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Supermarket carpark rage

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Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:12

Just popped to my local Waitrose to restock on the Belgian biscuits (half price!). As I drove in I spotted a nice convenient parking space outside the front of the store and pulled in, only vaguely aware of a vehicle approaching from my right. As I pulled in to park, the driver of the car, a 60 something blonde, started gesticulating and waving out of her window. I got out, saw that the car park was half empty so load of spaces for her. As I walked into the shop she shouted that I was a selfish bitch and worse!! In the store I saw her in the aisle and mentioned that I didn’t appreciate being sworn at by a total stranger. She repeated that I was a selfish bitch and threatened to punch me. At that point I realised I was on to a loser and went home. She’d left a note on my windscreen for good measure, again calling me a selfish bitch. I actually think she would have punched me if I hadn’t walked away. 2 questions - am I a selfish bitch? Genuinely didn’t see her and car park was half empty. Should I have reported her to the store manager or are threats of violence a factor of modern life that we all have to accept?

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Lolabear38 · 29/12/2025 14:52

CarpeVitam · 29/12/2025 12:17

Why is her being a 60-something ‘blonde’ relevant? 🤔

Stop overthinking it. It’s detail and nothing more - just like being told OP went to Waitrose to buy Belgian biscuits. Not necessary but adds interest and detail.

WonderfulSmith · 29/12/2025 14:45

Ariel896 · 29/12/2025 14:43

I’m getting a sneaking suspicion that you are the same lady who was bought those creepy Bookends??? The blonde, the curse. It’s all a feeling the same 🤔

Oh those bookend were weird.

Ariel896 · 29/12/2025 14:43

I’m getting a sneaking suspicion that you are the same lady who was bought those creepy Bookends??? The blonde, the curse. It’s all a feeling the same 🤔

Northernladdette · 29/12/2025 14:41

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:33

Nope. She was waiting to drive in. But we were both there at the same time - I just had the most convenient drive into the space. You can’t reserve a parking space by looking at it.

So you did see her??

Twirlyhockey · 29/12/2025 14:37

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:37

Many thanks. Honestly really appreciate that. She put a curse on my and told me that I was going to have a terrible 2026. I only went in for some biscuits.

A woman put a curse on me once because I complained about the service in her shop. I am yet waiting for the terrible thing to happen. Maybe she's just diverted the large lottery win that was coming my way??

Whosthetabbynow · 29/12/2025 14:36

Chance of a kicking in Waitrose car park 2/10. Chance of a kicking in Lidl car park 9/10. Best off shopping at Waitrose although it does sound like some unsavoury characters were there today 🤔

KarriTreeSullivan · 29/12/2025 14:35

This thread is bonkers! Entertaining though.

I can't believe so many responders saying they agree with the blonde 60 something effing and jeffing and threatening violence! The woman sounds deranged and too angry to be behind the wheel of car. Even if OP had blatantly stolen the space she was waiting for there were, apparently, plenty of other spaces and her response was unhinged. The blonde would have been in her right to point out that OP had pinched her space and maybe she should be more aware of her surroundings and others in the car park, and the OP should have apologised.

Sort of coppery brunette/auburn if you like, early 40's.

Figsaregood · 29/12/2025 14:34

Because you are older and have more insurance ! (Thelma and Louise).

Clockyclockz · 29/12/2025 14:30

People who shop at Waitrose are well-known for their anti-social behavior and threats of violence, especially in the cheese aisle. You never get that kind of thuggish behavior at Lidl, Aldi, or the one true beacon of polite manners and neighborliness (I am, of course, referring to Wetherspoons).

I always find the nicest customers in Iceland, they will often ask if I want them to nick something for me too.

Kingsleadhat · 29/12/2025 14:27

CarpeVitam · 29/12/2025 12:17

Why is her being a 60-something ‘blonde’ relevant? 🤔

I was wondering this

Sixtygoingonthirty · 29/12/2025 14:25

KissMyArt · 29/12/2025 12:23

Thank goodness you told us her age and hair colour.

That would've kept me up all night.

😂😂😂 as a blonde in her 60’s I had to double check I hadn’t been to Waitrose today 🙈

WonderfulSmith · 29/12/2025 14:23

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 13:33

It certainly did piss her off. She tore a Xmas card in half (nice card with a Robin) and wrote on the back “Enjoy being a selfish bitch” and tucked it under my front wiper. I actually feel lucky that she didn’t key my car. Best posts on here are
the ones that say never engage with the crazy angry person. Never going to go in your favour.

No she didn’t.

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 29/12/2025 14:15

peacefulpeach · 29/12/2025 12:20

No way did this happen in a Waitrose cp.

