/12/2025 13:04

Lurkingandlearning · 29/12/2025 12:52

Clearly not all Waitrose are equal. That unseemly behaviour wouldn’t happen at my local store. 😆

I know! A lady (40’s brunette) took the last olive roll, right in front of me, last week. I had to have a granary roll instead. I was apoplectic. But I didn’t say anything. Not in our Waitrose.

KissMyArt · 29/12/2025 13:04

DancingNotDrowning · 29/12/2025 13:00

Old enough to know better I would assume

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Yeah and if she was brunette she wouldn't be 👀

ShesTheAlbatross · 29/12/2025 13:03

Passaggressfedup · 29/12/2025 12:59

It’s a mild irritation at most - and not directed at the other driver, just a general annoyance
That indeed should be the reaction...unless you are a menopausal woman with adhd and an acute sense of principles.

I feel.just the way this woman did when confronted with entitled selfish assholes but I just about manage to hold it!

Not that much of an acute sense of principles if you’re going to scream bitch at someone.

IncessantNameChanger · 29/12/2025 13:03

The only time I have seen a note on a car that I thought was fair was someone parked vertically over two disabled bays. Quite a feat as it also went over the cross hatching in-between.

You have to be quite confrontational to put a note on a car and swear out the window. Whether it was in the right or wrong, . someone like that isn't going to apologise. Why risk a punch up over something so minor? I'd ask what I'd done wrong if confronted..did you just shout your a pitch or mention why she thought that?

BillieWiper · 29/12/2025 13:02

CarpeVitam · 29/12/2025 12:17

Why is her being a 60-something ‘blonde’ relevant? 🤔

Yeah I was about to ask that. She may as well have just came out with calling her a Karen because that's what she meant?!

Passaggressfedup · 29/12/2025 13:01

Her reaction was way OTT and she sounds horrendous but your awareness whilst driving sounds concerning
It's rarely a problem with awareness. More frequently a matter of entitlement and sadly, some do get a kick at passing others off and then playing victim.

I mean who cares enough to turn into a discussion on a public forum!!

Parsleyforme · 29/12/2025 13:01

I would’ve put the note (or if I had paper and felt tip, a bigger note) on her car instead. Threatening violence over a parking space is an incredible overreaction

ZoggyStirdust · 29/12/2025 13:01

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:33

Nope. She was waiting to drive in. But we were both there at the same time - I just had the most convenient drive into the space. You can’t reserve a parking space by looking at it.

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very different from what you originally said and makes it clear you did see her, did see she was waiting but decided you could nip in.

poor show

DancingNotDrowning · 29/12/2025 13:00

WonderfulSmith · 29/12/2025 12:18

60 something blonde

her age and hair colour are relevant because….?

Old enough to know better I would assume

Eyeshadow · 29/12/2025 12:59

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:33

Nope. She was waiting to drive in. But we were both there at the same time - I just had the most convenient drive into the space. You can’t reserve a parking space by looking at it.

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So she was waiting to drive in?

Her reaction was way OTT and she sounds horrendous but your awareness whilst driving sounds concerning.

Passaggressfedup · 29/12/2025 12:59

It’s a mild irritation at most - and not directed at the other driver, just a general annoyance
That indeed should be the reaction...unless you are a menopausal woman with adhd and an acute sense of principles.

I feel.just the way this woman did when confronted with entitled selfish assholes but I just about manage to hold it!

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