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Supermarket carpark rage

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Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:12

Just popped to my local Waitrose to restock on the Belgian biscuits (half price!). As I drove in I spotted a nice convenient parking space outside the front of the store and pulled in, only vaguely aware of a vehicle approaching from my right. As I pulled in to park, the driver of the car, a 60 something blonde, started gesticulating and waving out of her window. I got out, saw that the car park was half empty so load of spaces for her. As I walked into the shop she shouted that I was a selfish bitch and worse!! In the store I saw her in the aisle and mentioned that I didn’t appreciate being sworn at by a total stranger. She repeated that I was a selfish bitch and threatened to punch me. At that point I realised I was on to a loser and went home. She’d left a note on my windscreen for good measure, again calling me a selfish bitch. I actually think she would have punched me if I hadn’t walked away. 2 questions - am I a selfish bitch? Genuinely didn’t see her and car park was half empty. Should I have reported her to the store manager or are threats of violence a factor of modern life that we all have to accept?

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HomeTheatreSystem · 30/12/2025 18:37

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:37

Many thanks. Honestly really appreciate that. She put a curse on my and told me that I was going to have a terrible 2026. I only went in for some biscuits.

😂

JudgeJ · 30/12/2025 18:31

peacefulpeach · 29/12/2025 12:37

‘You can’t reserve a parking space by looking at it.’

😂😂 This is very true!

On a sort of related parking note - Can a person reserve a parking space by getting their mate / relative to stand in it until said person arrives with car?

The actually happened to us when we were in a queue of traffic approaching a tourist site, the car in front pulled into a space and we started to pull into the space next to it, the passenger jumped out and started waving his arms, indicating that we couldn't park there, he said he needed his family to be together so we needed to find somewhere else, not exactly as polite as that. I continued to move forward into the space and eventually he moved, we were then given a mouthful of abuse, obviously we were racists, he was an Asian man. I said No, I'm not but for people like you I could make an exception.

dynamiccactus · 30/12/2025 18:18

carpool · 29/12/2025 17:43

Why on earth would anyone be waiting for a particular parking space in a half empty car park?

Nearest to the entrance perhaps. Or where they always like to park.

But I agree, it's quite odd.

LlynTegid · 30/12/2025 17:59

Age and hair colour is irrelevant. The person concerned should be reported to the police and DVLA as they are unfit to be behind the wheel.

JackJarvisEsq · 30/12/2025 17:55

I can totally see this happening at our Waitrose

The car park is always full of folk with cars bigger than they can manage and drive like Mr Magoo

Road markings mean nothing to these people and they always ALWAYS park nose first so when they reverse out it’s wild

Londonrach1 · 30/12/2025 17:45

She sounds stressful. You were there first. Meanwhile in tesco car park I saw an elderly couple get a drive through space but half way into the front space realized a car was backing into that space. I witnessed the elderly couple reverse into the back space leaving the front space to the backing car. Both couples smiled at each other when they got out. I was sitting waiting for dh so enjoyed watching it.

Casperroonie · 30/12/2025 17:40

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:12

Just popped to my local Waitrose to restock on the Belgian biscuits (half price!). As I drove in I spotted a nice convenient parking space outside the front of the store and pulled in, only vaguely aware of a vehicle approaching from my right. As I pulled in to park, the driver of the car, a 60 something blonde, started gesticulating and waving out of her window. I got out, saw that the car park was half empty so load of spaces for her. As I walked into the shop she shouted that I was a selfish bitch and worse!! In the store I saw her in the aisle and mentioned that I didn’t appreciate being sworn at by a total stranger. She repeated that I was a selfish bitch and threatened to punch me. At that point I realised I was on to a loser and went home. She’d left a note on my windscreen for good measure, again calling me a selfish bitch. I actually think she would have punched me if I hadn’t walked away. 2 questions - am I a selfish bitch? Genuinely didn’t see her and car park was half empty. Should I have reported her to the store manager or are threats of violence a factor of modern life that we all have to accept?

You should have reported her, shed is clearly a totally unhinged witch bag and could well go and do it to someone else.

m00rfarm · 30/12/2025 17:37

CarpeVitam · 29/12/2025 12:17

Why is her being a 60-something ‘blonde’ relevant? 🤔

Why is it wrong that we get the whole picture?

JillMW · 30/12/2025 17:35

CarpeVitam · 29/12/2025 12:17

Why is her being a 60-something ‘blonde’ relevant? 🤔

This tickled me! As a sixty something grey haired will my behaviour be judged more or less harshly?

