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AIBU leaving injured cat

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cloudbusting12 · 27/12/2025 20:00

Please give me your opinion on who is BU.
Dcat has an injury on his back leg which is infected. He has been on antibiotics for 4 days and has a course for 2 weeks.

Today we had to take him to the vets as the injury looked liked it has reopened. Vet said it is healing ok but Dcat needs to where a cone as he is fiddling with it.

Dcat is not a house cat and goes outside to toilet through cat flap. Can go out using cat flap and vet said this is ok.

Here is the AIBU. We are due to visit relatives for a couple of days and have a cat feeder who will come twice a day to feed and also dispense medicine.

one of us thinks someone needs to be at home to make sure Dcat is ok. The other thinks he will be fine with the feeder visiting 2 x a day.

who is being unreasonable?

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catontheironingboard · 31/12/2025 23:13

How is your cat doing now, @cloudbusting12 ?

chunkyBoo · 31/12/2025 15:28

I’d also stay at home, the cat is for life and needs support when unwell

Loulou4022 · 31/12/2025 14:51

The first christmas DH and I were together as BF/GF his cat started peeing blood on Xmas morning. As a cat owner myself I was pretty sure it was a kitty UTI so I insisted that we whizz him up to the emergency vet, 300 quid later we’re back home and I’m cancelling our Xmas plans to drive to my parents in b’ham as I wouldn’t dream of leaving an ill kitty on their own

Nannyfannybanny · 31/12/2025 14:28

You need to stay. We had my. DD cat to live with us, when she moved somewhere that didn't allow pets. He apparently got into a fight, his tail was degloved. We took him straight to the vet. He was operated on, portion of tail removed,a few days later,he ripped the sutures and an artery. Blood was spurting out, another emergency operation and tail completely removed.

fishfingerbutty · 31/12/2025 14:22

It would be selfish and cruel to leave him.

WinterWooliesBaa · 31/12/2025 13:23

It was mean of your DH to take the chikdren away when you had time off work YOU wanted to spend with them.

he was happy to keave your poor cat home alone.

what redeeming traits does he have??

Sidebend · 28/12/2025 07:41

A cat with a cone cannot defend itself and absolutely shouldn't be allowed outside (even if it can get through the catflap). It's also very prone to getting stuck somewhere.
i wouldn't be leaving this cat, if it were mine.

Eenameenadeeka · 28/12/2025 07:38

It sounds like the cat currently needs more care than just someone popping in to feed it, either a house sitter or cattery at the least.

Shedmistress · 28/12/2025 06:25

cloudbusting12 · 27/12/2025 21:08

@Shedmistressi will be there, my AIBU was about DH.

How does your husband think the cat will get through the cat flap if you weren't there?

Thelnebriati · 27/12/2025 22:07

Does your cat feeder know about the injury? I would probably refuse to look after a pet with a significant injury, especially if the owner had unrealistic expectations. Is your cat litter trained, does he have an indoor litter tray?

PurpleSky300 · 27/12/2025 21:49

Stay with moggy. Or, if possible - could you ask another relative to come and stay with the cat for you? I cat-sit for my Mum and stepdad regularly and I always enjoy it, they are lovely velcro moggies and they sit and watch Netflix with me.

caringcarer · 27/12/2025 21:44

I would never leave one of my cats if they were poorly.

bettyboo9 · 27/12/2025 21:42

Can you order an inflatable collar from Amazon?

Butterflymoth · 27/12/2025 21:40

You’re right OP, stay with your poor cat, they depend on us and we have a responsibility to them to keep them safe, healthy and happy. I wouldn’t leave one of mine injured either. We know them better than anyone and they need us.

Gumps · 27/12/2025 21:35

I run a boarding cattery so have some good cat knowledge, but not a vet. I think it is fine to leave him at home but you mustn't let him outside. The cones aren't quick release so he could get stuck somewhere. Also if he has an infected wound it is best to keep him in, away from dirt. If your cat feeder is happy to take on the extra responsibility of checking on an injured cat and possibly cleaning the wound with hibi scrub then I think it's fine. Otherwise a cattery is an excellent option as the chalet are sterile and he will be closely monitored.

Terriblytwee · 27/12/2025 21:19

If you live with an animal this is one of the responsibilities of that privilege. The cat needs monitoring regularly.

BrendaSmall · 27/12/2025 21:16

It’s so dangerous having a cat outdoors wearing a cone, he could get caught up on anything and it could strangle him!
stay home and keep him in

catontheironingboard · 27/12/2025 21:12

Cone is a strangulation risk. Needs indoor litter tray/ supervision; someone should stay to make sure cat is okay.

Hope puss is better soon, OP.

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cloudbusting12 · 27/12/2025 21:08

@Shedmistressi will be there, my AIBU was about DH.

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Shedmistress · 27/12/2025 20:55

So how will he use the cat flap if you aren't there?

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cloudbusting12 · 27/12/2025 20:53

@Hibernatingslothsorry he is will not be going out unsupervised, the cat flap has a lock on it so only when we are around to supervise him in the garden which he can’t get out of.

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RosesAndHellebores · 27/12/2025 20:49

Going against the grain. I think you can leave him, but he must stay inside with a litter tray. Providing yiur cat feedernis experienced and responsible

Caveat - my cat feeder is one of the nurses from my vet practice.

Hibernatingsloth · 27/12/2025 20:43

OP, while I think you've made the right decision to stay home with your poorly cat, I'm shocked that you're letting him come and go outside through the catflap, presumably unsupervised, while he's wearing a cone.
The cone makes him so vulnerable.

MyThreeWords · 27/12/2025 20:40

Surely if he is wearing a cone he can't go outside without fairly close monitoring?There must be any number of situations in which the cone might get him stuck or injured.

I wouldn't go away and leave him with just a twice-daily visit. Booking him into a cattery might be a better solution, because his health condition probably requires him to be restricted to a small, easily monitored space.

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cloudbusting12 · 27/12/2025 20:35

@Icanflyhighif you read my comments you’ll see I wasn’t thinking about leaving him.

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