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To expect a thank you?

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Stayingafloatish · 28/12/2025 19:39

I don’t know if I am being old fashioned, but growing up we always had to write to or telephone anyone who had been kind enough to get us a birthday gift.

These days things have of course moved on. I usually send a voice note/text/video from my children to the person who gave them the gift, but always ensure they say thank you in some way.

My DC has been to a number of parties for school friends lately and we haven’t had a thank you from any of them.

One of the parents said her dc opened the gifts so fast they had no clue who anything was from.

Do people just not do a thank you anymore?!

YABU: Saying thank you is old fashioned
YANBU: I always make sure my DC say thank you

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Stayingafloatish · 28/12/2025 19:45

There’s usually a token “thank you” as the gift is handed over, but I was alway taught that when you say thank you, you acknowledge the specific gift itself e.g. “thank you so much for my bath bombs, I can’t wait to use these at the weekend.” Or similar. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Catza · 28/12/2025 19:42

Did they say thank you when you handed them a gift at the party?
I get a separate thank you note if you sent anything by post but don't really understand doing it if you already thanked someone in person as they were handing you a gift.

BeforeSigourneyWeaverTheyWoveTheirOwnSigourneys · 28/12/2025 19:41

Don't they thank you when you hand the gift over?

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