In laws with tiny stomachs

I saw a post like this the other day

My MIL is like this. I love her dearly, but she has some very odd opinions around food/body size/greed and moral superiority. When she comes to stay, she will spend the entire weekend eating up and clearly enjoying my very delicious food, which has to be planned carefully for her (genuine) dietary needs, but also declares at intervals’I won’t need to eat for another week!’, ‘I’ve eaten more this weekend that I usually do in a month’ etc etc. So very sackcloth and ashes. Just enjoy it, no one is judging you (like you judge them).

She was here yesterday, and kept on about there being ‘SO MUCH FOOD’. Yes, Beverly, there are also 25 of your relatives here for the day. I thought they might like more than a single almond and a glass of weak squash.

Same here and I was laughing at the person saying their inlaws share a slice of toast, me and OH do this because bread in particular is really difficult to get down and feels uncomfortable but at the same time we like a bit of bread so half a slice is all I can manage and same with him

I seem to have unlimited space for chocolate though

This. I have just turned 65 and notice my appetite has really diminished over the past couple of years. One slice of toast for breakfast, a couple of crackers and cheese for lunch and a small portion of pasta with a salad for dinner is fine. However I can still put away the wine

My IL used to provide a decent amount of food but massively underestimated how long anything took to make, and were very relaxed slow at preparing meals - honestly MIL once took about 6 hours to make a pie! (Out of ready made pastry and prepared filling)
They would say dinner would be ready about 5.30pm .....but actually it would be nearer 8pm. It was a nightmare when the kids were little as they would be starving. After a few visits like this, I would go in the kitchen and start helping/suggesting what time they should do x,y z. Whenever they came to ours they were astonished how quickly we made a meal - well yeah, because if you're working or looking after small kids you simply dont have an hour and a half to make a sandwich or all day to cook a pie!

Yabu to allow them to dictate your food....
Get dh to go grab what you bloody paid for and eat it.

Inlaws are like this.

MIL has always been tiny and birdlike and has far too much to say about everyone's weight/size/eating habits. FIL is just tight with money, so he only eats once or twice a day, and wouldn't think to get in extra food for visitors. FIL thinks two teenage boys can survive on a single piece of cheese on toast each between midday and a 7pm dinner. He eats more in the evening, but barely anything in the day and DC are practically keeling over by evening! Disapproves of snacking because he never feels the need. Always has plenty of booze in mind.

Is that like Angels With Dirty Faces?

seriously though that sounds so depressing. Stock up on a few treats to eat in bed.

please tell me the ham and potatoes was today’s meal and not Xmas Day?

Bring food and cook it at meal times. Don’t request anything. Next time bring frozen soup / desserts (eg apple pie) to pad out meals. Or frozen cottage pie or lasagne.

Anyone else thinking of the lyrics “read your horoscope and eat some horderves” from the song Area Codes by Ludacris?

Pil used to do similar when their grandchildren were young, try to encourage the kids to eat sausages rather than the chicken...as that was for the adults... which goes against every evolutionary urge...to get offspring to adulthood to continue the race...it's completely unnatural.

😆😆 good answer

I sympathise x

I thought nobody would even respond
Thank you 😂

You all need to take the hint. They don’t want to host you.

In laws with tiny stomachs?

It was one of his best Ma.

Spat my wine out reading this 🤣🤣🤣

I'm sure that's the title of a Jimmy Cagney film.

My DM is like this and it drives me mad. Often says "I don't know where you put it all" when we eat out, and things like that. Just ignore it, buy more food if you're the one paying, and then eat what you like and ignore the comments.

Id just tell them 🤷‍♀️ sod being hungry.

Have they always been like this?

ROFL at horderves

Oh come on, suffer the consequences? The consequences being they're a bit dissatisfied.

They're not going to end up needing treatment for malnutrition!!!

OP as you get older, you just dont have the appetite and whereas when you're young and you stuff and stuff and it feels good, when you're old and you eat too much to cope with, it feels terrible, makes you feel very odd, sicky, unwell, really uncomfortable, not just a bit full up and satisfied.

OH was like this today, he can barely eat much these days, he's like a sparrow, but we were walking past various restaurants and pubs in town and I love looking at what people eat, Im fascinated by food and flavour and menus even though I cant eat much either, and he kept commenting about all the 'massive plates' and 'massive dinners' and how can people at that much!!

I had to remind him we used to eat like this, its normal, nothing wrong with it, we enjoyed it, but we just cant these days and he simply couldnt even remember us eating like that. Well we did!!!

In my experience with my own parents you eat less as you get older. I don't think you are being unreasonable in wanting more, but I kind of think your shock that they don't know to serve more is unreasonable.

@MidnightPatrol This is exactly what we get; endless comments about how we won't need dinner or whatever because we've had such a huge lunch, when it was something entirely normal. Then when you do cook dinner they eat it as normal. But all the meal planning is based on their ridiculous idea of what is 'a lot' so you then either have to listen to them going on about how all the food you brought will go to waste or go without. I really hope I remember as I age but I suspect whoever said about lack of empathy is right. You might want to eat less as you age but surely those with empathy understand it is different for younger people, or even remember themselves.

Surely you meant 'horses' doofers' anyway?

They’re just tight bastards! 🤔

We don’t eat much ourselves but we massively over compensate when we have visitors.

I remember being much younger and visiting my ex’s tightwad parents and hating every minute of it. There’s no way I’d cause anyone else to suffer from being cold and hungry as we had to. 😂