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Long term marriage is like shagging your best friend

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Oneisnotamused · 29/12/2025 11:18

……..or even worse, your brother or your sister 🤮. I think most long-term marriages end up with this problem - I know some people are still happily shagging after 30+ years but……..how do long-term marriages survive this particular ick?

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ComtesseDeSpair · 29/12/2025 11:28

Having had sex with several of my friends, I’ll still be pretty damn happy if that’s how my sex life with DH feels in a couple of decades’ time. I mostly only sing karaoke with my brother though, which in all honesty I’m less keen to be doing with DH.

I’m sure there are some long term relationships which end up as two people mostly only staying together for financial security and because they don’t want to be alone; but it’s not true of many others, where both partners still love and enjoy sex with each other. If that’s not the case for yours then you need to actively take steps to nurture the relationship and your sexuality; or agree that it’s just not working any more because you feel “icky” and go your separate ways.

Weekmindedfool · 29/12/2025 11:27

Having shagged my brother, my best friend and my DH I can categorically tell you they are all different.

Anyway, off to therapy.

JHound · 29/12/2025 11:26

I imagine this largely happens when you never fancied your spouse / or no longer fancy them.

KimberleyClark · 29/12/2025 11:26

Yes, still fancy my husband after 35 years. I think it helps that we don’t have children!

Howarewealldoing · 29/12/2025 11:26

Very strange, I think that’s a you problem

ChabbaRanx · 29/12/2025 11:26

Oneisnotamused · 29/12/2025 11:18

……..or even worse, your brother or your sister 🤮. I think most long-term marriages end up with this problem - I know some people are still happily shagging after 30+ years but……..how do long-term marriages survive this particular ick?

Really weird view of things. Having sex with DH is nothing like having sex with a friend or a sibling (not that I’ve had sex with either).

And there’s a simple solution if you feel differently - split up with your long term partner and seek casual sex with people you’re sexually attracted to.

Chafing · 29/12/2025 11:24

Because we know every inch of each other and coming together is gentle, harmonious and natural. I can't imagine shagging a new bloke and him not knowing what makes me tick and vice versa 🤮
Still happily shagging after 36 years....

SweeetFannyAdams · 29/12/2025 11:23

Have you actually shagged your brother or sister then to be able to compare?

Most odd.

gannett · 29/12/2025 11:22

Just when you think you've seen the hottest takes possible on the internet along comes this.

UniquePinkSwan · 29/12/2025 11:22

After 20 years, I still actually fancy my husband. That’s how.

CasperGutman · 29/12/2025 11:21

Weird post. Long-term marriage is like shagging your long-term friend and sexual partner. Many close friendships become sexual relationships: shagging a friend isn't weird or taboo. It's nothing like shagging a sibling!