Joeninety · 30/12/2025 17:03

WonderfulSmith · 29/12/2025 12:18

60 something blonde

her age and hair colour are relevant because….?

Obviously it conjures up an image of a certain sort.

Jan24680 · 30/12/2025 17:00

CarpeVitam · 29/12/2025 12:17

Why is her being a 60-something ‘blonde’ relevant? 🤔

Neither is the supermarket name or what she was going to buy.

Barney16 · 29/12/2025 21:49

Waitrose nearest me is full of lunatics. It's notorious.

UnhappyHobbit · 29/12/2025 21:37

peacefulpeach · 29/12/2025 12:20

No way did this happen in a Waitrose cp.

There’s a Waitrose in my home town, the customers aren’t posh. It’s just the only supermarket in that town.

mdinbc · 29/12/2025 21:32

I would have loudly asked if she was threatening me (making sure there were witnesses) and called police.

kurotora · 29/12/2025 21:18

I think people are just getting crazier and more threatening. I hear so many examples of it and I have my own too.

I was sworn at and screamed at and then run at/chased into the shop by a man at Lidl car park in October. I was shitting myself! My crime was to park in the space next to him when he wanted to have his door open to eat his lunch (?).

He was still waiting when I got back out and I was terrified I had to go back near him, but I set my jaw and did it. He apologised and explained he has “anger issues”. 😬

This was just a couple of weeks after my friend was followed and attempted blocked in by a man in a road rage incident - she was clear headed enough to drive to the police station, and that was the point he gave up!

Tyburnx · 29/12/2025 21:11

BadgernTheGarden · 29/12/2025 12:49

Only if you have scruples about running them over.😀

And this is why I no longer have a driving licence... 🙄

Username348 · 29/12/2025 20:55

I experienced a very abusive man at a petrol station once, so many years ago but he was very aggressive and called me a c*nt and threatened to knock me out. I’d joined a shorter row of cars for the pump, he’d picked a longer row but seemed to want to have ownership of all 4 rows. I just though I don’t actually have to put up with this bully, it’s a petrol station so all on camera, he was the driver of the car, so I reported him to the police. I said I didn’t want to press charges but they went and told him off anyway. Just felt sorry for the person they live with and their kids.

Owly11 · 29/12/2025 20:38

You said you were aware of the vehicle but parked anyway. So yes, you are selfish. But no, you don't deserve to be called a selfish bitch.

BuildbyNumbere · 29/12/2025 20:35

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:33

Nope. She was waiting to drive in. But we were both there at the same time - I just had the most convenient drive into the space. You can’t reserve a parking space by looking at it.

So basically you did take her space then!

BuildbyNumbere · 29/12/2025 20:35

Cotswoldmum70 · 29/12/2025 12:31

Hard to describe but space was at the end of a row of parked cars which separated our 2 vehicles. Her car was stationary on the other side of the row. She could have been waiting to turn left or right. Absolutely no indication that she was waiting for the space. But she was
bloody fuming.😤

So you did take her space then!

Muffinme · 29/12/2025 18:18

Whatever the parking situation she shouldn’t have threatened to punch you and yes I would be reporting it to the store and asking them if they have CCTV footage of her threatening you.

HoppityBun · 29/12/2025 18:01

carpool · 29/12/2025 17:43

Why on earth would anyone be waiting for a particular parking space in a half empty car park?

I was once sitting in a bus that was otherwise empty. I had my bags on the seat beside me. A woman got on and demanded that I move my bags so that she could sit on the seat beside me.

ThePieceHall · 29/12/2025 17:56

jamimmi · 29/12/2025 17:54

Goodness waitrose has gone down hill. Can I suggest Booths, much more civilised, even on christmas eve🤣

Also, THE best shopping bags by far.

jamimmi · 29/12/2025 17:54

Goodness waitrose has gone down hill. Can I suggest Booths, much more civilised, even on christmas eve🤣

Passaggressfedup · 29/12/2025 17:51

It's been quite entertaining how your posts have evolved to suit the narrative. I could see her, oh wait nobI didn't. Well I did but not until it was too late, but it eas her fault because she wasn't quick enough even though I just snooze in very gently without rushing....yeah....

It's quite amazing to read how many CF they are who seem to genuinely adopt the 'you snooze, you lose' attitude. No consideration, no care. They got the prize, they are the best.

I'm any case, it sounds like it was a win/win situation in the end. You passed her off, she shook you up. Twp people upset when with some courtesy, could have been two people smiling to each other instead.

Pathetic really!