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Equality gone

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creeeepy · 27/12/2025 18:29

Over the years many of us fought for equality for women.

Equal rights financially so we could have our own mortgages, bank accounts, credit cards and own our own property, to ensure our property wouldn’t become our husbands upon marriage.

Equal rights educationally so we could attend further education, be plumbers, be carpenters, barristers even judges - perhaps professors in universities

Equal rights sexually so we could be in control of our own bodies, rape could he reported whether in marriage or not, the right to contraception and abortion (whether you agree or not) it was not in control of anyone else but ourselves.

Equal rights in the workplace, so we could be paid the same money for doing exactly the same job, so our rights were the same as men, so that we didn’t have to leave our jobs when we married so we received the same pension at the same time as men (quite rightly for men who were penalised for many years)

so many things had to be fought for, they’re not all listed here

but now

Women aren’t even recognised as being deserving of
the right to their own changing rooms
the right to female own hospital wards
the right to female on female searches
the right to female only nurses/doctors
the right to their own female sports teams
the right to their own toilets.

etc.

AIBU to think equality for women has taken a HUGE backward step?

For context I’m a very happily married woman who thinks men are wonderful.

OP posts:
TheKeatingFive · 28/12/2025 03:14

Its absolutely insane OP, agreed. Yet we have women themselves cheering it on.

Maddy70 · 28/12/2025 02:56

Boring ...can't you keep this you the correct topic area

Celestialmoods · 28/12/2025 02:13

I believe that women are entitled to protected spaces but I don’t see the relevance of mixing the trans issue with women’s rights like owning property etc, and I don’t think posts like this help the argument tbh. Trans people are not a threat to any of those things. It all just comes across as a bit crazy feminist which makes it easy for others to dismiss. There are valid reasons why trans women shouldn’t be in female
sports of prisons etc, but they have nothing to do with rights to abortion, equal pay and all the rest of it.

GarlicRound · 28/12/2025 02:10

BigYellowBus · 28/12/2025 01:53

Do I? I am not bothered in the slightest about trans women (aka women) using women's changing rooms or joining sports teams etc

The crux of many of those rights is a woman's ability to decide for herself instead of being forced to defer to males, having to ask permission as she wasn't deemed adult enough to know what was best for her. Not coincidentally, "what was best for her" would be what the man in charge wanted.

Yet here you are, deciding on behalf of women that they should take their clothes off in confined spaces with random males. If you want to do that, go ahead. If you want to force other women to do it, you certainly are opposed to women's rights.

~ Note: 'woman' in this post is used in its legal meaning.

tigger1001 · 28/12/2025 02:01

And that's the crux of the argument. Trans women are not also known as women - they are trans. Deserving of their own rights, but not in place of them.

and that's great you aren't bothered about women's rights being trampled on, however many of us are very concerned that they are.

BigYellowBus · 28/12/2025 01:53

TerrierCharmer · 27/12/2025 22:35

If you think that wanting to keep any of those rights is anti-trans then you have to admit that trans ideology is anti-woman, no?

Do I? I am not bothered in the slightest about trans women (aka women) using women's changing rooms or joining sports teams etc

GreenPoms · 27/12/2025 22:35

BigYellowBus · 27/12/2025 22:33

It must be at least 20 minutes since there's been an anti-trans thread...

Fancy, women wanting to talk about things that affect women, on a website primarily used by women.

TerrierCharmer · 27/12/2025 22:35

BigYellowBus · 27/12/2025 22:33

It must be at least 20 minutes since there's been an anti-trans thread...

If you think that wanting to keep any of those rights is anti-trans then you have to admit that trans ideology is anti-woman, no?

PositiveCat · 27/12/2025 22:33

YANBU but I thought things were improving since the ruling in the spring that female meant sex [at birth]. Have I missed something?

BigYellowBus · 27/12/2025 22:33

It must be at least 20 minutes since there's been an anti-trans thread...

Overthebow · 27/12/2025 22:31

Yanbu

GreenPoms · 27/12/2025 22:31

YANBU. It’s depressing seeing it all written down.