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To feel so lonely

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AngelWingsS · 28/12/2025 13:21

Sorry if this sounds negative, but I’ve been feeling really lonely lately. I’m finding it hard waking up every day feeling low and wishing I had more love and support around me.
Single mum life is hard, and it’s not how I thought things would turn out, I still feel a lot of resentment towards my ex, which I know I need to work through. I also worry that I won’t meet anyone now and end up feeling quite unlovable.
It feels like everyone around me has found their person, and that’s tough to deal with. Has anyone else felt like this?

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AngelWingsS · 28/12/2025 13:37

Newyearawaits · 28/12/2025 13:36

Hi OP
Single parenthood is hard but you must learn to love yourself before considering another relationship.
Also, not everything is as it seems. There are lots of unhappy people in relationships who aren't able to leave for a variety of reasons.
I raised my son alone and know how crushingly lonely it can be but having another relationship isn't always the right answer or a priority.
Please take care of yourself OP.
Small steps, moment by moment.
Embrace yourself and celebrate you

Thank you I do love myself though, ive spent years loving myself but it doesnt replace the feelings.

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Catza · 28/12/2025 13:37

When I separated from my partner, I certainly felt like I will never meet someone again. Well, that turned out not to be true but that's another story.

What helped me massively in the initial stages was to get out of the house as much as possible. I basically had something organised every day for about three months before I was actually able to stay home for the evening and not go crazy. I looked for social hobbies and my thing is sports so I signed up to a local CrossFit gym (great activity to meet some people, even if you have never held a barbell in your hands before) and pole class (amazing for self-confidence and a lovely girly support network).
I also set up a weekly video chat with my best friend. We couldn't meet regularly but we could join each other virtually on Monday nights and have a glass of wine and a chat after kids were in bed.

You need people around you.

SwanNecked · 28/12/2025 13:36

AngelWingsS · 28/12/2025 13:34

It doesnt read like that at all

There have been about twenty posts saying identical things to yours over the last week alone, OP.

Newyearawaits · 28/12/2025 13:36

Hi OP
Single parenthood is hard but you must learn to love yourself before considering another relationship.
Also, not everything is as it seems. There are lots of unhappy people in relationships who aren't able to leave for a variety of reasons.
I raised my son alone and know how crushingly lonely it can be but having another relationship isn't always the right answer or a priority.
Please take care of yourself OP.
Small steps, moment by moment.
Embrace yourself and celebrate you

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AngelWingsS · 28/12/2025 13:34

It doesnt read like that at all

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grinchmcgrinchface · 28/12/2025 13:31

AngelWingsS · 28/12/2025 13:30

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She means there are many, many people in your shoes on here.

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AngelWingsS · 28/12/2025 13:30

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MatildaTheCat · 28/12/2025 13:26

Who do you have around you for support? Feeling lonely is miserable but reaching out for help is a great move.

Life can be so hard and especially at this time of year. But that genuinely can change. Feeling strong as a single person will make you feel better than simply have a partner.

Talk to people about how you are feeling and if there’s no one around and you are feeling really low call the Samaritans on 116123, many of our callers are lonely, it’s unfortunately so common.

Take care