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Teenage daughter wants to stay alone on new year

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Candleinalantern · 29/12/2025 10:41

DD is 16 nearly 17, we have been invited to a party for new year at a friends which her younger siblings are coming to. DD usually has plans with her friends but this year does not, i have invited her out with us but she has said no and I have said we will just stay in and have friends over to ours instead so she isn’t alone but she is saying she doesn’t want to go out and she doesn’t want us in. If we stayed in she would just sit in her room all night anyway and probably come down to see in the new year and go back back up to her room.

AIBU to go out? She keeps saying it’s no different to any other night we go out and leave her in but I feel like I don’t want to leave her on her own even though we have already made plans and she won’t see us anyway?

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Livpool · 29/12/2025 10:52

She’ll be fine

YellowCherry · 29/12/2025 10:50

She might be feeling a bit rubbish if she hasn't been invited to any parties. I think you'll make her feel worse if you stay at home.

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Candleinalantern · 29/12/2025 10:49

I’ve told her she can invite some friends over, I don’t think she’s particularly bothered about it.

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HopelesslyNaive98 · 29/12/2025 10:49

This is totally the kind of stunt I would have tried to pull off as a teenager…

ComtesseDeSpair · 29/12/2025 10:47

I think her specifically saying she doesn’t want you at home is a bit of a red flag - I’d suspect she wants to invite her own friends over and is hoping she’ll get away with it whilst you’re out. But if you can ensure that doesn’t happen (or are happy for her to invite a couple of sensible friends you know over and can trust her not to try to have a party) then I don’t think it’s unreasonable for you to go out as planned without her - she’s a teenager, hanging around with her parents’ friends and her siblings for enforced jollity probably isn’t high on her list of favourite activities.

minipie · 29/12/2025 10:46

She’s not that bothered about NYE, that’s a good thing IMO, as she says, it’s just another night. Unless you think she’s secretly really miserable about having no plans and you don’t want to leave her for that reason?

Sanch1 · 29/12/2025 10:46

If she’s happy at home and not bothered then I don’t see any point in changing your plans? Unless you don’t trust her not to invite a load of people over for a party in your absence?!

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/12/2025 10:43

If you've previously left her (and at her age, I can't see why you wouldn't), why is NYE any different? Go to your party. She's not interested in going and she clearly just feels happier staying at home.