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Sister hijacked my time with DD

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MyFrozenfeet · 28/12/2025 18:33

When my sister found out that DD was calling in on 27th to exchange presents and have dinner she decided it would be a good time to also call in to exchange presents.
I think we talked about it a few days before Christmas but i don't think I agreed to it. DD doesn't cope well with last minute changes and she tried to hide in the kitchen with her boyfriend and her dog. My sister of course found her.
DD was coaxed to exchange presents with her, her husband and 2 kids in my tiny living room! 8 ppl and a dog. It was crazy!
Sister did this last year in DD house but i wasnt quick enough to stop it happening this year in my house. I often get overwhelmed and confused by my sister.
I need to make sure that my sister doesn't do this again or it will damage my relationship with my DD

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TomatoSandwiches · 28/12/2025 18:43

Don't tell your sister when your DD is coming over, she only knows if you tell her.

KilkennyCats · 28/12/2025 18:42

onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 28/12/2025 18:40

Does your DD have additional needs? This seems like serious over-reaction on behalf of another adult.

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onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 28/12/2025 18:40

Does your DD have additional needs? This seems like serious over-reaction on behalf of another adult.

AnnaMagnani · 28/12/2025 18:40

How did your sister find out the date of the dinner?

Likely what you need to do going forwards is give her less information.

Snorlaxo · 28/12/2025 18:38

Just don’t tell your sister when you’re exchanging gifts with dd?

PennyLaneisinmyheartandmysoul · 28/12/2025 18:37

DD was coaxed to exchange presents with her, her husband and 2 kids in my tiny living room! 8 ppl and a dog. It was crazy!
what was crazy though? Your sister doing this, or did something ‘crazy’ occur?
Are these difficulties new for your dd?

Ritaskitchen · 28/12/2025 18:36

It’s actually good for ppl to expand their circle of comfort somewhat. Otherwise life can become very small. And presents are lovely.

outerspacepotato · 28/12/2025 18:36

You need to say no quite clearly.

Don't let her hunt down your daughter. What the hell?

Don't let her in. You need a spine to protect your daughter who sounds like she was extremely overwhelmed. Either prioritize your daughter's feelings even if your sister takes offense or keep being wishy washy and strain your relationship with your daughter.

Only2daystogo · 28/12/2025 18:35

You need to talk to your sister and explain the impact it has on your DD.

Gliblet · 28/12/2025 18:34

Okay, so what do you plan to do differently next year?