To refuse to drive even though I MAY be under limit?

No, I hadn’t read every one of her later posts, and I definitely hadn’t psychically read them before she posted them 😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️ my later posts were just replies to the over emotional brigade, nothing about OP at all.

I don’t need to be any clearer, I wasn’t giving her advice? It’s true, after two drinks you likely would be under the limit. Doesn’t mean you then have to leap in a car does it? As I clarified, a lot of people were saying she’d lose her licence, but that would only happen if she blew over the limit wouldn’t it? I didn’t then go on to state an opinion on whether getting yourself right up to the limit and then driving is sensible. Not once. This is what I mean about people not being able to separate fact and emotion (or fact from advice it also seems!)

You’ve still not shown me where I said OP should drive? Is that because you’ve now gone back and checked and what I actually said was it’s possible she wasn’t over the limit but still totally her call on what to do? Right.

You also said you can’t see where she said it in her later posts. You should be clear on how much someone has drink before telling them they are fine to drive. You literally told her below:

If you’ve had two drinks then yes you’re very likely to be fine (etc etc)

God, you’re not bothering to read a single thing are you?? I said in her OP.

She said “a couple of drinks”.

And oh look, that comment you’ve screen shot was WAY after my initial comment.

You’ve still not shown me where I told her to drive? You know why? Because you made it up.

I added some general context because some of the replies were so completely and utterly over the top. I at no point suggested anything about OP’s own situation, just general information. But you carry on ranting and raving.

Get back in your box.

Hi OP, sorry you had to go through this. I suppose the only plus side is that you have not wasted years with this man (an he man-child son). At least you got to see the real him relatively early at stage. Onwards and Upawards

Here it is.

You didn’t bother to ask her how much she drank, what measures etc, you just told her she was ok to drive. That is not just utter nonsense but very irresponsible of you. Strangers on the internet are people too, you know.

But they managed to say “winter” in bold?? yeah, ok 😂

Where did she say they were large? Certainly not in her OP, and I can’t say I recall her saying that in later posts (most of which were after my initial comment so not relevant either). She even said herself she may well be under the limit. But her choice was not to drive - totally and completely fine and is absolutely her choice to make. As I also confirmed in my initial comment, which you haven’t read.

I also never, at any single point told or advised her to drive.

stop making up lies to try to continue your utter nonsense argument

I have just read this thread from beginning to end. I’ve been cheering you on @Didntwenearlyhaveitall and then your brilliant son.

If you’ve had to shut yourself in the bathroom to get away from his insistence, it’s time to rethink the relationship. He’s not the one facing a drink driving charge if you are over the limit. It’s Christmas. If you get behind the wheel with alcohol inside you, you might as well paint a target on your back. He’s a knob.

Actually it’s an MN glitch. I often hit quote on someone’s post only to find that it hasn’t quoted them.

OP had two large drinks, you telling her she can drive was extremely irresponsible.

That is fascinating about food. My husband was breathalysed a few months ago after we were in a car crash. I would have been very confused if it had come up with anything as he hadn’t had a drink for over a week!

Well done @Didntwenearlyhaveitall If you had been living in Scotland, the drink driving laws are even tighter than in England an Wales. Plus - one unit of a glass of white wine is 125mls - not the size of a glass of wine in most cases - they tend to be at least 175mls or more.

Also, our bodies also produce tiny amounts of alcohol naturally from the foods we eat. It is very, very small amounts and won't normally affect us at all, but it was explained to me at a demonstration by the Police at the Royal Highland show, who had taken a stand there one year, that this was the reason why the blood alcohol level wasn't set at ZERO - as everyone tested would show positive!

Plus, you need to discount the first hour of drinking anything alcoholic as it takes an hour or so to get into your blood stream. So it would take at least 2 hours for 125 ml of white wine to completely clear your system, once you finished it.

I'm so sorry that your BF turned out to be a plonker, but I'm glad you ditched him and better to find out now, rather than further down the track!

We have the same and nothing to do with the OP but I would always recommend that parents of teens set up this family option on Uber.

It means that DD can always get home safely and I can see where she is on her journey and that she is ok.

People in trouble? I agree, I would help people in trouble. No one there was in trouble, just lack of planning and lack of responsability. Did your car break down and you need help? I'll come, I'll find a way, no questions asked. Did you make a descision but did not plan your journey from point a to point b and expect others to sort you out? You're on your own!

Yes. We have a teen account for the 13 year old.

I said very clearly that it wasn't relevant to this thread. I was just asking another poster because I was interested.

I suspect you were probably fine.

But I would never pressure someone to drive if they uncomfortable for whatever reason.

Just finished reading the last few updates. Delighted and relieved OP has dumped him. It was just so worrying seeing herself already twisted up worrying about how hard it all was on 'him' as she was locked in a bathroom being berated by HIM for not driving while under the influence for HIM to sort out his adult son for HIM!

Glad that 1)you're safe, 2)your car is safe, 3)your kids are great, and 4)he's dumped.

Well done OP I'm glad you got home safely. Your son is clearly a decent young man.

I am the same.

RTFT!

She already has!

Thanks! I was very pleased with my son turned 18 here because it was much cheaper for him to get ubers than taxis.

Oh my.

It would be dire for HIM if you lost your licence?

You're already elevating him and his needs in your mind above you and yours.

Give your head a wobble and dump this arsehole.