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Should I LTB?

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Gottobebannee · 28/12/2025 07:44

DP and I have been together 18 months. Both mid 40s. We live in a town at least an hours drive from a motorway.

We've done a few long distance drives in the UK. We've each both driven these distances in our own cars.

On the motorway, I use lanes 2 and 3 to overtake, else I'm in lane 1.

He is a lane 2 driver 😩

As well as being unsafe, he's got a 1 litre engine, so it's not as if he keeps up with traffic. Fastest he drove on our 4 hour journey yesterday was 65mph.

Yesterday I raised it with him for the first time, as we're now at the point in our relationship where I feel I can. He said he feels safest being in the middle lane as you don't get stuck between all the unsafe lorry drivers in lane 1. As we were driving to our holiday destination, I didn't want to push the matter and start our NY break on the wrong tone.

This man is wonderful in every way possible. But I'm lying here next to him thinking how to best address this flaw!

Any tips MN?

YABU- talk to him again
YANBU - LTB right here, right now

OP posts:
getsomehelp · 28/12/2025 07:55

He is a dangerous driver. Its a punishable driving offense (where i live anyway), wrong as per highway code.
65 in the middle lane would make my teeth itch.
I would have to say “I’m driving on the motorway, you are putting us in danger”

HelmholtzWatson · 28/12/2025 07:54

You're dating a man with a 1 litre car?

12345onceIcaughta · 28/12/2025 07:54

That would give me the ick massively. He sounds like a wet lettuce.

Rosealea · 28/12/2025 07:50

Nothing worse than a middle lane hogger. Get out while you still can!

Owly11 · 28/12/2025 07:47

Stupid thread. He gets to drive how he drives. You can't 'address this flaw' aka trying to change him. If you want to end a relationship over this then go ahead.

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