When to take the tree and decor down?

I do understand- I would hate to come back to sad looking decorations to all put away on the 7th/8th Jan if you’re working then.

He won’t even be there to enjoy them.

However, he compromised for you and this appears important to him for cultural reasons so I think you’ll have to let him keep them up.

Though if he’s self employed and has more time he can take them all down.

Next year I wouldn’t put them up so early.

He's already compromised, your go.

Traditionally, people here used to always say it was bad luck to still have Xmas decorations up after 6th January, so YWNBU to want them down before that.

Especially as it sounds like you'll both be away from home for Epiphany, celebrating it with his (Italian) family, so won't be anywhere near the decorations on his traditionally-important day.

If he insists on them staying up while you're away, then he can take them down and do all the deep-cleaning when you're back at work on 7th Jan.

Mabe it'd be worth having a proper conversation about this in advance of next year's festivities...

In my heart I’m with your DP and it should be the 6th but in your situation I’d want to come home to an early house.

Ive taken mine down. I never normally do it early but DH and I have separated but are still living together in the short term a
so I don’t feel very festive and also the cats kept trashing it

It's important to him, leave it up until 12th night. This really isn't worth it.

I took mine down on boxing day, but I live on my own and I've still lights up.

I'm itching to take ours down today but will wait till New Year's Eve. Like house nice and fresh for January.

I can see why you'd like to take them down BUT for me, his reason to leave them up is more significant. He compromised £ put them up when you wanted to u think you should agree (cheerfully/willingly) to leave them
uo until it's right for him to take them down.

could he take them down on the 8th while you are working?

Did he willingly help put them up when you wanted them up?

I cannot imagine this causing your first major disagreement🤯

I never take them down before Epiphany either.
Outside decorations get taken down on the 7th. Inside on the 7th but can go on to the 8th depending on how busy I am.
I hate decorations / tree put up too early.
The 6th January was a special day in Ireland - Little Christmas / Nollag na mBan - Women’s Christmas.

It has been revived a bit now with women hosting dinner for female friends and relations or women going out for a meal together to celebrate the day.

I'll do it on New Year's Day. I won't have time before then as I have to go and visit my mother.

This.

Twelfth Night is very British. But Epiphany is a big deal, especially in predominantly Catholic countries.

The tree will have to come down next Sunday but both our crib scenes will remain out on display until Epiphany.

Twelfth night 5th January

But he’s not even going to be in your house to celebrate the epiphany? In which case whether your decorations are up or not is completely irrelevant. You can’t leave them up till after January 6th when you’re back from your holiday - that would be illegal.

I usually like mine down for New Year’s Day, but might leave it up a bit longer this year as the lights are nice. It doesn’t go up until the first weekend of December so still feels like a novelty. I usually have lights and nice candles out for January and fresher greenery.

I would leave it up as it is important to your husband and he compromised on putting them up early for you.

I will take mine down on the 3rd or 4th because I am back at work Mon 5th and my job is manic so I won't want to have to do it once back.

I would leave it up as it is important to your husband and he compromised on putting them up early for you.

I will take mine down on the 3rd or 4th because I am back at work Mon 5th and my job is manic so I won't want to have to do it once back.

Well then of course it stays up. I know in Spain Epiphany is when they get all their prezzies; it's a big deal. You need to respect his traditions.

The decorations should come down by 12th night (the evening of 5th January) not afterwards, if you are going away before 12th night and will be returning after they should come down before you go away. Can you compromise and keep them up until the day before you leave. I think it would be depressing to come home on 7th, it’s all still up and it’s another job you have to do in addition to the holiday washing and the return to work.

Usually the weekend after New Year's day (depending when NYD falls)

Our tree is looking a fucking mess though and I'm getting annoyed looking at it. It's a beautiful, massive real tree but is so crispy and droopy it doesn't even look pretty anymore.

Can't bring myself to put it out before NYE but it will be down first thing Thursday.

I guess we've had the heating on a lot more this year as usually the tree lasts a good month +. Ours went up 6th December.

I go back to work on the 5th so everything will be cleared and hoovered on the 4th.

But not something I could get too emotional about. It doesn't really matter either way.

Keen to do it soon. Tree is a sad sight after Boxing Day. Time to move on folks

We’re back in work/school on the 5th so will take them down next weekend, I rarely have them up until 12th night but always after new year.
We don’t like them up too early either, was 14th Dec this year.
I generally agree with your partner but in your specific circumstances I would take them down the day before you go skiing because it will be horrible to come home to them still up on the 7th and have to take them down after work.

Mine stays up until Imbolc/Candlemas/Chandeleur (2nd Feb). Something to brighten dreary January. My tradition is that it doesn’t go up until the week before Christmas, in time for the Winter Solstice. I have only myself to please, but if sharing your life with others, I believe their views should be taken into account.