Odd comment. People who shop at Waitrose are well-known for their anti-social behavior and threats of violence, especially in the cheese aisle. You never get that kind of thuggish behavior at Lidl, Aldi, or the one true beacon of polite manners and neighborliness (I am, of course, referring to Wetherspoons).

Note: The only physical fight I’ve ever seen between two women was actually at the cheese counter of an upscale grocer in Switzerland, so it was right to walk away after she threatened to punch you, @Cotswoldmum70 . You never know when out-of-stock cheddar is going to push someone over the edge.

Sudagame · 29/12/2025 14:09

randomchap · 29/12/2025 12:22

You would never get this at Booths

Hello fellow Northerner.

GrannyOog · 29/12/2025 14:05

Hoppinggreen · 29/12/2025 12:29

Sounds more like Tesco behaviour, in ASDA you would have got stabbed OP

My Tesco is delightful, only the most polite and well behaved people shop there. Now the local Morrisons, completely different story, stabbed and everyone would just stand over you on their way in.

JacknDiane · 29/12/2025 14:02

She sounds drunk

silkypyjamas · 29/12/2025 14:01

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:33

Nope. She was waiting to drive in. But we were both there at the same time - I just had the most convenient drive into the space. You can’t reserve a parking space by looking at it.

So if you didn't see her, how do you know she didn't have her hazard's or indicator on to get into the space and was just being courteous to you not believing for one moment that you would go into that space?!! That being said, I wouldn't have spoken to someone the way she did because of that, I would be annoyed, yes, but just might have discreetly taken something out of your trolley when you weren't looking and had a game of supermarket gaslighting 😎far more effective form of revenge served cold!!

Clockyclockz · 29/12/2025 14:00

Why do you think she was so angry? She was clearly waiting for that space. If you had checked around you more thoroughly before driving in, you would have noticed this.

She could be unwell, a mean bitch or just thick. Reacting in such a deranged manner doesn’t suggest she was in the right, well not to me at least!

CinnamonJellyBeans · 29/12/2025 13:56

YABU.

Why do you think she was so angry? She was clearly waiting for that space. If you had checked around you more thoroughly before driving in, you would have noticed this.

The right thing to do would be to pull back out, gesticulate your apology, exchange tinkly laughs and raised eyebrows. The exchange would have turned into a nice one, rather than something you're both ashamed of.

Lovemycat2023 · 29/12/2025 13:54

I understand exactly what happened - I like to either reverse in (or drive through) to be able to drive out forward and this happens to me quite a bit as I’m obviously taking longer to park. As long as no-one has driven into anyone else there is no drama! She’s a bit bonkers.

thedramaQueen · 29/12/2025 13:52

MirrorMirror1247 · 29/12/2025 12:15

You were there first and she's deranged.

This!! Please don't give this anymore thought - I know some of us find that difficult but she's not worth it.

notacooldad · 29/12/2025 13:51

*60 something blonde
her age and hair colour are relevant because….?
Just adding context. I’m also 60 plus and blonde so no shade being thrown.
What context though? It doesn't matter what colour her hair us or that she is about 60.

OP didn’t say she was Only buying half price biscuits. She was probably stocking up on other luxuries, and house hold essentials too.

She mentions at least twice she has gone to get cut price biscuits. As Op has gone into loads of detail about age, the biscuits being Belgian, conveniently placed parking spaces, hair colour and age, Im pretty sure we would have had details off all the items she needed! 😆 🤣 😂

The 60 something blonde should have paid more attention and realised the car park was half empty. Tunnel vision when driving is not a skill…
60 year old blonde was in a rush to buy reduced price Belgian biscuits as well!!

Clockyclockz · 29/12/2025 13:48

BoredZelda · 29/12/2025 13:45

Nobody gets that annoyed over a space someone parks in unless it has been clearly swiped from them. If you are honestly entirely oblivious to where she was and what she was doing, perhaps pay more attention to those around you when driving.

The 60 something blonde should have paid more attention and realised the car park was half empty. Tunnel vision when driving is not a skill…

SereneCoralExpert · 29/12/2025 13:47

BoredZelda · 29/12/2025 13:45

Nobody gets that annoyed over a space someone parks in unless it has been clearly swiped from them. If you are honestly entirely oblivious to where she was and what she was doing, perhaps pay more attention to those around you when driving.

that's not true.

Plenty of people are idiots, or faffers or both. If they are clearly waiting with indicators on ready to reverse, fair enough.

If they just wait there, or are further, too bad.

Use indicators for a start.

Seeingadistance · 29/12/2025 13:46

TBC99 · 29/12/2025 12:50

This is one reason why I park far away from the supermarket door and walk the 30 seconds it takes to get inside. Rarely any competition for spaces.

I'm a 60 something blonde, if it matters

I do the same.

Late 50s, grey hair.

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