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To be sick of people saying "One won't hurt" or "You can have one!" to the designated driver.

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ChillingWithMySnowmies · 28/12/2025 19:58

Getting so sick of people saying this to me if i'm the designated driver.

I make the choice to be 100% sober if i'm driving, i don't think it's worth the risk if anything DOES happen and i get breathalysed, besides which, i also take a medication that can make the effects of alcohol more intense.

I'm always polite about saying that i don't/won't drink if i'm driving, which is nearly always as i'm the only adult in the house that drives.

Getting so sick of the 'you can have one' lot who try and persuade me to have a glass of wine, or the 'here try this, go on, you can have a bit' or "One won't hurt if you're eating" being constantly said to me.

If you're someone who does this, ffs, stop it, and respect the person has said NO.

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millymollyminging · 28/12/2025 20:39

I never get this, you mix with odd people!

daisychain01 · 28/12/2025 20:36

It takes a special kind of arsehole to start arguing with an adult who chooses not to put any alcohol into their body. They're an utter twat.

if anyone did that to me, I would look them square between the eyes and say "read my lips, NO" and then ignore them. Other than pin you to the floor and force a G+T down your throat there is literally nothing they can do.

friendofsadgirl · 28/12/2025 20:32

One of the benefits of the almost zero alcohol limit in Scotland has meant that this is very unusual here now, thank goodness. I absolutely hated the justification of others to try to force an alcoholic drink on someone else.

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ChillingWithMySnowmies · 28/12/2025 20:32

Icanflyhigh · 28/12/2025 20:26

YANBU. I abhor drink drivers and firmly believe that any alcohol when driving is too much.
There's no excuse, reason or anything in the world that will change my mind - I was taught that if you're driving, you're not drinking, not at all, mot even one.
I'm 47, I've never gotten behind the wheel under the influence and neither has my eldest daughter who is the only one of my DC old enough to drive.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not anti-alcohol, I LOVE a drink, but not if I'm driving.

Same, i'm quite happy to have a drink, but not if i'm driving. i don't see the need, and i'm not sure i'd ever forgive myself if i did have 'just one' and something happened.

I'm only a couple of years younger than you, and it was very much drummed into me too.. both by adverts growing up, and friends having accidents.

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Icanflyhigh · 28/12/2025 20:26

YANBU. I abhor drink drivers and firmly believe that any alcohol when driving is too much.
There's no excuse, reason or anything in the world that will change my mind - I was taught that if you're driving, you're not drinking, not at all, mot even one.
I'm 47, I've never gotten behind the wheel under the influence and neither has my eldest daughter who is the only one of my DC old enough to drive.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not anti-alcohol, I LOVE a drink, but not if I'm driving.

HighburyHope · 28/12/2025 20:20

Oh I hear you OP. It’s not just designated drivers either. I have chosen not to have alcohol for a few years now, due to migraines. Here’s my Christmas Eve:

Host (close relative): Mulled wine?
Me: No thanks, I’m happy with my mocktail.
Host: But it’s only 8% alcohol. Not strong!
Me: Sure, but as you know I don’t drink alcohol as it gives me migraines.
Host: It hardly even counts!
Me: Uh huh.
Host: We made it specially! Have a small one at least!

Etcetera.

AnneElliott · 28/12/2025 20:14

Yes it is really annoying. My sister in laws father nagged at me to have a drink the first time I ever met him. I was driving his pregnant daughter home - what a muppet!

Pedallleur · 28/12/2025 20:05

Just thank them and ignore or ask them for their car keys as you are going to have at least one drink. I can tell you now what their answer will be